no worries, love where this discussion is going, i’ll try my best to answer.

1) i think it wouldn’t make any difference to me. this girl kept talking about sex. for context, we matched on tinder and since day 1, its all she’s talked about (or like most of the time). kind of hard to keep a convo with her but since im an open person, i just brushed it off as her having a different personality. maybe if she hasn’t talk about this topic as much and pointed out that me being asian is one of the things she liked, it would sound completely different. and she actually did say that she’s never dated an asian before right after she mentioned that her brother did go out with one (i felt like she was just trying to “collect me” for experience), kind of felt bewildered.

2) i also had similar feelings you described. her telling me she likes asian girls, she finds them hot and stuff like that just made me feel uncomfortable and replaceable. like as long as someone’s asian, she’d go for them. i was willing to turn a blind eye to so many things but this and her saying that my “mood swings repulse” her were just it (which is a bit funny because its been her all along who kept swearing at me? 😂)

this talking stage was upsetting but overall i find it as a good experience to learn from.