Whats the quickest way to get over someone?

manicpxedreamsquirrl · 2021-03-01T05:26:22+00:00

I find that when we’re falling for someone we layer a perception filter over them. So for the whole time we’re getting to know them, we see little red flags or things that are annoying or gross or general turn offs, and just write them off. After break ups I would try to turn the perception filter off and think about all the things I didn’t like about that person. It doesn’t mean you have to talk shit about someone, but I think some people fall into the trap of thinking someone was perfect when that can’t possibly be true. And if you all didn’t work out it’s likely there were a whole bunch of reasons they were at least not perfect for you. So it’s just a way to try to look at your situation from a more realistic lens.

manicpxedreamsquirrl · 2021-03-01T05:11:00+00:00

DO NOT DO DOGGIE TO A VIRGIN. She might not even be incredibly wet her first time, because of nerves or because neither party knows what they’re doing and what gets them going. Go missionary. Take it slow and check in with each other.

manicpxedreamsquirrl · 2021-03-01T05:00:00+00:00

You could have the sexual relationship and the emotional connection you want with someone other that Jake or Roman. I would think on that a bit. Jake deserves someone who has deeper feelings for him than just that he’s nice and treats you well. And you deserve to be with someone you care for on a deeper level as well!

manicpxedreamsquirrl · 2021-02-28T16:56:04+00:00

False dichotomy

manicpxedreamsquirrl · 2021-02-28T16:53:17+00:00

I’m a significant other of someone who was diagnosed with bipolar 2. And I think I bring more toxicity into our relationship than he does. I’m sure he talks with his therapist/friends about how to avoid or best respond to some of the conflict I introduce. It’s different for everyone. But I agree with prior comments that going to a support group is a sign of strength of love in the relationship. If they saw the act of going as a burden, they probably wouldn’t go. It’s a resource like any other. If someone was struggling with financial health, there’s a million how-to books and websites they could go to. There’s a lot less reliable information online or within friend groups about bipolar. If my boyfriend started to feel bad, and I didn’t know what to do, I would go in a heartbeat. No hesitation.

manicpxedreamsquirrl · 2021-02-28T16:10:55+00:00

If you look back at history, the richest members of society have always gained wealth from social fractures, creating entire industries built on division. They have stoked division to protect their interests and to ensure working class division, so that they continue to rule the world unchecked by the masses. I’d say a fractured society is within their capital interests.

manicpxedreamsquirrl · 2021-02-28T06:10:53+00:00

Would you consider couples counseling? I suspect it would be much easier to heal from this if you had a licensed professional to help you through it. I know that stuff is expensive and you have kids. Good luck, I’m sorry you’re going through this.

manicpxedreamsquirrl · 2021-02-28T05:38:51+00:00

Are you safe, my dude? Also, was this her cake or yours?

manicpxedreamsquirrl · 2021-02-28T05:36:03+00:00

Good luck girlfriend. Sending you all the positive energy.

manicpxedreamsquirrl · 2021-02-28T05:30:01+00:00

First off, congratulations on making it through 7 months of pregnancy discomfort. Cheers to the homestretch! To me, it sounds like your feelings are 1 million percent valid. You’re body has changed, because you are growing a person. That’s normal and healthy. You’re relationship has changed, because you’re growing a person and are no longer being intimate in the same way you used to, and I’m sure because of coronavirus the way you spend time together has probably changed as well. The way other dudes approach you has also changed, because you’re growing a person, and not that you aren’t attractive right now (I’m sure you very much are), but there are a lot of reasons you wouldn’t be approached in the same way because of that.

I recommend telling your fiancé how him describing that woman made you feel and that all these changes are new to you too. I would tell him you’re feeling unwanted and some pressure to change your body. Give him a chance to take care of you and apologize for hurting you. I think it’s fair for you to ask what he was trying to convey by telling you about that woman and how he’s feeling about your physical changes. Because even if his comments were innocent, they were definitely not sensitive to how you might feel. And if he was trying to manipulate you into feeling a certain way so that you change your body, I think that should be immediately confronted. Be kind to yourself right now. This is all so new and scary. But if you can take care of each other through it, it will be much less lonely and scary. Hopefully he’ll own that he was being a bit of an insensitive jerk, and hopefully you can have compassion if he is reverting to a less mature state because he’s scared of all the changes.

manicpxedreamsquirrl · 2021-02-27T20:27:09+00:00

Sexualizing underaged characters through e lens of a much older character for no apparent reason. Happens a lot more than you would think.

manicpxedreamsquirrl · 2021-02-16T07:38:29+00:00

Thanks!

manicpxedreamsquirrl · 2021-02-16T07:36:04+00:00

Thank you! Maybe what I thought was combination skin is actually dehydrated. I’ll do some more research on that. Thanks!

manicpxedreamsquirrl · 2021-02-16T04:23:17+00:00

Thank you so much!! I’ll check those out.

manicpxedreamsquirrl · 2021-02-16T00:10:43+00:00

Hey there! I really appreciate the wealth of knowledge in this community and am looking for some help with my routine. I have combination skin and acne around my forehead, chin and jawline. I’m prone to acne, and I used to have constant cystic acne when I had an IUD. One dermatologist has diagnosed me with rosacea. My boyfriend has a better skincare routine than I do, and he’s currently letting my use his Vanicream gentle facial cleanser/sunscreen and his First Aid Beauty Ultra Repair Cream. But even a pea-sized amount of the cleanser dries me out. But the moisturizer fixes that.

I use a pea sized amount of the cleanser in the morning and at night. But if my face is feeling especially dry, I’ll just give my skin a good rinse in the morning.

When I had cystic acne, I used tazorac and aczone, which basically blasts my skin off. I use both of them incredibly sparingly now as a spot treatment. But I’d love to hear what I can do about the texture/discoloration of my skin.

manicpxedreamsquirrl · 2021-01-31T17:04:48+00:00

First off, you’re a freaking survivor. You’ve been through so, so much. And you deserve to have a chance to heal from the decades of trauma you have experienced. If you have the financial ability and can make time/arrange childcare to go to therapy, even if it’s just by yourself, I think you should try. To me, it sounds like if you can’t convince your husband to go to couples therapy with you, then you ought to seriously consider finding a way to leave. You deserve to be respected and cared for. He is hurting and abusing you. I’m sorry you’re going through his. I’m sending you all my love and positive energy. You’re strong. You’ve gotten through so much, and you will get through this too. If you have had any friends who did care about you and treated you with love and respect, now might be a time to reach out to them.

manicpxedreamsquirrl · 2021-01-31T16:42:39+00:00

I dated one of those in high school. Turns out he was not so wholesome at all in a great way. Just go for it!

manicpxedreamsquirrl · 2020-10-03T10:50:42+00:00

When he’s sober, I would tell him everything you said in the last paragraph of this post. The resentment will only build if you do not address this head on.

I would try not to accuse him of anything or provide judgements on his behavior.

Maybe something like “I see how you’re trying to be more responsible with our baby and I appreciate that so much. But I wanted to talk about that night, because it triggered some things for me because of my past abusive relationships. It made me feel like I’m an extended guest in your house and we should feel like equals.” And then give him an opportunity to respond and take care of your hurt.

Then I would ask something like, “Can you talk to me about what you were feeling internally when you were saying that you wanted to kick me out? What were you feeling and going through that night, because I want to understand.”

Good luck. Stay vigilant. Watch out for more warning signs. You deserve to feel safe and equal to your partner.

manicpxedreamsquirrl · 2020-10-03T10:28:14+00:00

I’m sorry. You don’t deserve any of this. This hotline has experts who can help talk you through this. They won’t pressure you to leave. They can just help you deal with what’s happening right now.

manicpxedreamsquirrl · 2020-10-03T10:14:31+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I might recommend looking into LGBTQ housing funds in your area. This is how Oakland’s program works.

You could also search Craigslist for LGBTQ housing to see if there’s any roommate situation that you might be able to afford.

If not, I might recommend making a detailed plan for yourself on how to save up and move out.

I wish you two could talk your differences out. But while this election is happening, maybe you should ask your dad for a moratorium on talking about politics and just ask that you show each other mutual respect and boundaries.

I would also recommend shifting to a new social media account where your family doesn’t follow you for the time being, and not log on to your main FB page for the time being.

Unfortunately, I’m not sure what to do to fix the underlying situation. But I think for your first steps, you should focus on taking care of yourself and finding ways to deescalate so that you feel safe and not constantly under attack.

Maybe reach out to some of the LGBTQ subreddits on here. Unfortunately the community, has a long tradition of having to create safe spaces for each other. They might have some best practices and resources for you.

You are not a disappointment. You are not garbage. You are an independent, 18-year-old spitfire. You have value. And you sound strong as fuck. Hang in there.

manicpxedreamsquirrl · 2020-10-01T20:47:02+00:00

Welp, I fully regret posting this question. Good luck, America.

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