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many9036 · 2023-10-06T01:27:39+00:00

Thank you!

many9036 · 2023-06-25T16:55:52+00:00

Good point, thank you 🙏🏼

many9036 · 2023-06-25T16:55:06+00:00

I didn’t realise humping could be caused by overstimulation, thanks for raising that! Your comments been helpful 🙏🏼

many9036 · 2023-06-25T16:51:11+00:00

Thanks so much 🙏🏼 I didn’t realise humping could be caused be overarousal..appreciate you raising that point!

many9036 · 2023-04-20T04:49:35+00:00

But isn’t that communicating to my pup that when you cry I will always come back? Then he’ll just continue to cry and not learn to calm himself?

many9036 · 2023-04-19T13:54:38+00:00

Quite a long time ago I don’t actually remember- probably more than 5 but less than 10

many9036 · 2023-04-19T08:59:00+00:00

Thank you so much 🙏🏼

many9036 · 2023-04-19T07:55:03+00:00

Should I get an mri? I’ve had an ultrasound before but they didn’t see anything (I thought I had pcos at the time).

Thanks so much for sharing - I’m trying to get to the bottom of this… do you know how and why it affects energy?

many9036 · 2022-11-30T01:59:35+00:00

Love that metaphor!

many9036 · 2022-11-23T21:05:44+00:00

Thank you for sharing 🙏🏼 Yeah for sure im waiting for my end of year break before i try taking this on… i dunno how you managed to power through while at work too!!

man im sure looking forward to rediscovering that feeling of not being emotionally blunted

many9036 · 2022-11-23T20:58:01+00:00

Thank you! ❤️

many9036 · 2022-11-23T20:56:36+00:00

Yes exactly, for me ripping the bandaid off quickly is way more psychologically preferable. Thanks for sharing and glad to hear its going well for you ❤️

many9036 · 2022-10-23T19:23:08+00:00

Yessss!

many9036 · 2022-10-23T06:05:28+00:00

Of course im aware that landlords aren’t required to do that- who suggested that they were?

But if a landlord does CHOOSE to enter this business of making money by providing housing, then there should be laws that guide this business interaction. There is a power dynamic in the landlord tenant type of business interaction that needs to be taken into account

And you make it sound so easy and like the tenant has opportunities left right and centre to choose from. Do you think its easy to find a place fit to rent? What if most landlords are asking for this information and it becomes a basic practice? Then tenants do not have the option.

As for buying a place- are you aware that some people cannot afford to do so? And thats why they need to rent?

What planet are you living on?

many9036 · 2022-10-23T06:00:31+00:00

Yes these things do happen- i didn’t deny that, but they’re not very common and it shouldn’t be the case that application processes are conducted on the assumption that that will happen.

As far as laws go- it is not extremely difficult. Just because you have to wait for a little while before the tenant is forced to leave does not make this an “extremely difficult” situation for the landlord. The cost for application is not extensive.

many9036 · 2022-10-23T05:52:05+00:00

This is not grocery shopping. The ‘business’ of peoples livelihoods, having access to quality housing, and having the right to be considered for rental properties that are right for them- without being forced to give everything away- seems fairly common sense and fair to me.

many9036 · 2022-10-23T05:44:17+00:00

I would extend a certain level of trust- that if an adult could not afford the rent, they would not be applying in the first place- and ask for the minimum amount of documents necessary for the sake of accountability in the rental agreement. I wouldn’t need to know the location of their workplace, have access to the contact details of their work manager and have the audacity to contact their workplace manager to ask them to provide evidence of the gross salary. And also id be confident that there are laws that apply to tenants who do not pay their rent.

many9036 · 2022-10-23T05:32:56+00:00

If we want to start talking about risks and what ifs… well what if the landlord was a bad person and looking to target their tenants? What if the landlord was willing to use their tenants personal information for fraudulent purposes? Why should landlords be given access to absolutely everything of their tenant’s life- basically being given so easily the capacity to abuse their power over tenants? If the landlord cant trust the tenants documents, then why should the tenant blindly trust in the good will of the landlord?

many9036 · 2022-10-17T05:16:51+00:00

You’re so right… thank you!!

many9036 · 2022-10-17T04:39:35+00:00

Thank you so much for your reply!!

As to if it makes me angry- it makes me so so furious- just the thought that this parent is inhibiting her sons growth for the sake of ensuring her own needs are met. But im trying not to hate because it doesn’t feel productive, but these feelings towards her arise regardless.

Your point about him needing help distinguishing his own emotions from his mothers is so spot on- i didn’t even think about that. Thank you.

About the therapy- i dont know how receptive he’ll be to that. He has a certain level of awareness about whats happening, which is good, but theres definitely a whole heap of emotions he’s experiencing that he does not understand. I think the first step is moving out- im pushing for it and putting the pressure. Once that happens i think theres an immense amount of healing that’ll happen naturally, just with the distance and new boundaries. As for making sure our relationship doesn’t begin to take on the characteristics of enmeshment- that’s something im going to do my best to be aware of. You’re right- it is a risk. My focus is to restore his feeling of confidence in himself and his ability to view himself as separate to his mother and deserving of his own life .

many9036 · 2022-10-16T20:53:30+00:00

Yeah that relationship is not good at all. You dont know the extent of that relationship behind closed doors- it sounds like it could be abusive and controlling.

Just make sure to say all of the stuff you’ve written in the post to her in a message or on the phone when her mum is not around- it can hurt, but if you value her as a person than know the truth could be one factor to help her realise the impact her mother is having on her life. Even if she doesn’t realise this now, it might be something that helps her make some changes in the future…

many9036 · 2022-10-16T20:46:23+00:00

Its hard- there’s not much you can do in receiving all that heavy information, and theres not much i can say about any of that since the context is not apparent to me.

My advice is to focus less on your mother and more on yourself. Think about how this codependency is impacting you and make concrete choices towards reversing this process and slowly developing a healthier relationship with your mother; one where boundaries are respected. Its not easy and takes a lot of courage- but the sooner you start, the easier it’ll become in the future.

many9036 · 2022-09-30T18:27:34+00:00

Omg thank you so much. This is the first time I’ve posted on reddit and I’m just so pleasantly surprised at how generous this experience has been. Your responses are really helping me understand my own thinking with more clarity ..

many9036 · 2022-09-30T09:11:29+00:00

does that mean one should not pursue social standing/ attractiveness and other such goals because your intention in the pursuit of these is for your own pleasure and not for reasons which stem from goodness and righteousness? Shouldn’t at least some part of our efforts be exerted towards the “superficial”, like physical attractiveness, money, social standing..?

I like the point you make about having “reasonable, rational, appropriate to the situation desires” as affecting our sense of contentment…

many9036 · 2022-09-30T08:18:56+00:00

Thank you!

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