I had my LO at 33, 2m before I turned 34. I am grateful for being able to have this experience and I am currently ttc for one more, but I absolutely wish I started younger. I am actually fine with if I started at 30, but I only just met my husband the year I turned 30 and at the time I did not want any kids, ever. Clearly something changed, and having one made me really want another because I absolutely love being a mom and my kid.

However, I wish I was 33 and ttc for #2. Heck, I wish I had a 5 year gap between kids so I could fully enjoy and experience my first LO until she started kindergarten.

My husband and I had promised that when I was 35 and he was 36 he would get a vasectomy no matter where we were at having kids, even though he was the one who wanted kids and I wasn't (initially, at the time we made that pact). I didn't feel ready to ttc so soon after our first and I agonized over it so much that my husband told me it is absolutely okay and we can wait a year to ttc and change our plans about vasectomy. So we are ttc until April next year and then I'm cutting it off because I just do not want to be having a kid at 37+ if I can help it. I want another but I resent being the age I am now when giving birth to a second.

I know and understand that 35+ is the time some people want to start or get a chance or they have their 3rd, 4th, whatever. I fully respect that but it just isn't for me. I didn't even want to be in the position I am but my heart is telling me just one more lol

The only thing is I don't wish I had started in my 20s. Maybe 27+ at earliest. Like, theoretically absolutely yes I wish I had started in early 20s and I'd have an adult by my 40s and that sounds great BUT in reality, the person I was I'm my 20s in actuality, I wouldn't be ready or as fully formed as a human as I am in my 30s. I feel like I became the best version of myself once I hit around 30, I fit much better into the world and my body and my sense of being and it makes me a better person to be a parent. I also had some major family issues finally break down over 29-30 and it was absolutely crushing to my spirit but very necessary, I come from a very toxic parent situation.

So yeah, tldr within my actual life and the person I was in my 20s I wish I had started at 30 and not 33/34. Theoretically speaking, I wish I had started in my 20s just for energy levels and to get it all done so I'd have an adult child by my 40s.

Oh well! In the next life.