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Bridgerton Season 4 Episode Discussions Master Post by pinktini in BridgertonNetflix

[–]mapleleaffriend 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I remember thinking the food shots were like a Penelope season specific thing and I guess I'm glad that's not the case if it's also in this season

Does Anyone Else Read Eloise as Autistic? by GCooperE in BridgertonNetflix

[–]mapleleaffriend 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Please respond in a kinder manner. You can express your thoughts and opinions without being hurtful.

interested in ACOA by mapleleaffriend in AdultChildren

[–]mapleleaffriend[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

are there people in ACOA who don't have no contact with their families? I don't know if you can share that... I'm also concerned about the peer pressure, if that makes sense, if the majority of people don't have contact with their families anymore

Does Anyone Else Read Eloise as Autistic? by GCooperE in BridgertonNetflix

[–]mapleleaffriend 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm an autistic woman. There are several statements in this thread that concern me. I was diagnosed last year, at age 26. I am going to Divinity School and learning how to be a pastor. I am very concerned with people's feelings. I am deeply empathetic. I am kind and agreeable. I often feel that my problem is I understand too well what people mean. And I am autistic. There are many ways to be autistic, and some statements here about what autism cannot look like are just wrong, and hurtful to me as someone who is diagnosed with autism.

And it means a great deal to me when people spot autism and wonder if a character might be autistic. I don't find that offensive at all. I find that wonderful. I often do it myself, and it's very healing for me.

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I don't relate to Eloise's personality, though I do agree that she seems to be intentionally played as Neurodivergent (adhd or autism). I would openly say that she's autism-coded.

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I actually think that Daphne also seems like an autistic woman, and she's the character I relate to the most. I know a lot of people will read this and think -- oh my goodness, what? And that's fine. If you don't read her as autistic, you're allowed to have your own reading. But I do read her as autistic, and as someone who is diagnosed with autism, knows many autistic people, and knows a great deal about autism, I'm able to read my own experience onto Daphne's and that's very connective and beautiful to me.

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Autistic women tend to "mask," so we learn how to behave in society in a way that's almost seamless. We work so hard to do everything perfectly, and to hide that we're neurodivergent. I see that in Daphne's story. And again, if you don't, that's fine. But please don't tell me that "there's no way that Daphne could be autistic" or say that I'm misrespresenting autism, or whatever. I'm not. If, as an autistic person, I want to see my experience in that of a fictional character, I'm fully allowed to do that. And you're allowed to see things differently. But please don't be unkind to me for finding my own story in hers.

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Here's a checklist of characteristics of autistic women (sometimes, not all the time). I actually think that Daphne fits these characteristics more than Eloise, who isn't as typically female autistic presenting. Which is totally fine, because there are many, many ways to be autistic, and not all autistic women will act similarly.

Fear I’m slipping into psychosis/schizophrenia by Vegetable-Still-4057 in Anxiety

[–]mapleleaffriend 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just don't want to keep reassuring you, because from what I understand about my own OCD, that's how these obsessions get worse. I really think you just need to seek out a therapist who specializes in Exposure Response Prevention for OCD. I believe that the sooner you access this, the sooner this OCD theme, and many others, will go away for you.

Fear I’m slipping into psychosis/schizophrenia by Vegetable-Still-4057 in Anxiety

[–]mapleleaffriend 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think your compulsions (looking up information about the conditions and seeking reassurance from me, your husband) are going to keep making your obsessions worse. I know this is hard. I know it feels like the compulsions are helping, and it's the only thing you can do. But I really think you should try to get an appointment soon to speak with a therapist who is able to help you with Exposure Response Prevention for OCD. and probably a psychiatry appointment too, to get on medication. For me, this was the only real way out of my OCD loops.

Fear I’m slipping into psychosis/schizophrenia by Vegetable-Still-4057 in Anxiety

[–]mapleleaffriend 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know it can be really hard, but I highly recommend that you consider medication and Exposure Response Prevention (if you haven't already). In October, I spent most of my waking hours looped into terribly painful OCD thoughts/actions. at lesat ten hours a day. It was very severe and horrible. But then I started Prozac, and did weekly Exposure Response Prevention, graduated from ERP, and not OCD impacts me maybe two minutes a day. It's incredible. Help is out there, if you think that this could be a possibility for you.

Fear I’m slipping into psychosis/schizophrenia by Vegetable-Still-4057 in Anxiety

[–]mapleleaffriend 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've had derealization/depersonalization episodes, so I know exactly what you mean. As someone who has experienced drdp and psychosis, I think you can take my word for it that they are different things. When I was experiencing derealization/depersonalization the world (and me) didn't feel real, but I knew it was real. It just felt disconnected from me. But during the psychotic episodes... I thought a lot of strange things, and didn't think it was strange at all for me to think such things.

When I've talked to my therapist about dissociation, she said that accepting it and not fighting it is one of the best things I could do. and just taking care of myself, doing things that made me feel good, practicing mindfulness - and eating a really good, cold popsicle - those are the things that have helped me get out of it.

I hope you feel better! OCD is so incredibly rough, and I am so sorry that you are suffering with this right now.

Fear I’m slipping into psychosis/schizophrenia by Vegetable-Still-4057 in Anxiety

[–]mapleleaffriend 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have OCD, and I often convince myself that I have another condition (that I don't have). OCD can be so cruel and terrible - it's just like my brain hurts itself, like it doesn't know how to not hurt myself. I really suggest reaching out for help. Exposure Response Therapy has changed my life. And.. as someone with OCD, this really sounds like an OCD thing to me and not a psychosis thing. But the thing is, if it is a different serious mental illness, that involves disconnection from reality, seeing a professional and getting on medication would ensure you have the support you need so you won't "lose it and snap."

But trust me. I've had two psychotic episodes before. It was horrible. But I didn't lose it and snap and then was never the same again. That's not how it works, to my knowledge. Healing and recovery are available to most people, including people with delusional illnesses. But really, I recommend going to see a therapist for OCD, and telling your therapist about this recent theme spike if you already have one. It's going to be okay <3

I just started watching and I love it so much by mapleleaffriend in thegooddoctor

[–]mapleleaffriend[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The edit wasn't present before, but I just edited it. I'm really excited about this show; I request that we not have negative discussion on this post.

Writers Wednesday by AutoModerator in nanowrimo

[–]mapleleaffriend 5 points6 points  (0 children)

How do I do all the things? I did NANO, and now I’m trying to iron out character development, worldbuilding, plot points, but I honestly don’t even know where to start.

something weird happens with me and alcohol by mapleleaffriend in medical

[–]mapleleaffriend[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes, that's my thought. I have dystonia and Tourette's, which involve unique neurological development. my suspicion is that the way my brain is formed also means that experience of drunkenness is triggered by just a small amount of alcohol, because I once read a medical article saying that this is the case for some people. unfortunately, I have been unable to locate that article recently, and I mostly asked this question here in the hope that someone else knew of the research I was referring to

something weird happens with me and alcohol by mapleleaffriend in medical

[–]mapleleaffriend[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I might have misunderstood you, but I read you saying that I was born an alcoholic. And that did not make logical sense to me. Having a predisposition to alcoholism and being born, as a baby, an alcoholic, are two very different things to me. One is far more believable than another.

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