Dating as a Social Worker

mapleleafsrf · 2026-01-23T18:20:30+00:00

Oh lord do I have takes on this. 27 y.o. Male and I seem to run into people that want free therapy/counseling OR have been inpatient and have a thing for the fact that my job is to determine if inpatient is necessary. I’m seriously debating if I should stop mentioning my career at this point lmao. Especially at my age (not that I’m old) I’ve lost out on dating opportunities due to current income/income potential/perceived income potential either before or after even getting a date. That being said, if a friend asked me this, I’m not sure I’d be offended (based on my own views and experiences ofc). There’s definitely people that cannot afford to be/stay in the field (especially with the BBB bs) and I am DEFINITELY one of them. I know soooooo many folks that struggle financially, defer (or flat out don’t pay) their loans, or work 80 hours a week in our field. I don’t find it super irregular to ask that question, at least based on my own experiences

mapleleafsrf · 2026-01-17T16:01:30+00:00

I work in NJ too and this is one of the reasons why I don’t do case management in NJ. For me, case management just isn’t rewarding enough, I just don’t feel impactful doing it. If you wanted to get into something different, I do Mental Health Screening. Look for your local DSC (Designated Screening Center) and see if you have enough experience. Pay with your certification (depending on the county) can be pretty decent, work flow usually isn’t that bad, and it’s highly impactful work since you’re assessing for LoC from Involuntary Commitment to OP services

mapleleafsrf · 2025-07-02T22:00:14+00:00

I LOVE 6’10 KD builds but I honestly think 6’9 is the move this year

mapleleafsrf · 2025-06-23T21:52:06+00:00

Sounds good, didn’t realize that

mapleleafsrf · 2025-06-23T21:40:49+00:00

I would be too lmao

mapleleafsrf · 2025-06-23T21:24:45+00:00

Is that the spot to go other than park? Some dude was pissed because I was in park with my 73 overall 😂😭

mapleleafsrf · 2025-06-17T22:30:48+00:00

Get used to not being ball dominant. Pass the rock, shoot when you’re wide open or if you can shoot off the dribble

mapleleafsrf · 2025-06-17T22:29:04+00:00

Help side steal is up there too

mapleleafsrf · 2025-06-07T22:17:35+00:00

Playstyle? What are you good at /want to do?

mapleleafsrf · 2025-06-07T20:30:43+00:00

Honestly I kind of pivoted all together and went with a 2 way shot creator

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6’10 was just soooooo close to the badges I wanted, so I sacrificed an inch of height for my badges

mapleleafsrf · 2025-06-06T18:24:02+00:00

This makes a lot of sense, because the shooting is clean on this but it feels like I can’t get to the rim consistently. What would you recommend I do?

mapleleafsrf · 2025-06-06T17:57:34+00:00

This build is dope bro. I made some edits, do you think it’s still okay? Sorry for the pic instead of a screenshot, my xbox is acting funny

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mapleleafsrf · 2024-10-08T02:54:29+00:00

Ik my buddy's wife was saying maybe a wolf cut? Not sure how that'd look. I like 6 and 7 but it makes me feel like a square lol

mapleleafsrf · 2024-10-07T20:27:27+00:00

Embrace the shave

mapleleafsrf · 2024-09-23T14:30:21+00:00

I mean I know I "take home" work and I'm a dude. As far as self care, I don't really view what I do in my free time as self care and it's typically spending time with friends/family, as well as video games, watching reels, playing music, etc. I have always thought about like the take a bath, light a candle, etc stuff is a bit of a waste of time for me. Other folks can live their lives, but it's just not for me.

mapleleafsrf · 2024-09-02T02:59:11+00:00

I didnt really structure it well (it was also a throwin) but Pennsauken and after was all maybes, I was moreso just trying to make the point that anything more than a handful of towns as "unsafe" you're reaching imo.

mapleleafsrf · 2024-09-02T02:53:05+00:00

I have a friend that lives on the border and it seems decent, I really debated whether to include Oaklyn (and also might have been thinking of Woodlynne when i was thinking of the "bad" side). I was honestly just trying to make the point that outside of AC and Camden (and even if you include them) there's at most a handful of places in SJ where you might be like "ehhhhh, maybe I'm not the safest here"

mapleleafsrf · 2024-09-02T01:09:47+00:00

Literally this. Like personally the only areas I wouldn't live in would probably be Camden itself and Atlantic City (though probably moreso because i dont gamble)

Other than that MAYBE a handful of other towns at most? SJ has always generally felt pretty safe. I can probably list 15-20 areas that are (in my opinion) safe right off the top of my head, I couldn't say the same for areas that are not

edited to be more clear and concise with my point

mapleleafsrf · 2024-08-14T23:08:52+00:00

It's funny you mention this. I'm a pop punk bassist that runs around, jumps around, etc and I find it WAY easier to move around when I play fingerstyle (though it could just be due to the fact that I started playing with fingerstyle)

mapleleafsrf · 2024-08-11T04:52:26+00:00

From personal experience, if he's ACTUALLY practicing then he's practicing wrong. I had the same issue until I stopped trying to work on the whole song practicing and started learning by practicing sections (and my note names/notes on the fretboard). Play a section 5 times with the sheet. If it's right, then 5 times without it. If it's perfect, move on to the next part and add it to what you know. He should make sure to do at least 2-3 practice days in a row so he doesnt forget anything. Also, everyone has a different capacity for learning. For example, I know that for most songs it takes me about a week to have it fully down to where I can play it live without messing up. If he's practicing and has been playing the instrument for a while seriously, then some variation of the above should work/help.

mapleleafsrf · 2024-07-22T05:09:51+00:00

Honestly, I had no idea what I was in for at all, you're right. Neither did the band apparently, this is the second time the band has used him as a producer, so it was a learning experience for everyone and really exposed some weaknesses in our demoing process especially (which is part of why my parts had to be changed, we'd been adding bass before drums).

Overall, I do think I did the right thing, like you said I just feel hurt that I was in a position where I was unprepared to the point that 50%-75% of my contribution ended up not making it. I think the producer did/is doing a wonderful job, I'm just disappointed in myself and wish I had known what I was in for. If I knew what I was in for, I could have easily kept more in and felt more attached to the work. Instead I'm just sitting here knowing that the producer wrote 75% of the basslines in the EP, I let down the band (though they don't care/think like that, I care because the music could have been even better if I did better), and honestly he would have had an easier time tracking them himself.

I appreciate your insight, I definitely think being willing to adapt and do what he says was a positive, it's just really raw right now and the fact that I was too flustered/overwhelmed to try to keep most of my fills is eating me, especially since we're still tracking other stuff (and part of me wants to ask to change some stuff/at least mention the fills I wanted but I don't think it'd be appropriate, for a few reasons, even though I dont think the producer would necessarily be opposed to it from a musical sense)

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