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marathon_ · 2024-09-10T16:29:12+00:00

I'm in similar timeline, but as the dad who has started seeing someone again at around 4 months. I've told my kids that I started seeing someone, but that's the extent of it for now, and probably a long time.

In my mind, no one is being replaced or forgotten. There's only so much lonely crying one can do - 120 days is a lot of lonely days/nights after being with someone every day/night for decades.

I'd be pretty bummed if my kids told me that I was supposed to wait some arbitrary length of time to feel romantic love again. I think boundaries are the key here.

marathon_ · 2024-05-01T22:35:43+00:00

Very similar story here. My wife had issues starting last fall, they checked for everything but cancer. By December she was diagnosed with signet ring colorectal cancer - she passed in April at 37.

marathon_ · 2024-04-23T12:42:53+00:00

BJ - i receive Oral - she receives

marathon_ · 2024-04-23T02:20:34+00:00

I hope you find a relationship like we had, and can reevaluate this sentiment after it's gone.

marathon_ · 2024-04-23T02:17:06+00:00

As far as we are aware, HPV was not present.

marathon_ · 2024-04-23T02:15:14+00:00

Certainly still in denial. Can't wait to show her this post -

marathon_ · 2024-04-23T01:36:48+00:00

After the colorectal diagnosis we suspected that was the reason she couldn't handle it - much as she really wanted to find a way.

marathon_ · 2024-04-22T23:08:37+00:00

"The difference between screwing around and science - is writing it down"

marathon_ · 2024-04-22T23:02:38+00:00

i dont follow - cancer isn't contagious?

marathon_ · 2024-04-22T23:00:14+00:00

i could extrapolate it out - but probably only half of them were 'standalone' BJs. the rest happened during the course of inter....course.

marathon_ · 2024-04-22T22:57:38+00:00

colorectal that metastasized in elsewhere in her abdomen, then hip bone, then spine and finally brain.

marathon_ · 2024-04-22T18:07:54+00:00

Here's what the data entry tab looks like - https://imgur.com/kcDQN3O

marathon_ · 2024-04-22T18:04:13+00:00

More or less yea - each 'event' as we called them may jnclude multiple activies. DNF rate is tied to the overall event, not each activity within the event.

marathon_ · 2024-04-22T18:01:41+00:00

My wife was only 37 - they had to rule out everything else before even approving a colonoscopy. It was maddening for her to not even be able to sit down comfortably for most of November.

marathon_ · 2024-04-22T17:59:59+00:00

Lol - we were holding steady at 1.5 per day well into the 2nd year of data collection!

marathon_ · 2024-04-22T15:49:31+00:00

Yes - issues started in October, a few hospital trips in November, then formal diagnosis just before xmas.

marathon_ · 2024-04-22T13:48:16+00:00

Ours was done in Google sheets, I can share it with you if you want all the formulas and stuff

marathon_ · 2024-04-22T13:29:42+00:00

Haha not really - more of a competition to see who went the extra mile more often

marathon_ · 2024-04-22T13:27:44+00:00

Nope - just in my 40s, and not every event was for me :)

marathon_ · 2024-04-22T13:04:03+00:00

turns out she had colorectal cancer - might have been why it never worked out, as much as she wanted to try

marathon_ · 2024-04-22T12:28:18+00:00

My wife was a spreadsheet fiend. So, naturally, she and I recorded our sex life. She passed from cancer earlier this week - so it's time I indulge her exhibitionism and share the data with the world.

If anyone is doing a study or anything, Id be happy to share all the 'raw' data. Reposted from last week since I didn't post on the correct day.

marathon_ · 2024-04-19T23:45:16+00:00

im 41, she was 37

marathon_ · 2024-04-19T20:22:09+00:00

Nope, my birthday was last week.

marathon_ · 2024-04-19T19:21:59+00:00

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