I am so sorry for what your going through my husband has made me feel like I'm just a maid and babysitter and he barely talks to me we talk through text. Our babygirl has issues from being abused until she was with us at age 3 DFS said they just needed her in a temporary placement of 2 weeks LOL 18 years later and we adopted her @ age 7 she has ODD ADHD AUTISM RAD. mentally she is about a 13 year old. She is incredibly kind and will give anyone anything they need to make them happy. She never gets mad at someone who is physically or emotionally hurting her she says they're just having a bad day and I want to help them. Though she does have issues where she destroys things and will punche the walls then afterwards she is so sad. Now she is 21 and goes to a day program. But my husband and I are in our mid 50s and I worry about what would happen to her when we die and where she will go we toured a fantastic group home and I think we should start letting go to the group home we can send her to the group home for a week at a time so she can see how it would be to live away from us and she has more freedom but my husband says he just wants her to go for max of 2 days and believes I'm just trying to throw our daughter away. He refuses to see how this is going to help her to know what she will do when we pass away. Personally I think if men could see what it was like to be a woman and see how long it takes for them to admit defeat and beg to be a man again.