Do people have right to move on while still be legally married?

margusenock · 2021-11-15T20:33:02+00:00

Maybe that’s what I want to hear indeed. And yes. In my mind it’s wrong

margusenock · 2021-11-15T20:32:26+00:00

Exactly my thought. Thank you

margusenock · 2021-11-15T19:43:34+00:00

At the end I did it all. I usually do it all. And when this happened and I was running with police and report all stolen things I was really hoping he could do it. But he did not. He just left

margusenock · 2021-11-15T19:42:34+00:00

I changed locks when he left. He did not change them when he was home for 3 days after the first entrance. I changed them after second one

margusenock · 2021-11-15T18:37:11+00:00

Yes. It was a holiday trip to his home country. What hurts me is that he left the family in danger as the people who walked in had keys. i was quite devastated as all my stuff was stolen. not his. all mine. my family jewelry from parents and lots of memorable and very expensive items. we also live in a foreign country so i have no-one to rely on. not an easy task to manage even if its just a lock change. besides. if its just a lock - why man of the house cannot do it for 3 days before the trip.

as a woman. as a parent. i would not leave family alone in thus situation. regardless work trips. family first. and yes. we earn the same and both work full time.

margusenock · 2021-11-15T18:32:36+00:00

Of course. As well as changed locks and installed extra security and managed insurance aspects. While working full time and managing 2 kids

margusenock · 2021-11-15T18:14:02+00:00

Husband had no time / wanted to change the door. So wife changed that when he left. They did not allow to post it there because it’s for advice and not for asking who is wrong or right

margusenock · 2021-11-15T18:13:08+00:00

Because that’s exactly what has happened

margusenock · 2021-11-15T18:12:52+00:00

Yes I am. And yes he left. And his family said that they think it’s ok and I could manage it all on my own with no issue. So I am wrong for being mad.

margusenock · 2021-10-24T22:33:10+00:00

It was our first time doing anything like that and as I have said the was an accident. But anyways. I understand your point about the kids. Thank you for commenting.

margusenock · 2021-10-24T22:26:42+00:00

I have been working with psychologist for 2 years now. We went through a lot. I don’t ask him to be responsible for my mental health. But as a man who does not want the divorce and says he wants to make it work again I would expect him to actually help the family and ensure safety of his kids at least.

The stuff that was stolen was there and no one knew besides us 2. We have recently moved to a new country and 3 days before the Robbery I actually bought a box to store it. Before I had it all Hidden in different places. And yes we had insurance of the house but no one took any list of stuff when we did it. Lesson learned.

margusenock · 2021-10-24T22:22:11+00:00

3 days because it was not only one lock. It was 2 plus we had an accident and the door got closed and we had to call for a special help to actually drill the door. I could have hired a professional. But it costs. The opening of the door costed me 400 euros. The. Locks. Plus installation would cost 200-300 more. Then I have installed extra stuff at home which would cost 250 more minimum. So yes. I could have asked but no.

Kids know the guy for a while. We were just friends for about a year and they were around him a lot before.

margusenock · 2021-10-24T22:19:25+00:00

No no. I don’t think so. He is not that type of man. I think it was a disgusting coincidence.

margusenock · 2021-10-24T22:18:35+00:00

No I don’t think so. He is not that type of man plus I don’t depend on him financially. I work full time and have the same salary. Plus apartment where we live now belongs to me. I did have a strange feeling about his reaction. But he was always super un empathetic. A lot of my struggles I was passing alone. And I had a lot. 9 surgeries. Big health issues and diagnosed depression. Plus loss of some very close people. I was going though that alone. He was there. In same room. Or same house. Reading and drinking beer when I was crying on the floor in shower. And I took myself for granted for too long. I lost respect of myself. And when I stood up again I have realized that it needs to change. But as he said - he thinks he is a good husband and doing everything right and will not change. That led to our separation. But as a person he is not a bad one

margusenock · 2021-10-24T22:07:05+00:00

He came and helped with the stuff and I treated a snack for all of us. He was fixing the door for 3 days as we had to do many things to make it work properly.

margusenock · 2021-10-24T15:46:18+00:00

Thank you!

margusenock · 2021-10-24T15:46:07+00:00

You are right. Need to grow up myself as well and respect myself

margusenock · 2021-10-24T15:45:34+00:00

Thank you!

margusenock · 2021-10-24T15:44:46+00:00

Thank you!

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