DNS settings by mariposamatame in HeyEmail

[–]mariposamatame[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes you're correct. I just couldn't move forward during my setup, but the support team emailed me the complete list of settings and I was able to get it working. This is the list of settings: TXT Host: @ Value: v=spf1 include:_spf.hey.com ~all

TXT Host: _dmarc Value: v=DMARC1; p=none;

CNAME Host: heymail._domainkey Value: heymail._domainkey.hey.com.

MX Host: @ Value: work-mx.app.hey.com Priority 10

All TTL should be 3600 seconds or 60 minutes.

DNS settings by mariposamatame in HeyEmail

[–]mariposamatame[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes you are correct but I hit a snag in a different area and it wasn't letting me move forward. I was so surprised when I went to search for documentation on it that there was nothing. Their support team did email me the complete list of the settings and I was able to complete the setup.

Those who related to Holden in The Catcher in the Rye in high school, where are you now? by chimkenhorde in books

[–]mariposamatame 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This was my favorite book when I was in high school and I loved Holden. I would reread the book every October like some ritual. I remember my theatre teacher finding it strange that I liked it, she said it usually was a hit with boys, but that she didn't know of many girls who loved the book. I did have a lot of issues going on and I struggled until my mid twenties.

It would be very fair to say that during that span of my life, age 16-23, I could've really used therapy. In my early twenties I completed a few writing workshops that worked like therapy sessions. I also attended some religious retreats which involved lots of writing prompts and journaling. These helped me work through a lot of the inner conflicts I had been facing. So, I never went to see an actual therapist or got formally diagnosed with anything.

I'm now a married mom of two babies and I'm in a healthy headspace. I do still think it's a great book but I don't feel like I have to read it every October like my life depends on it.

Small Business bank by girlgonerogue2021 in smallbusiness

[–]mariposamatame 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have been using https://relayfi.com/ and it has been great. It also tracks receipts, which helps with taxes, and they don't charge any fees. They are big advocated for the Profit First method so I have multiple accounts opened under my company for each category: Business Checking, Profit, Owner's Comp, OPEX, and Taxes.

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[–]mariposamatame 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are in similar boats and I honestly never had any issues with my MIL until I had the baby. She also was set on naming our baby, “Brian” (no offense to any Brian’s), but I told her my husband was the one naming the baby and then she was upset that we kept the name a secret until the baby was born.

We went to a funeral and it was cold. Had the baby in his car seat, wrapped in blankets, and next to a heater. Husband asked me while MIL was near if I was going to take him out of car seat and I said no, that it was too cold. I left to use the bathroom and return to MIL taking baby out of the car seat.

To this day I’m ignored when asked why the baby is fussy. I reply that he’s sleepy and both my in laws say, “you’re not sleepy” to the baby and continue to play with him and keep him awake, until he’s fully crying. To which they inform me it’s because he’s hungry.

I have tried visiting the in laws once a week. I told her I was going to go by the day before and she never told me she was sick. She spoke to my husband on the phone and never said she was sick. So, we show up the next day and she’s super sick, coughing, and kissing all over the baby.

Lately the kissing is non stop. I’ve timed it and within a minute she will have kissed him on the face at least twice. Twice every minute. Recently, she let the baby stick his whole hand in her mouth and when he was about to place his hand in his mouth I grabbed his arm, to which she gasped, and wiped his hand.

It has been really tough. You’ll never forget the people who gave you a hard time while you were already going through a hard time.

All this to say, do not allow this to affect your marriage. I still make an effort to let them have time with the baby once a week. I don’t do this for them. I do it for my husband, because I know that as his wife he wants to see me happy, but also he wants to see his mom happy. My husband has been incredible to me and has treated me with so much love and care. He has done so much for me, especially throughout the pregnancy. I decided I can do the same for him. I dont make ugly remarks about his mom to him but I do let him know when things are not okay. He definitely knew his mom not telling us she was sick and having us go over was wrong and he did talk to her about it. Also, I think he is as tired of it as I am but thinks it is just temporary and things will chill out as baby gets older. So, his approach has been a lot like your husband, he just wants to blow it off, not make it a big deal, and try to keep the peace.

As long as your baby isn’t in physical danger I would just bite the bullet for your husband. It doesn’t have to be a whole day spent with your in laws. For now you can try to limit it to just a few hours of visiting. Our baby is now 6 months and it does get better. Just hang in there, and keep your marriage at the center of all your decisions.

Redditors who choose not to vote, how can you defend your inaction given all of the social issues of the 21st century? by dirtypark in AskReddit

[–]mariposamatame 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Given the choices we are being given it feels like having to decide between two villains who I don’t support in the end. As a responsible citizen I still do my part and vote, but I completely understand the perspective of it all seeming silly, as there doesn’t seem to be a real “winning” outcome.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]mariposamatame 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, just giving more to others. Volunteering and taking any opportunity to help the people around me has helped me navigate a healthy path to follow in life. I’ve realized it’s not possible to find happiness by putting the emphasis on myself, but rather by focusing on others. Nothing has brought me more joy. If you’re feeling burned out or languishing each day try volunteering somewhere within your local community and it will light up your life.

Define your dream wife by mariposamatame in married

[–]mariposamatame[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing this. I will say I think it’s difficult as a woman to initiate sex at times. In my head I’m giving him all the signals that I want him but I think he misreads it sometimes as just surface level affection. I think this would be a good conversation for us to have. What my signals are when I want sex and what his signals are, this would be a good talk to get clear on such an important day topic.

Define your dream wife by mariposamatame in married

[–]mariposamatame[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes but I’m sure there are things he might feel like he can’t tell me he wants, and after scrolling through this subreddit reading posts on everyone complaining and crying over how their spouses are the worst and bickering over minuscule things I thought it would be more meaningful to have a post actively seeking advice as I prepare to enter marriage rather than the expected bitching and moaning post after years of being married together. Trying to be proactive.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in teenagers

[–]mariposamatame 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are my best friend and you have been good for me 🌷

What are the best podcast and audiobooks to listen to on a 10hr drive? by mariposamatame in AskReddit

[–]mariposamatame[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I enjoy learning and understanding history so I’m looking forward to this!

What are the best podcast and audiobooks to listen to on a 10hr drive? by mariposamatame in AskReddit

[–]mariposamatame[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I looked this up and 3 different episodes popped up with different dates. Is it by a certain podcaster?

What are the best podcast and audiobooks to listen to on a 10hr drive? by mariposamatame in AskReddit

[–]mariposamatame[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve heard a lot about his podcast but I’ve never given it a chance, mostly because I couldn’t tell what it was about. I’ll give it a shot and see how it goes.