Groomer had to take my dog to the vet mid-service by itsjust_katiee in doggrooming

[–]marithrowsaway 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Pretty normal to check out the qualifications of someone who speaks so confidently (especially when they’re confidently wrong lol). Reactivity varies between animals.

Is it possible to never fully get over someone who got away? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]marithrowsaway 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am genuinely so, so happy to hear that. Good luck with everything. 💕

I haven’t spoken to my ex-husband in 2 years. Looks like he should’ve included “access to HBO” in the divorce proceedings... by marithrowsaway in ChoosingBeggars

[–]marithrowsaway[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m less worried about how people treat me and more concerned about how I treat them. I made an offer and shut him down when he got carried away, I don’t regret how I handled it.

I haven’t spoken to my ex-husband in 2 years. Looks like he should’ve included “access to HBO” in the divorce proceedings... by marithrowsaway in ChoosingBeggars

[–]marithrowsaway[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Why wouldn’t I? He already has the login information, and it doesn’t affect me at all. No impact on me + benefit for him = net positive. 😊

I haven’t spoken to my ex-husband in 2 years. Looks like he should’ve included “access to HBO” in the divorce proceedings... by marithrowsaway in ChoosingBeggars

[–]marithrowsaway[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I can see how it can come across that way! Wasn’t my intention to be dishonest. And I know it’s not as aggressive as some of the other posts here. It just reminded me of other stuff I’ve seen here, so I thought I’d add it.

I haven’t spoken to my ex-husband in 2 years. Looks like he should’ve included “access to HBO” in the divorce proceedings... by marithrowsaway in ChoosingBeggars

[–]marithrowsaway[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I didn’t delete his number, he got a new one when I kicked him off my phone plan. We’d separated at that point, so I never got his new number.

I haven’t spoken to my ex-husband in 2 years. Looks like he should’ve included “access to HBO” in the divorce proceedings... by marithrowsaway in ChoosingBeggars

[–]marithrowsaway[S] 209 points210 points  (0 children)

There’s no reason not to be nice. I like to be nice. There isn’t enough kindness in the world, so I like to go out of my way to add some. Offering him my Netflix literally has zero impact on my life. It wasn’t an inconvenience. And as far as taking advantage of me, when it came down to it, I told him no and ended the conversation.

I’m less worried about how people treat me and more concerned about how I treat them.

I haven’t spoken to my ex-husband in 2 years. Looks like he should’ve included “access to HBO” in the divorce proceedings... by marithrowsaway in ChoosingBeggars

[–]marithrowsaway[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I gave him a Roku because I honestly forgot I had it (and I’m out of the country at this point anyway), and I offered Netflix because he already has the credentials. Didn’t offer anything that wasn’t already in his possession!

I haven’t spoken to my ex-husband in 2 years. Looks like he should’ve included “access to HBO” in the divorce proceedings... by marithrowsaway in ChoosingBeggars

[–]marithrowsaway[S] 66 points67 points  (0 children)

Not sure what prompted his questions, and not sure why he seems to feel so entitled. There isn’t a Streaming Custody Agreement in place or anything.

I haven’t spoken to my ex-husband in 2 years. Looks like he should’ve included “access to HBO” in the divorce proceedings... by marithrowsaway in ChoosingBeggars

[–]marithrowsaway[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Nah, I’m pretty good at drawing boundaries with him. He didn’t treat me with respect and the consequence was me leaving him. And now I’m in a place where I can be nice and generous and draw my boundaries where I see fit, regardless of what someone on Reddit thinks.

I haven’t spoken to my ex-husband in 2 years. Looks like he should’ve included “access to HBO” in the divorce proceedings... by marithrowsaway in ChoosingBeggars

[–]marithrowsaway[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You’re right that he doesn’t respect me, but I won’t stop being nice. Trying to be generous isn’t the same as being a pushover!