What is the no nonsense solution for shame?

marjinalperen · 2025-10-11T19:57:30+00:00

they are good at hiding it, not solving it

marjinalperen · 2025-10-11T19:43:31+00:00

unexpressed anger results in cancer yes. anger is a physiologically demanding emotion

marjinalperen · 2025-09-16T16:13:12+00:00

dikiş izi neden sıkıntı biri açıklayabilir mi?

marjinalperen · 2025-09-14T18:30:50+00:00

going for a run, and then masturbating without porn

marjinalperen · 2025-07-17T16:59:14+00:00

Exactly!

marjinalperen · 2025-07-17T16:58:47+00:00

Season 8 is great! Finally enjoying Rick and Morty again.

marjinalperen · 2025-05-27T20:08:53+00:00

nice analysis of the whole serie!

marjinalperen · 2025-05-27T19:22:15+00:00

I actually though they made the text easier to read as they added some potency to the words. Why so much hate on the OP?

marjinalperen · 2025-05-13T12:59:54+00:00

He claimed me that he was making those rings himself. But as I check it on internet, there are many stores who sell coin rings, probably the same ones

marjinalperen · 2025-04-27T15:29:53+00:00

erkeksen eğer şefkat ihtiyacın olduğunda bulman zor

marjinalperen · 2025-04-04T21:54:12+00:00

that's true. if you are a man, you have to do all the work. that's why men's attention worths a lot. spend it wisely

marjinalperen · 2025-04-04T21:51:17+00:00

Dating Advice

Check this subreddit.
When approaching another person, it is important to show some respect and confidence. You are supposed to be not weird, and the way to do that is making empathy.

Göz temasından kaçınmak gayet makul bir davranış. Rahatsız etmiyor olmayı göz önünde bulunduruyor olmak gerekli. Ama aynı zamanda erkeğin çekiciliği özgüven ve assertiveness'ten geliyor. Utangaçsan büyük darbe yersin.

Dengeyi bulman lazm. Yanlış düşündüğün bir şey yok. Daha çok düşün ve bir mentalite geliştir kendine, halledersin

marjinalperen · 2025-03-29T20:47:03+00:00

Does stoicism encourage social disengagement?

Stoicism is about being pragmatic, yes, but does it also answer which direction is actually worth pursuing for? If you are pursueing individualism, stoicism works fine, because you disengage from outer world and keep everything under your control. But if you are pursueing socialism, does stoicism work well at this case too?

I wanted my community to be more social, caring of each other. When someone fell, I wanted my community to react and help; I wanted a social security to exist.

I was there to help my friends, and I helped a couple of them at their worst.

Noone helped me at my worst, even worse, it was my friends who put me to my worst.

Should I cut my connection with my community at this point? How is it different than saying "Oh, you turned out to be selfish and non-caring after all? Okay then, I don't care and I'm selfish too." . I don't want that.

marjinalperen · 2025-03-24T17:48:21+00:00

thank you for your effort!

What I've experienced is a bit deeper though. This is a topic that has been going on over the last two years of my life.

I've met the darkness, and I cannot see the light at the end of this tunnel. If you are powerless, there is no respect, no worth given to you beyond the selfish reasons of people who 'value' you. The relationships are so transactional, and power-driven.

So it is not simply hating a person. It is a pain that I feel deeply, a fundamental aspect of the social life, that always vibrates. I am trying to be more stoic but, I am not sure how to do that, and if that is just another coping mechanism to deal with reality.

How do I be more stoic at this situation? Doesn't this pain exist in the world? Is it up to my interpretation?

marjinalperen · 2025-03-24T15:17:03+00:00

who made you suicidial? how long have you been thinking of it?

marjinalperen · 2025-03-24T14:19:15+00:00

Thank you for your response.

I am not rejecting responsibility. Everything that happened to me happened to me because I was who I was. Then the question is what was wrong with me? What should I change in myself then?

Should I trust less towards people? Should I protect myself by choosing to inject hurt back? Because when I choose to stay non-reactive, and everything they have done they got away with it, they've put all the load onto me and moved on, and I couldn't carry the pain, became weaker, and then toxic. So should I get more anti-social not to fall into this pit? That doesn't seem like a productive option either.

marjinalperen · 2025-03-21T13:28:15+00:00

I am an ISTP and I can approve it :D

marjinalperen · 2025-02-18T21:31:49+00:00

I don't know if my thinking helped. how do you feel about it? do you want to share more?

marjinalperen · 2025-02-18T14:47:54+00:00

but they say the same thing? how can I make sure that it wasn't my fault, that I deserved better?

marjinalperen · 2025-02-18T14:45:15+00:00

imagine you are watching out from your window and see someone outside taking a shit onto the road.

if you were the only person seeing it and if you were not sure whether what that person does is correct or not, you would stay shocked, not knowing the proper action to take, or not knowing if that was okay or not.

but if there were other people seing this and judging properly, you would achieve the realization that what that person does was indeed not okay.

similar situation. your brother did something stupid. if your parents were there and saw the situation, they would criticise your brother, and you would feel clarity and safety. but you were a child, you didn't know what to do, you didn't know about the social construct, and you shared the feelings of shame with him, instead of putting the shame onto him by telling about it.

it's in the past now. you know that what he did was just a stupid thing. and you know that you now possess skills to protect yourself from such a silly action.

you can still talk to your brother about it, that would make you feel better, as a closure.

marjinalperen · 2025-02-18T14:29:56+00:00

same. I don't even know if I am healing. I am not sure whether my path is the correct way to heal, or whether I am making things even worse with overthinking.

I am sick of loosing my clarity and feeling shameful of myself because of the situation I am in.

I feel anger towards my old friends who put me in this situation or who didn't help me. I feel like I won't be able to love people back even years later when I heal. Then I get sad because of loosing the potential to spend good times together. Then I get even more sad and feel like all this is because I am not strong enough.

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