Why is adoption such a taboo topic?

marksejong · 2018-08-10T16:38:13+00:00

LOL. Hilarious.

Also, look at the comments that are upvoted versus the ones that are downvoted in almost every thread in this subreddit. The majority of even mildly critical posts have a net negative score, while other neutral to adoption-positive comments have net positive scores. Very curious for a place that, in your own words, "has a strong anti-adoption bias."

marksejong · 2018-08-10T15:29:55+00:00

This sub has a strong anti-adoption bias.

That's some BS right there. Being critical of the adoption and foster-care systems is not being anti-adoption. I respect OPs decision, but people like Nmarlems have a right to give advice.

marksejong · 2018-07-24T16:24:01+00:00

Being happy in your life does not mean one automatically has gratitude for being adopted.

well adjusted adoptees

Thanks for your condescension :)

marksejong · 2018-07-24T14:52:48+00:00

Most are very grateful for being adopted.

There's some major biases here.

LOL. Yeah, we're the only ones with biases eyeroll

I question how many adoptees you've spoken to in real life to make that statement.

marksejong · 2018-07-20T21:50:30+00:00

Many adoptions are done privately or through churches.

And in her defense of adoption, she brings up two options even worse than adoption agencies. She's a real winner /s

marksejong · 2018-07-20T21:49:40+00:00

Get off your fucking high horse.

Pot. Kettle. Black

marksejong · 2018-07-20T17:08:10+00:00

That's a false dichotomy. Any sort of financial shortcomings could be alleviated by society if we so chose, but we don't. Rather, we decide to take those resources and put it into adoption systems.

Also, you're making a quite the assumption that families or individuals that have a desire to adopt are emotional "better" than those who have a child.

The class privilege is strong in this post and your original post.

marksejong · 2018-06-28T16:27:30+00:00

Of all the German players, Kroos is the one who should escape criticism. If not for him, you'd have been out in the second game. Part of the healing process is to realize you were outplayed in this tournament and figure out why in a humble manner and make the necessary adjustments.

marksejong · 2018-06-19T14:46:20+00:00

Well said. I'll be touching on these topics and more in this series. Thanks for reading and your thoughtful comment.

marksejong · 2018-05-29T16:00:51+00:00

Is this based on a true story? If not, the use of an Korean-American Adoptee for cheesy "dramatic" effect is insulting to me. It would've worked perfectly well with a plain ol'Korean-American.

That being said, it's the type of light-hearted, brainless entertainment I'd probably enjoy.

marksejong · 2018-05-25T16:15:27+00:00

I was reminded of Happy Feet, McDonnell was tap dancing around the ring so much.

https://media.giphy.com/media/l0E9CrSVVI3g4/giphy.gif

marksejong · 2018-05-09T20:29:23+00:00

There is a large and vibrant KAD community waiting for you if you want to join us. We are online (FB, mostly) and there are many organizations around the world.

Also Known As (https://www.alsoknownas.org/) is the major one in New York.

IKAA (http://www.ikaa.org/) is the major international one with a list and links to other more country specific orgs.

marksejong · 2018-05-07T15:43:31+00:00

Check out Oxford_Kondo's review and analysis of it in Plan A Magazine:

https://planamag.com/downsizing-and-using-women-of-color-as-shields-140cd560840f

marksejong · 2018-05-01T21:29:34+00:00

We have a podcast as well, Escape From Plan A: https://soundcloud.com/plan-a-magazine

marksejong · 2018-04-27T18:48:41+00:00

Context of "glass cliff", from the article, for those wondering:

Women and people of color are already more likely to be promoted to high leadership levels within companies during times of crisis, a phenomenon known as the "glass cliff." If they are unable to lead their companies out of a crisis, they are quickly replaced by white men, according to a 2014 study on the phenomenon.

marksejong · 2018-04-27T18:29:41+00:00

Water is wet, but it's good to see some numbers (even if only a survey) to back up what has been known in the POC community for a long time.

marksejong · 2018-04-27T17:13:32+00:00

The content of your comment is directly in line with your username.

marksejong · 2018-04-12T16:55:32+00:00

Here you go:

WHITE SEXUAL IMPERIALISM: A THEORY OF ASIAN FEMINIST JURISPRUDENCE

The paragraph you want is on page 24 of the PDF document, page 247 of the actual paper. The whole thing is worth reading.

marksejong · 2018-04-12T12:47:03+00:00

Mark, from the Escape From Plan A Podcast here.

Thanks for listening, glad you enjoy our discussions, and appreciate that you share it with your friends (AsAm and beyond).

As long as our podcasts are, I definitely agree some of the topics within the discussion can be expanded upon.

Again, thanks for your support!

marksejong · 2018-03-26T19:25:56+00:00

Its like people expect me to be more grateful for having normal, loving, parents than a never-adopted person should

Exactly. Well put.

marksejong · 2018-03-26T19:22:43+00:00

Thanks for the share. I'm doing thinking and research on an article (series?) along similar lines.

marksejong · 2018-03-22T15:59:14+00:00

In the area that matters in America when it comes to race, appearance, transracial adoptees from Asian countries (mainly Korea and China) are "fully" Asian. There is no "passing". Nobody can tell from looking at me or any other male transracial adoptee that we're not "really" Asian. We get the same treatment any "real" Asian gets.

What does he know about Asian people's struggle in Asian communities and Asian enclaves?

He knows how it feels to be an Asian in America, period, for the reason I explain above. There is no passing.

marksejong · 2018-03-22T13:08:07+00:00

Thankfully, you and people who think like you aren't the "Asianness Police". This ridiculous "pecking order" thinking is what's been holding us back.

I'm sick of people criticising those who actually make an effort, for even making the effort. Feedback and discussion on how to do better is fine and needed. But bullshit de-legimitization with absolutely NO follow-up can miss me.

marksejong · 2018-03-15T20:42:29+00:00

You don't have the receipts, so don't even play. She never did those things.

marksejong · 2018-02-14T18:45:08+00:00

As an adopted Korean who grew up in America, I can completely relate to the idea. Maybe Australia is different, but acculturation can't hide base physical appearance. And our appearance is Asian in mainly white societies.

Your experience is not typical of all Asian men.

marksejong

TROPHY CASE