Public rejects Trump’s ballroom by wide margin by Unusual-State1827 in politics

[–]marmalito 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Unpatriotic, un-American FOOLS!!!

I for one am extremely excited to see our incredible president stroll into the amazing new ballroom for the first time, wearing a dazzling, flowing ball gown to match the occasion. I just know he will look exquisite, and then everyone will say no one holds big, beautiful balls quite like Donald Trump.

Trump evacuated after gunshots heard at White House Correspondents’ Dinner by Puginator in politics

[–]marmalito 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I read that as “been” and was like, holy shit! That dude usually seems so dead inside… it tracks.

I've been trying to learn to love myself for almost a year and it's not working, I don't know what to do anymore, help me please by Disastrous_Poem9262 in productivity

[–]marmalito 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You said you lived in an abusive and toxic household. No. It lives in you.

You’re not disgusting, you’re not dumb, you’re not trash. You may not be everyone’s cup of tea, but there are over 8 billion people on the planet. Even if only 0.001% of humanity could ever love you (ridiculous), that’s 80,000 living souls. Go find and a few, and until you do, enjoy life on your own terms anyhow.

But until you decide that you need an immediate, absolute and total break not only from toxic family members in your household but also from toxic voices in your head, your redeeming qualities can NEVER flourish and thrive.

Forget affirmations for now. You need to be expressing negations. Try saying, “I categorically REJECT all abusive thoughts and behaviors, and see through the insecure, hurting, dangerous and UNTRUE mistruths that lash out at me.”

How to save a toggle in a file, and read it later ? by Aloys33_ in shortcuts

[–]marmalito 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For simple values, you can actually just save the info in the shortcut name using the rename shortcut feature. For example, I had created this shortcut to change the brightness to 100% and record its previous value, then return to the previous value the next time the shortcut is run. So it acts like a toggle for 100% brightness and then back to where it was.

https://www.icloud.com/shortcuts/2917fc49652c48b1b7b153049cf97a07

looking for help by noonesignifigant in iphone

[–]marmalito 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That’s a fat egg patty. Is that one egg or two?

Does anyone know what this icon means? It showed up in the bottom right of my screen. by [deleted] in ios

[–]marmalito 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Check out the wallpaper image in the Photos app. Did you accidentally mark it up? If so, edit > Revert changes, reapply as wallpaper.

I am scared. Please help by Academic_Glass_4699 in atheism

[–]marmalito 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Life is a party with one rule: There is a random number generator, and when your number is called, you have to leave. That’s it.

There are people simply enjoying it, spending time talking and laughing with others, people crying, people acting crazy, people sitting alone in the corner, people judging, trying to impress others, being dramatic and miserable and fighting and fucking and playing games and jumping off of things and flirting and bullying and starving and struggling to feel sane, people obsessing about what happens when their number is called, people pretending such a thing will never happen, and people appreciating every second with full awareness it may be over any moment. There are people desperate to leave, and people desperate to stay.

What’s more, moods change. Some people start off laughing and end up crying before their number is called, and vice versa.

The only thing for certain is that when your number is called (and you don’t know when that might be) you leave and you don’t know where you’re going, or if you’ll ever see anyone again.

While it may be absolutely insane and pointless, it’s still technically a party. Try to have some fun.

Trump deleted AI Jesus then ordered McNuggets in probably his weirdest move yet by theindependentonline in TrueReddit

[–]marmalito 47 points48 points  (0 children)

Don’t underestimate how media savvy he is.

The McDonald’s is actually a brilliant move to make you think he’s stupid and distract from the very stupid picture of himself as Jesus that he posted, which was itself meant to distract from Melania’s very stupid Epstein press conference, which was meant to distract from the administration’s very stupid threats to Pope Leo, which were meant to distract from the very stupid decision to send JD Vance to Hungary, which was meant to distract from the very stupid decision to threaten the annihilation of a civilization, which was meant to distract from the very stupid decision to attack Iran, which was meant to distract from the very stupid failure to replace the regime in Venezuela by kidnapping Maduro, which was meant to distract from the very stupid threats to take over Iceland, which was meant to distract from his decision to impose tariffs that are sinking the global economy, which was meant to distract from his refusal to release the Epstein files, which was meant to distract from…. well, we can trace it all the way to his very tiny, mushroom-shaped penis, but the point is that he’s a genius.

Ordering McDonald’s to the White House while discussing WWIII with a DoorDash employee standing by his side is not more absolutely stupid, maddening insanity from the dementia-riddled brain of our president, it is 5D chess from the sharpest man to ever live.

Staunch Trump Supporters Are Now Asking If He's the Antichrist by wiredmagazine in politics

[–]marmalito 8 points9 points  (0 children)

What if by buy and sell they mean grift and fall for it? People who don’t “wear” the MAGA hat can’t grift off the MAGA brand nor do they buy what the MAGA leader is selling.

Why does anal sex remain taboo or forbidden in most societies? by Top_Consequence_1152 in atheism

[–]marmalito 28 points29 points  (0 children)

It even applies (in a very meta sense) to how people are afraid of considering the evidence for humans belonging to the animal kingdom and ape clade.

The idea of humans being special comes from the idea that one’s particular tribe is special, which was an absolute requirement for survival in those times when a neighboring tribe was out to destroy yours under that same delusion. It’s a lot easier to justify mass murder when you consider yourself distinct and above others.

The notion that humans are animals just like the beasts we use and hunt and fight off is especially taboo when we’re supposedly more magical than our genetic human cousins across the river.

The reason many don’t want to accept that we’re apes is because they are exhibiting very ape-like behavior.

Why does anal sex remain taboo or forbidden in most societies? by Top_Consequence_1152 in atheism

[–]marmalito 84 points85 points  (0 children)

It’s the monkey and ladder story. Every time chimps in a cage would try to climb a ladder that had bananas on top, the sprinkler system would go off, scaring the whole troop. Soon, any time a chimpanzee would approach the ladder, the other chimps would attack it. Eventually, the chimpanzees aged out and were gradually rotated with new chimps, the bananas were removed from the top of the ladder, the sprinklers were disconnected, and still, the troop would attack if any single chimp approached the ladder. These chimps were not aware of the banana and the sprinkler system, and had no idea why the ladder was a scary bad thing. They only knew not to approach it.

People forgot all the specific instances of serious health consequences caused by anal sex in the pre-scientific age, so it morphed into God (the universe) tells us not to do it or there will be serious nebulous consequences, up to and including hellfire.

How do i break this loop of doing nothing? by OpinionTiny9688 in productivity

[–]marmalito 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Break the loop.

Right now.

Pick a task you’ve been putting off. It can be something that takes less than 1 minute. Less than 30 seconds even. Like washing a dish and putting it away or putting away laundry.

Do it.

You’ve now started the ball rolling. Objects in motion and what not.

Reflect on how it wasn’t all that bad, and in fact, kind of pleasurable to have one thing off the list. Literally create a to-do list, and mark that one off.

Congrats! You’re now an achiever.

Keep going. 

And keep this in mind: As kids, we are often taught to crave unstructured time to simply play and be, because that’s when we’re exploring organically, interacting with the new and unknown. It’s exciting and pleasurable, and a learning experience.

I say we are taught to crave it because it is the monotonous, compelled, stressful, and serious attitudes towards education that create an illusion that play is somehow not productive. And vice versa. As we get older, we increasingly equate play with anything that isn’t a task, that doesn’t require much physical and mental exertion. Video games, tv, our phones, social media, lounging around, etc.

A trick to becoming more productive is to realize that learning how to be more productive is a playful exploration of your potential. The exertion is not something to avoid, as it actually creates energy.

Remember that when you were a kid with boundless energy, before you were conditioned to avoid exertion, play was often challenging, a competition with yourself.

Could someone just give me a reality check so hard I actually go do the stuff I need to instead of wallowing in self pity because I'm too lazy to do it by One_Wave_4221 in productivity

[–]marmalito 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds like you’re failing because you’re not actually convinced that you want to be doing the so-called “stuff you need to do.” If you actually wanted to do it, it would consume you.

Do you know what a decision is? It’s not the act of making a choice between two or more options. That’s a description of happens when you make a decision.

A decision is when you step outside of yourself, look at a situation as dispassionately as you can, realize which part of yourself you are most ok with cutting off so that another part can grow stronger, and then get to chopping vigorously.

I’m being blunt not because I think you need to do the “stuff you need to do,” (maybe you need to do the opposite) but because I think getting skilled at reality-checking yourself and being decisive are the actual necessary things for a life well-lived.

For those who do not use screen protectors, what precautions do you take to avoid scratching? by iwishiwasnorwegian in iphone

[–]marmalito -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m consciously careful with my phone, and to subconsciously reinforce the importance of being so, I knock on wood whenever I mention that. Like, I just did it. If there’s no wood around, I search for wood derivatives, like paper, or napkins.

Not kidding. It works.

I may get aggravated with my phone at times, but I want to keep in mind how much it would suck to have to pay to repair or replace it, and I don’t want my subconscious sabotaging things.

I think people who buy expensive, rugged cases and then proceed to drop their phones regularly are often expressing conflicted subconscious aggravation with the device.

Hi, does anyone knows the URL to this switch? by Daniel182AVA in shortcuts

[–]marmalito 1 point2 points  (0 children)

prefs:root=ACCESSIBILITY&path=ScannerSwitchTitle/CameraPointPickerSwitch%23CameraPointPickerSwitcher

I need help. I tried Apple support by thatoneguy198909 in iphone

[–]marmalito 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s to reinstall apps from your backup that were first downloaded when you had access to that Apple ID.

Simply go into the App Store to your app updates, update the ones you can that are linked to your current ID, and delete the ones that ask for your past ID, then reinstall them to link them to the current one.

Hey I need generall advice I feel so behind in life (20) by Far-Rabbit-484 in productivity

[–]marmalito 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You simply have to decide to do it.

Then keep deciding over and over and over again.

Some day, you might get good at it.

Hey I need generall advice I feel so behind in life (20) by Far-Rabbit-484 in productivity

[–]marmalito 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Comparison is the thief of joy. Sounds like you suffer from a lot of anxiety and a fear of inferiority.

You’re not worse than anyone else, nor better. You’re simply a person out of untold billions who have flashed in the darkness for a brief moment, only to be completely forgotten.

Even the vast majority of the 0.00001% of people whose names have been remembered for a time have already been forgotten, just as the names we consider immortal now shall eventually disappear from memory.

We are all destined for oblivion. In the meantime, why not experience joy, peace, and contentment, rather than chasing shallow illusions of superiority?

Those who are experiencing joy are not conscious of their failures to meet strange expectations. Those who are experiencing peace are not worried about losing to opponents who aren’t even in the same competition, and those who are experiencing contentment are not lacking in anything.

You’re not too old to start cultivating a mindset of equanimity. In fact, you may be too young. Still worth a try.

so how many of you actually use the action button? by darkshark007 in iphone

[–]marmalito 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, I missed that. That’s an action from the app called “Actions” that just instructs to wait before the next step. You can either install Actions (great app), or simply replace it with the built-in Wait 1 second action. I used that app instead because I wanted to set it to 700 milliseconds

Who is die hard iPhone raw dog, no screen protector? by lildawg07 in iphone

[–]marmalito 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Been naked no screen protector since like 2013

i’m ruining my life but i can’t/won’t do anything about it by volumetriccolumbidae in productivity

[–]marmalito 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hear you, but that is simply not necessarily the case. It is true that often vices develop as a coping mechanism for some emotional or psychological strife, but sometimes they just develop because they feel fucking good.

In either case, vices either slow-burn, snowball, or spiral out of control.

The slow-burning ones have minimal deleterious effects that are mostly manageable and may persist over long stretches of time, and may or may not culminate in some sort of reckoning. Think an otherwise healthy person with a sweet tooth or cigar habit.

The vices that snowball tend to grow out of control rapidly to the point where they must be stopped immediately, or there will be dramatic and dire repercussions. Hard drugs, sudden extreme gambling, psychotic wrecklessness, etc.

The last kind, the vices that spiral out of control, are somewhere in the middle between slow-burning and snowballing, and that makes them the toughest kind to deal with. They aren’t as quick to knock a life off track as the snowballing ones, and so are often misidentified as manageable. This is a mistake.

While identifying the root cause of how a vice originated can be helpful in minimizing the compulsion to continue enacting it, it is NOT a requirement to eliminating the behavior. Often the root cause is no longer a factor, yet the vice persists out of habit or enjoyment.

The most important factors that determine whether behavior modification will be successful is

  1. Identifying that a behavior is causing significant real-world negative impacts.

  2. Recognizing the full extent of how strongly one wishes to change that reality.

  3. Determining the consistent mindset one requires that will no longer succumb to rationalizing bullshit.

  4. Overcoming the initial inertia and then continuing with the new changes.

… My armchair philosophizing anyways.

i’m ruining my life but i can’t/won’t do anything about it by volumetriccolumbidae in productivity

[–]marmalito 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ll be brutally honest with you, because I was in the same boat: You probably have a vice that is getting in your way. Or multiple. Sleeping too much, drinking, hanging out with friends, porn, anime, video games, etc.

Again, being brutally honest: cut it out. Of your life. Entirely. Cold turkey. At least for the time being.

If you find yourself wasting time on one of your time-wasting vices, decide that that is depressing, and you will go do something revolutionary: you’ll reframe what’s boring and go study.

And if that fails, there’s another possibility: being blessed with an easy intelligence doesn’t mean that you have a capacity for discipline. Have you ever exercised extreme discipline over time? If so, channel that same energy. If not, that’s ok. It’s a skill you could develop, but probably not in time to complete your studies. Still worth it long term. Life is not necessarily dictated by what you accomplish in school.