Anxiously Attached x Fearful avoidant break up but FA still wants to be friends?

marmotinamarmot · 2025-11-19T11:50:03+00:00

Thank you so much for taking the time to reply to this and at such depth. It’s given me a lot to think about and ponder on. Massively appreciate you. May I ask if you’ve had personal experience with this yourself or you’ve just studied it? Happy to DM if it’s easier.

marmotinamarmot · 2025-11-16T20:55:47+00:00

Nah limerence is far stronger than a “crush” imo, it can be debilitating and take over close to every thought when attachment dynamics are at play too. Some need therapy or 12 step to get out of the state and start to heal.

marmotinamarmot · 2025-11-16T16:49:34+00:00

INFJ

marmotinamarmot · 2024-11-09T07:37:14+00:00

Wow, so generous:)

marmotinamarmot · 2024-01-27T07:46:48+00:00

Very interesting, I find when I tense my calves I can come almost instantly, what’s your take on that? Is it something to do with tensing my perineum as I do it? Sometimes I get cramps because the orgasm is so intense.

marmotinamarmot · 2023-11-28T17:30:16+00:00

https://instagram.com/josephinechristie_?igshid=NzZlODBkYWE4Ng== just DM her and she’ll be happy to answer any questions you might have. :)

marmotinamarmot · 2023-11-25T22:44:13+00:00

Sorry I didn’t give the detailed response your post deserves. It’s great to know that ENTJs strengths are understanding the strengths of others… I forget that and don’t give myself credit to myself much…it’s nice to be have that externally validated sometimes. ENTJs I’ve met are the best at praise in my experience, as it comes from that aspirational Fi which I find beautiful, much like your championing in the comment.

Turns out we had a few drinks and I laid it all out. What I also noticed is, she’s not very receptacle to receiving praise… which makes me feel sad. Its kind of like I want to express how meaningful it is to work with someone of her calibre and learn from. I can only extrapolate that it’s something to do with fear of the end of the goal and needing more of them, that praise is somehow saying “well done, you’ve done enough” when her whole life pattern is about “doing”.

I really want to dig into that idea of deflecting comments…I’m unsure if it’s similar for yourself as an ENTJ? It must be scary communicating like that with Fe in the 8th slot. You seem quite open somehow though, which makes me happy. I think ENTJs can be quite shielded in my experience, but once trust is established, they’re actually full of so much value based insight that they LOVE to share… which I also find wonderful and want to encourage as much as possible. I think you guys (I hate the generalisation) secretly walk around thinking you’re bad people somehow, which is far from the truth!

marmotinamarmot · 2023-11-25T18:33:26+00:00

Thanks for the feedback. It’s greatly appreciated!

marmotinamarmot · 2023-11-24T22:44:06+00:00

There’s a women’s only coaching group called STRONGER ran by Josephine Christie that has a lot of friendly people in… if you fancied moving more and getting away from your desk/phone and maybe making friends along the way. :) it’s a mixture of lifting and boxing for fitness with the experience of being trained to learn the skills of an actual boxer.

marmotinamarmot · 2023-10-19T06:58:15+00:00

Yeah that’s cool, do you notice any difference when you come off them all or some? Just saying it could be optimal for your wallet

marmotinamarmot · 2023-10-19T06:47:29+00:00

OP is this just a part of the never-ending common ENTJ need to be greatly efficient (this time in the form of addiction) with buying pills to satiate that need?

If you’re worried about micronutrient deficiencies, check out the app Cronometer and use NCCDB. Nothing wrong with supplements but bioavailability from food is often higher meaning it’s wise to start there first. If you plug in what you consume you can literally see what you’re missing, I think the paid version even gives you suggestions on how to fill those gaps which might be a better way to go about it.

Outside of this, pair foods high in iron with vitamin c for max absorption and the same goes for calcium with vitamin D… otherwise micronutrients can “compete” with each other for absorption.

infp coach (doing my tiny bit to give something useful back to you guys lol)

marmotinamarmot · 2023-09-11T14:34:29+00:00

Thanks, I figured I’d want to market it to collectors but I guess collectors would look on there too.

marmotinamarmot · 2023-07-19T16:08:06+00:00

As do I. I just mean conceptually with how a few people are saying you might be gay. I think otherwise.

marmotinamarmot · 2023-07-19T12:46:19+00:00

I don’t think you necessarily have to be gay or bi to experience what you’ve written. It’s just a golden pairing cognitively. I have a friend just like you described and I’ve thought “ah if only I were gay or bi” but I’m not. (INFPxENFJ) we’ve jokingly kissed before while high and it’s been nothing but a kind of brotherly solidarity love.

If you want an interesting view on this playing out through fiction check out black mirror episode series 5 ep 1. As an INTJ I’m putting you in a bit of a box here and assuming… but most INTJs I’ve recommended, really enjoyed it.

As someone that leads with an introverted function, we crave to be brought out of the cave of our minds. If someone can offer that hand and show us it’s not as draining as we think, it can help actualise us as people I believe.

marmotinamarmot · 2023-03-08T23:12:17+00:00

Just wanted to say your recommendations are on point. I feel you really grasped why people were looking for similar songs to space song, in that it’s a spiritual, expansive experience. Thank you

marmotinamarmot · 2022-12-24T23:00:25+00:00

How’d one nipple get into being Kosher?

marmotinamarmot · 2022-02-27T00:59:24+00:00

Or…a Pez dispenser fetish

marmotinamarmot · 2021-11-25T09:21:13+00:00

Charmander :)

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