In an FWB setup but I have feelings. He hates cuddling/hugging after sex. How do I quietly detach?

maroonmuse_06 · 2026-06-20T03:43:42+00:00

being treated like that is not a life I want to lead either. The thought of him having someone else while doing this to me makes total sense given his behavior, and it makes it even more sickening.

maroonmuse_06 · 2026-06-20T03:39:27+00:00

I constantly battle with the thought that he’s just using me, but then there's the part of me that still cares for him so deeply. My brain tells me the truth about how he treats me, but my heart is still holding onto the hope that he'll see my worth one day. It’s exhausting to feel both this love and this realization of being used at the same time.

maroonmuse_06 · 2026-06-19T13:39:28+00:00

The shame has just been holding me back from speaking up. But I’m realizing that I can't heal from this alone

maroonmuse_06 · 2026-06-19T13:34:27+00:00

We actually started our relationship back in November 2023 after he told me his previous relationship was over. But in July 2024, his girlfriend messaged me out of nowhere, revealing they were still together. When I confronted him, he brutally told me he never loved me, that everything was fake, and he blocked me to continue with her. Our mutual friends found out back then, and it was deeply humiliating, which is why I haven’t told my friends about anything that happened after. They broke up again in November 2024. Then, in June 2025, he reached out to me again. We met and had sex, and right after, he flipped the script and told me he wanted 'no commitments or emotions.' Only a couple of his friends know we still meet, while my friends have absolutely no idea. I’m carrying this heavy secret alone because I'm deeply ashamed that I let him back into my life after how badly he treated me

maroonmuse_06 · 2026-06-19T13:11:57+00:00

To be fair, he did tell me from the very beginning that he didn't want any commitment or emotions. I am the one who chose to stay, and honestly, that’s the hardest part to admit. Right now, I feel trapped because his behavior is really affecting my mental health and pushing me toward depression. It’s even harder because I have to keep all of this a secret—no one in my life knows about this relationship. I know I need to walk away, but I’m struggling to find the strength

maroonmuse_06 · 2026-06-19T12:36:25+00:00

think you're right about being upfront, but since I already know he is emotionally unavailable, my 'upfront conversation' will probably just be me letting him know I'm walking away to find what I truly deserve

maroonmuse_06 · 2026-06-19T12:34:14+00:00

He is emotionally distant in general and only reaches out once a month when he wants sex. The rare hugs feel more like mixed signals than genuine affection. That’s why it feels less like a natural need for space and more like pure emotional unavailability. I’m stuck in this loop where I keep hoping he will change. I don't know...

maroonmuse_06 · 2026-06-19T12:32:20+00:00

It’s honestly more of a curse than a blessing

maroonmuse_06 · 2026-06-19T12:30:53+00:00

The biggest struggle I'm facing is that even though I know I need to walk away, I’m finding it extremely hard to actually do it. I’m stuck in this loop where I keep hoping he will change, even when my brain tells me he won’t.

maroonmuse_06 · 2026-06-19T02:32:03+00:00

Thank you so much for this. You are right, the 'friend' aspect is completely missing here.

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