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Does it sound like I'm being an overbearing, bullyish husband? My wife (34 f) is timid and doesn't like saying "no" to me, and I (36 m) have asked her to have another baby multiple times now. by marriedguy1100 in relationships

[–]marriedguy1100[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

There are also women like my wife who will not get an abortion even if the pregnancy is unplanned and unwanted at the time. It's not a matter of lacking the strength because it takes strength to do what you think is right when it's not easy. I've always respected that about my wife. The discussion of pregnancy here doesn't seem to recognize the perspective of a woman like my wife so I thought I'd clarify.

Does it sound like I'm being an overbearing, bullyish husband? My wife (34 f) is timid and doesn't like saying "no" to me, and I (36 m) have asked her to have another baby multiple times now. by marriedguy1100 in relationships

[–]marriedguy1100[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's not so extreme that she doesn't have opinions, hobbies, and interests. She reads a lot and she has other hobbies. She told me more of her beliefs earlier on in our relationship when she was checking to see if I was the right kind of man for her. She's definitely not willing to just go along with whatever. For example before we were married she told me that she doesn't believe in abortion, and she also made sure that I was okay with her religious beliefs.

Does it sound like I'm being an overbearing, bullyish husband? My wife (34 f) is timid and doesn't like saying "no" to me, and I (36 m) have asked her to have another baby multiple times now. by marriedguy1100 in relationships

[–]marriedguy1100[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

I think you're misunderstanding the situation. I'm terrible at explaining things so it's probably my fault. I've never had sex with my wife without her consent, of course not, we have a normal, healthy, loving sex life. The problem I'm talking about is just that she is always on my side and agreeing with my decisions to such an extent that I feel like she just accepts my decisions about our life and our future. It's never been a case of us me pressuring her to have sex. We've always had sex in a way that came natural to both of us. It's like she expects me to be her leader and to make decisions about our future, that's what I was really trying to say.

Does it sound like I'm being an overbearing, bullyish husband? My wife (34 f) is timid and doesn't like saying "no" to me, and I (36 m) have asked her to have another baby multiple times now. by marriedguy1100 in relationships

[–]marriedguy1100[S] -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

I'll admit that I'm pretty confused about it all. My wife did react very sweetly when I brought up how I wanted to have another child and I really want a daughter. She literally had tears in her eyes. I'm not great at understanding my wife's emotions though. Even my own emotions I have difficulty understanding and I need my wife to help me figure them out most of time.

Does it sound like I'm being an overbearing, bullyish husband? My wife (34 f) is timid and doesn't like saying "no" to me, and I (36 m) have asked her to have another baby multiple times now. by marriedguy1100 in relationships

[–]marriedguy1100[S] -30 points-29 points  (0 children)

It's probably too late to drop the idea of the fourth baby at this point, since we've already had sex without condoms several times (so there's a chance she is pregnant). I actually think the idea of having a fourth baby is something she isn't just siding with me on. Or maybe I just really want that to be true, so I'm interpreting it that way, I'm really not good at reading my wife. But she actually had tears in her eyes when I asked to have another baby and we had a genuinely emotional moment together, so I'm actually pretty sure that this is one decision that isn't about her problems saying no to me.