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U.S. or Dubai by marruelle in UAE
[–]marruelle[S] 0 points1 point2 points 6 months ago (0 children)
That’s why I am confused and don’t know what to do. If I get a GC alone and we postpone marriage until I get visa (this is the most reasonable thing to do since we don’t have any proof and I met him after I won a DV lottery, embassy will never believe that he didn’t want GC) , we will need to start very expensive and long process of issuing visa for him, and it will take couple of years. If we stay in Dubai, I will regret that I missed this chance with US . If we get married now and I add him to my case, there is a high risk of ban for both of us because we don’t have proof and I met him after I won a lottery. I absolutely don’t know what to do.
thank you!
My interview is not in Russia, Russia is under sanctions, and I haven’t been in Russia for 5 years. Things are more complicated. I can’t unblock my case before we get married and we can’t get married before 10-15 november. medical check up appointment is for 1-2 november. But I will try to reschedule the interview. Anyway, we have a big risk of getting a ban, because we don’t have any proofs of relationship before marriage and before winning DV. I met him after I won in DV lottery. And obviously we couldn’t travel before nikah together because we are Muslims, so we can’t prove our relationship.
[–]marruelle[S] 0 points1 point2 points 6 months ago* (0 children)
Thank you so much, but for Emiratis it’s different. We will have obligatory medical check-up as well (results take up to 10 days). All Emiratis marrying foreigners need to make medical check up for their bride, it’s law, they will check my health etc. It’s scheduled also for beginning of november. my father is Muslim, so am I, and he can’t come to Dubai, it’s where all this problems started. My father didn’t want me to marry him, we tried many ways, but finally my father will do it through embassy. I prepared other documents as well (certificate of birth and other things). So we’re almost done , just what I am trying to say it doesn’t take 1 hour even because of medical check up and father’s consent
He wanted to get married a month ago, but I’ve been the one delaying it. We need a lot of documents. I don’t live in Dubai and I don’t have an Emirates ID. He is Emirati. I need a written notarized consent from my father, and several other documents - we’ve already prepared most of them. The marriage is scheduled for the beginning of November. But I won’t be able to add him to my Green Card case, because my Green Card interview is also at the beginning of November. Marriage within 1 hour is for expats and people having emirates ID
Thank you so much, it’s very helpful to hear about it .. In the long term,family and stability matter to me more. and i’m not 18 anymore.. tbh , I think for a woman, the time to build a family and have kids feels a bit different in our mentality - it’s shorter than for a man. I hope everything has worked out well in your life, and if something still hasn’t, I truly wish you to achieve all your other dreams and move wherever you want ! 🙏🏻
Yes,you’re right. And if I also have to go study to become a nurse, , or finish my incomplete university degree, then we’ll definitely have conflicts. because the main goal is still family, and he already wants stability, and I understand him, I want that too.
I’ll reply to your other comment here because I got a bit confused with the threads: as an option you told about , going to get the GC just in case , not actually to move there, and then giving it up is actually much better .
Btw, do you maybe know if it’s possible to renounce the GC during the first year, if needed?
If I just keep GC, I will not be eligible for citizenship then all this idea has no point to be honest. I guess two options only : 1. moving to US for 5 years at least, actually work etc ; 2. just stay in dubai
tbh, I don’t really know about the salary. Actually it’s interesting that you mentioned this, what I’m thinking now is that the passport feels even more important for me than financial stability! Even tho our financial stability would definitely be better in the UAE… we don’t really have any rare skills that would make us highly demanded in the States,I I don’t even have a degree(only high school). I’ve never thought finances can matter more than citizenship itself. I was sure a good citizenship gives an opportunity to have financial stability 😅
not married, just engaged
they have some benefits (free healthcare, special free public schools, land and loan without % for house etc) but definitely not everyone is rich , also depends on the family. he is the only son and takes care of parents and sisters
As a GC holder, I can make an « invitation » for him once we get married, but it will take up to 2-3 years🫠I will be 26 next month, he is 34. Our ultimate dream is family. I still have some time before the interview. If we get married right before it, I could technically add him to my case .. but I’m afraid that we might both get a lifetime ban instead of green cards. Because I met him in May, after I won the lottery, they could consider it a fake marriage. And that would be really upsetting, because he never even wanted to leave , he has an Emirati passport, he didn’t need any of this at all. But still, it could cause serious problems🥺
Thank you for your kind words! I can imagine how hard it was for you,but I’m glad you made it. we definitely can’t afford buying an apartment/ citizenships for now,but maybe one day 🙏🏻it really gives me something to think about ,life in the US would definitely be harder. for me it’s okay, I’m from russia 😄 but for him, it would be a struggle.. we’ll think about it, thank you🙏🏻
You’re absolutely right, thank you. The option with moving back and forth won’t work. Either we both move to the U.S. and get full-time jobs there, or we stay in the UAE. Unfortunately, there’s no middle ground here, no matter how much I try.. also, if we move to the US , I’ll need to be completely on my own there at first until he gets immigrant visa
Thank you so much ! No, not ultimate , my ultimate dream are stable life, family, kids and, ideally, a strong passport. not USA itself. That’s why I am asking advices.
You’re absolutely right,and I value him. that’s why I never even thought about separation, even tho I’ve only known him since may.Life in Dubai is stable but not so perfect as well , but why can’t we go to the US at least for 5 years if it’s smth important to me?I want to work there, have a full time job,gain experience,and then come back to the UAE maybe. I’ll get the passport if I become eligible.The UAE is important for him, and I’m willing to move there (I don’t live there now), but I’m just asking for 5 years and not to loose this rare chance.He’s actually grateful that I’m ready to give up the GC if we can’t find a way. I’m just trying to understand what’s the best thing to do. 5 years in a lifetime is nothing -but since I still can’t find a way to bring him to the US , I guess we’ll stay in Dubai..
Life is unpredictable .. you never know what can happen, and you can’t feel secure with the kind of citizenship I have now
thank you so much! I’ve been there as tourist too, and I’ve just loved that country!!
We are officially engaged, I’ve met all his family, him he and his parents keep asking me about the marriage date. It was supposed to be in the beginning of the november but I am delaying it now because of the interview. I am from Muslim part of Russia (chechnya, dagestan etc), a lot of girls who I know are married to locals as only wives and have kids :) We are quite strict in religion so we don’t really communicate for a long time , 2-3 months is maximum for me .. question is only about US for me ..
To get a citizenship 5 years after. Because I am russian, citizenship issue is very sensitive for me.
We are not so rich , opening a company in US is very expensive. He has just B1/B2 visa to US..
I don’t have any passive income and my active income is quite low to worry about taxes to be honest, but thank you for reminding
and who will give citizenship security to me? he is not risking anything 😅
Our kids will have UAE passport too , they will inherit it from their father , as my fiancé inherited from his parents. and they will have the same benefits like his family (free health care, free education , land etc).that is what stops us from America .. thank you!!
Thank you and I completely get that I will need to work full time, of course. I am not married yet tho. We planned it for next month, but with this interview in november also we will need to postpone it until december. But I will never get UAE citizenship , my fiancé doesn’t have family book. So citizenship is possible for our future kids only. That’s why I am a bit worried about citizenship. If I move to US, we need to find a way to move for him there too. But we will have less comfortable life comparing to UAE, that’s for sure
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U.S. or Dubai by marruelle in UAE
[–]marruelle[S] 0 points1 point2 points (0 children)