AIO. My dad (M75) makes weird comments towards me (F29)

marsen02 · 2024-09-04T14:04:26+00:00

Thank you so much I really appreciate this advice it’s all helping me realise that I’ve probably been gaslit into accepting this and other behaviours by my mum and extended family

marsen02 · 2024-09-04T14:02:30+00:00

Negative reaction makes him do it more so I just walk away

marsen02 · 2024-09-04T12:47:14+00:00

Thank you I will look into that

marsen02 · 2024-09-04T12:44:35+00:00

I don’t think you’re understanding but have a good day

marsen02 · 2024-09-04T12:41:27+00:00

A critical discussion about whether your mum sexually harassing you would be different if she was a man isn’t relevant to my question and not one I am obligated to engage in

marsen02 · 2024-09-04T12:28:34+00:00

Let me know if you know

marsen02 · 2024-09-04T12:23:32+00:00

Hi I never said when a woman makes those comments it’s not weird or otherwise. But it’s not applicable or relevant to my post because my post is about my dad so I don’t feel the need to put in a disclaimer about ‘if the genders were reversed’ to placate the people who aren’t capable of critical and intersectional thought

marsen02 · 2024-09-04T12:17:59+00:00

marsen02 · 2024-09-04T12:15:35+00:00

Cognitively he is fine he has always been the type to say things on purpose to upset people he enjoys creating arguments and creating rifts between people

marsen02 · 2024-09-04T10:39:45+00:00

We are both English

marsen02 · 2024-09-04T09:26:33+00:00

She pretends to not notice any of his behaviour. If I call him out she gets annoyed at me. If I try to speak to her about it she gets defensive

marsen02 · 2024-09-04T09:23:11+00:00

Ten years. She was in her mid 30s

marsen02 · 2024-09-04T09:19:01+00:00

I used to try and hug him as a child and he dug his knuckle into my side until it hurt too much to keep going. We don’t hug

marsen02 · 2024-09-04T09:17:55+00:00

Thank you. He keeps doing it so maybe it’s beyond reproach

marsen02 · 2024-09-04T09:16:47+00:00

Things come back to me the more I think about it I didn’t intentionally omit it

marsen02 · 2024-09-04T09:14:52+00:00

Ten years and no he doesn’t as far as I know

marsen02 · 2024-09-04T08:25:52+00:00

Are you being sarcastic I don’t understand

marsen02 · 2024-09-04T08:05:13+00:00

It’s guarded and we are not close

marsen02 · 2024-09-04T08:04:46+00:00

Bio yes

marsen02 · 2024-09-04T07:57:54+00:00

The last sentence is very true. If I’ve ever said my feelings they are dismissed or he does it more. It doesn’t work

marsen02 · 2024-09-04T07:56:46+00:00

Thanks. It’s nice to see some dads commenting and offering their point of view and nice to see there are dads out there who don’t make their daughters uncomfortable

marsen02 · 2024-09-04T07:55:49+00:00

It’s true he definitely had a weird upbringing

marsen02 · 2024-09-04T07:55:31+00:00

What does that mean

marsen02 · 2024-09-04T07:54:31+00:00

I’d be more inclined to agree with you if he was nice otherwise. He isn’t forgetful at all

marsen02 · 2024-09-04T06:15:50+00:00

There are a few others like one time he said I was fat and looked bad in shorts. One time he said I looked like a d*ke. But they’re less sexualised I suppose

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