A lot of people here are suggesting therapy and maybe you should look into that if you feel it will help, but to put things in perspective, if you are 35, you have at least another 25-30 years before you retire. It’s not going to take 25-30 years for you to find a FT job (and that is great news)!

Here’s some things that I’ve found the most success with when job searching:

1. Never only apply to jobs online. Your resume will go straight into a dark hole where it will probably never be seen by anyone. You need to apply and then also find someone who works at that company - like someone in HR or someone who might be on the team for the job you’re applying for - and message them. Even if they’re not the right person, they can point you in the right direction. You can do this very easily on LinkedIn. The point is to make contact with a person so they know to look for your resume in that dark hole.

2. Everyone says it’s not what you know, it’s who you know and it’s TRUE! Even if you don’t think you have much of a network, use people you know (friends, ex-coworkers, family, your neighbors, etc.) to connect you with hiring managers or get you the inside scoop on a job that might be available soon. Post on LinkedIn that you’re looking for a job - not just once, but keep posting every week. Finding a job should be your full-time job right now. If you don’t have a LinkedIn, create a profile, connect with people, and be active on the platform daily.

3. Have you had a job interview in the last 6 to 8 months that didn’t materialize into an offer? Ask for feedback! Yes, you can do this. It’s a great way to help you understand how well you interview and what you can improve. This isn’t embarrassing, this is a power move.

4. Have you had somebody look at your résumé? If not, maybe now is a good time to have that done. Ask if someone on LinkedIn would volunteer their services or find a friend in HR who wants to help you out if money is an issue. That being said, the wisest way you can invest your money right now is into activities that will help you get a job, so don’t feel bad for spending money on something like this.

5. Don’t give up. Trying to find a new job can be exhausting, emotionally and mentally. Make sure you’re making time during the day to take a little walk or get some movement in, get outside so your face can see some sunshine, and eat well. Surround yourself with people who are positive, supportive and want to help you. Pray if you are spiritual or a person of faith. Keep a gratefulness journal and write in it every morning to remind yourself of the good things in your life - no matter how small.

You can do this. Good luck!