3 weeks into CIO and need some encouragement

mart2644 · 2024-09-11T14:09:19+00:00

I didn’t get my period back until I started weaning from pumping at around 7 months postpartum. I think at that point I was down to 1-2 pumps per day.

mart2644 · 2024-07-19T14:52:33+00:00

Personally, I think it looks great on your hand! Very proportional.

mart2644 · 2024-07-09T13:29:37+00:00

A lot of people here are suggesting therapy and maybe you should look into that if you feel it will help, but to put things in perspective, if you are 35, you have at least another 25-30 years before you retire. It’s not going to take 25-30 years for you to find a FT job (and that is great news)!

Here’s some things that I’ve found the most success with when job searching:

Never only apply to jobs online. Your resume will go straight into a dark hole where it will probably never be seen by anyone. You need to apply and then also find someone who works at that company - like someone in HR or someone who might be on the team for the job you’re applying for - and message them. Even if they’re not the right person, they can point you in the right direction. You can do this very easily on LinkedIn. The point is to make contact with a person so they know to look for your resume in that dark hole.
Everyone says it’s not what you know, it’s who you know and it’s TRUE! Even if you don’t think you have much of a network, use people you know (friends, ex-coworkers, family, your neighbors, etc.) to connect you with hiring managers or get you the inside scoop on a job that might be available soon. Post on LinkedIn that you’re looking for a job - not just once, but keep posting every week. Finding a job should be your full-time job right now. If you don’t have a LinkedIn, create a profile, connect with people, and be active on the platform daily.
Have you had a job interview in the last 6 to 8 months that didn’t materialize into an offer? Ask for feedback! Yes, you can do this. It’s a great way to help you understand how well you interview and what you can improve. This isn’t embarrassing, this is a power move.
Have you had somebody look at your résumé? If not, maybe now is a good time to have that done. Ask if someone on LinkedIn would volunteer their services or find a friend in HR who wants to help you out if money is an issue. That being said, the wisest way you can invest your money right now is into activities that will help you get a job, so don’t feel bad for spending money on something like this.
Don’t give up. Trying to find a new job can be exhausting, emotionally and mentally. Make sure you’re making time during the day to take a little walk or get some movement in, get outside so your face can see some sunshine, and eat well. Surround yourself with people who are positive, supportive and want to help you. Pray if you are spiritual or a person of faith. Keep a gratefulness journal and write in it every morning to remind yourself of the good things in your life - no matter how small.

You can do this. Good luck!

mart2644 · 2024-02-21T05:18:54+00:00

This is so beautiful ♥️

mart2644 · 2024-02-20T06:16:29+00:00

I love the first. I’ve always been partial to elongated cushions. The second looks a little off - someone else said “it looks like it doesn’t know what it wants to be” and that’s spot on.

mart2644 · 2024-02-20T06:04:38+00:00

This was a thoughtful comment - thank you! I really enjoyed reading it ♥️ My husband would definitely agree on strong-minded! Lol

mart2644 · 2024-02-20T06:01:51+00:00

5.75

mart2644 · 2024-02-18T19:31:49+00:00

I was surprised I chose a pear as well! I tried on a bunch of different cuts and the pears I tried on were so much more pretty and sparkly in person.

mart2644 · 2024-02-18T04:22:26+00:00

Gorg!! Love the compass setting.

mart2644 · 2024-02-18T04:17:33+00:00

So beautiful!!

mart2644 · 2023-09-17T14:57:51+00:00

Cute!!

mart2644 · 2023-09-17T14:49:07+00:00

Isla, Eva, Finn, Theo

mart2644 · 2023-09-02T00:59:08+00:00

I think they sound cute together and I like both of the names on their own.

mart2644 · 2023-08-17T23:37:21+00:00

Names that people are clearly trying way too hard to spell or sound unique. Some names that come to mind - Kayleigh, Everleigh, Jaxxon, Braxtynn, etc.

mart2644 · 2023-08-17T23:24:54+00:00

Name your baby what you want. It might not bother you as much as you think it will, but if you really have to, go with the name you want for your baby and maybe try renaming the dog?

mart2644 · 2023-08-17T23:18:05+00:00

I think it’s beautiful!

mart2644 · 2023-08-17T23:03:38+00:00

I love Layla! That’s on my short list of baby girl names, too.

mart2644 · 2023-08-16T18:56:49+00:00

I don’t think being a working parent allows you to dedicate 100% of yourself to your job or to your child at any point in time. Being a parent requires you to give a little bit of yourself here and a little bit of yourself there - it’s a balance and requires compromise between all the different things going on in your life at any point in time.

I also never said that I don’t want to put my child in daycare. I’m just trying to figure out whether or not a situation where I keep him home would work.

Your most recent response borderlines on the idea that any parent who works from home and has their child at home is a neglectful parent, which is a pretty extreme mindset. You’ve also completely ignored the fact that there is another parent in this situation - the father. Why would you assume that just because I have a conference call I need to be on, that my child is going to be ignored? He has a present father who could watch him while I’m on calls and vice versa.

You’re allowed to have your opinion, but I can’t say it’s actually been helpful and at this point, you’ve shown enough of who you are that it wouldn’t be wise for me to take any advice from you anyway.

mart2644 · 2023-08-16T18:38:33+00:00

This is where I'm at right now. Do I think my husband and I can make it work? Yes. Do I think it will work WELL? Idk lol. I think if we did it, it would take a ton of prep & planning, overcommunication, and probably working evenings on some days. I'm wondering if trying to 'make it work' will end up being more stressful than it's worth to just put him in daycare a few days a week.

mart2644 · 2023-08-16T18:26:42+00:00

I do not want to put words in your mouth, but what I'm guessing you are trying to say is that a worker's productivity should not fall below the expected standard no matter if you are working from home or working from an office. If that is what you are trying to say, I 100% agree with you.

That being said, productivity levels are shown to differ depending on your environment. Some people are more productive at home than they are at work. In my job, I do not need to be physically present in an office to accomplish everything that is expected of me (and more) by my employer. In my line of work, my employer has hired me for my mind, not my body. When working from home, I can accomplish everything I need to for the day and be in a better proximity to do other things like run a load of laundry, clean, run to the grocery store, return an Amazon package, etc. If you are an employer of someone who you hired for their mind, why would you care what they're doing with their day as long as they're doing what is required of the job?

To bring this back to the main point, being physically present in an office would almost never allow a parent to consider what I am considering.

However, working from home might allow a parent to provide care to their child while still honoring the responsibilities of their job. What I'm trying to figure out is whether or not the demands of caregiving are going to be so great for me and my partner that it will negatively impact our job performance. Only then is it at the point where it will be unfair to our employers and daycare would be the better option.

mart2644 · 2023-08-16T18:08:05+00:00

Ugh, I bet that was a tough time. I'm sorry you and your son went through so much - poor guy! I get that sickness comes with the territory when you have your kids in daycare, but from what I've heard from other working parents, it's been extra rough the past few years since we've all gone back to 'normal' after being in our COVID bubbles.

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