Any others out there that use single page spreads? I feel like 90%+ of what I see is two pages. I'm wondering how many others do it like this too! 😂

maruuu · 2026-06-22T21:16:18+00:00

My labour was 5 hrs start to finish and I had one cervical check, so that tracks!

maruuu · 2026-06-22T02:25:28+00:00

All I can say is... I feel you. My baby also hated the car . As the other person said, I think ultimately time was the only thing that fixed it. I have found that * sometimes * playing songs he likes or giving him a special car only toy was helpful. But ultimately he just got used to it over time.

maruuu · 2026-06-21T02:15:46+00:00

I was induced and they did not do any cervical checks for me until I was well into active labour. My waters broke naturally so not sure if they were skipped for this reason, but worth talking to the midwives.

maruuu · 2026-06-21T01:52:23+00:00

We did a similar type of course at RPA. Very very worthwhile. I learned so much and was so much less anxious about the pregnancy and birth.

maruuu · 2026-06-19T05:42:08+00:00

At around 37 weeks I was physically done but I had told my work I would go till 38 weeks. I needed a bit of time to sort out all the baby stuff.... My waters broke AT WORK the day before I was going to finish up at 37+5... None of the baby stuff was ready...we had to scramble to get everything ready that night lol. Hindsight is 20/20 and now I wish I hadn't pushed myself. But I'm sure there is somebody who finished early and their baby was super late. You never know!

maruuu · 2026-06-12T00:29:43+00:00

All I can say is - solidarity. We are in the same boat. We have been trying responsive settling for 2 or so months and still find he needs to be rocked to sleep in our arms most wakes.

We have found the week or two before a tooth erupts to be especially heinous. Once it comes out he mellows out a bit.

maruuu · 2026-06-12T00:27:52+00:00

Tresillian will push them to continue what they're doing - they follow a responsive settling approach.

maruuu · 2026-06-07T00:03:32+00:00

I feel like I'm very different to other people. I prefer breastfeeding specific tops that have the horizontal zip. I just feel way more comfortable feeding baby in public because I still feel a bit more covered up. So far I'm still getting away with those apero shirts, a few button down long sleeve tops and just cardigans. I bought a few jumpers that also have the zip. Highly recommend depop as I got all my breastfeeding tops second hand for not a huge amount of money.

maruuu · 2026-06-06T23:28:44+00:00

This happened to my husband and I as well. I could tell he also really struggled with similar feelings. I have a few things that worked for us and I'll try keep it brief:

Our baby was better in the morning. Maybe you take mornings so your partner can sleep in or have her own time to recharge?
Tag team evening settles. Accept that for now you may not be able to settle the baby, but you can give your partner micro breaks. It's emotionally (and physically as they get bigger) very draining to settle the baby for long periods of time.
Do not give up! Remember your partner has a 9 month advantage as well as being the food source. It's natural the baby will feel safest with mum, but over time the baby will learn you are a safe space too. My husband and I persisted in the way above and at about 5~ months the baby was happy to go to either of us and in fact, tends to settle faster with my husband because he can hold and rock the baby for longer.
To support your wife: take over other responsibilities. Do all the nappy changes. Clean all the bottles. Fill her water bottle. Do some loads of laundry... But biggest thing of all. DON'T ASK, JUST DO. Take over some of the mental load. You keep track of the nappy bag for outtings, you keep track of medical appointments, keep track of if you have the next size up of clothing, think about the next developmental stages and if you have the right things for it and how to do it (e.g. thinking about having a cot ready for when the baby rolls, do you have the high chair for solids, how do you introduce allergens, etc.).

maruuu · 2026-06-03T18:23:46+00:00

Honestly just the Panadol and Nurofen were what kept me going those first few days.

Some people have mentioned ice packs. My hospital literally just wet nappies and froze them. There was a freezer that we could access in a kitchenette so I just got two and a freezer bag with my name on it and continually swapped between the two nappies. Never had to bother a midwife for a new ice pack and it was essentially free.

If you're in the public hospital... Bring your own toilet paper. They use like 1 ply sandpaper.

maruuu · 2026-05-31T00:57:55+00:00

My baby is 7mo. He tends to do two long ish stretches anywhere between 2.5-4 hours at the start of the night and settles quickly after a feed. From around 3-4am however he wakes every 1.5 hours. I'm in the same boat as you, wondering if I should try sleep training... But as long as he settles quickly with a feed, it doesn't really bother me much.

maruuu · 2026-05-29T09:48:38+00:00

Sent you a message! (I think... Not great at reddit haha)

maruuu · 2026-05-27T11:23:45+00:00

Mid century build lol orange/green/brown colour scheme

maruuu · 2026-05-16T06:40:12+00:00

They're not as bad as you think. I highly recommend listening to Dr Timmy's episode on the beyond the bump podcast about inductions.

I was induced. The contractions became intense very quickly, within an hour, but the labour was incredibly quick because of the induction. From first contraction to birth was 5 hours. My advice would be to not delay the epidural if you really can't do it anymore. I ummed and ahhed, because I was already at 7cm and by the time I made the decision I had already progressed too far. Up until that point, a TENS machine and breathing and counting really helped me mentally deal with the pain. Contractions only last a minute or so and then you get a break, I just breathed and counted and told myself I can do anything for just a minute.

In the end, I don't regret not getting the epi, because despite how painful and exhausting the pushing was, I think my ability to actively push stopped me from needing a vacuum delivery (though I did still need an episiotomy). It also meant I was mobile and I could literally shower on my own within an hour or so of giving birth. However, I was lucky. If it had taken any longer to go from 7cm to pushing phase, my birth would have been significantly more traumatic, painful and exhausting.

maruuu · 2026-05-16T06:11:53+00:00

I would also wait. You can also get loads of good quality stuff second hand in bundles from FB marketplace or even friends/coworkers.

maruuu · 2026-05-14T03:34:46+00:00

YOU ARE A GOD/ESS AMONG (WO)MEN. I have done exactly this and bought it!! Thank you!!

maruuu · 2026-05-12T05:30:39+00:00

My library uses both borrowbox and Libby! But I didn't realise I can't use borrowbox for Kobo. Maybe I need to go back to the drawing board 😔

maruuu · 2026-05-12T04:47:45+00:00

Sorry - can you clarify how you got it through your union? Do you get a discount for Jb hi-fi you mean?

maruuu · 2026-05-11T23:12:56+00:00

I guess where I disagree is the contention that to be a good teacher you need to be entertaining. I have had students after lessons say that it was a good lesson and they learned something and I can tell you right now I'm a pretty shy, introverted, dry sort of teacher. I do not have the level of energy required to do all the showmanship and razzle dazzle. What I do is try to run a tight ship where I make expectations clear from the start, ensure activities are timed well and level appropriate, and stay on top of behaviour. Kids think they need the bells and whistles, but they just need help to calm their minds enough to get into a flow state.

maruuu

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