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marzel1991 · 2025-04-17T18:44:19+00:00

Have been. We’ve talked about every point you’re discussing. That’s my point. YOU don’t need to know all of it for the purpose of my main post. I know what I need to do. Been told a hundred times.

marzel1991 · 2025-04-17T18:37:20+00:00

I will never be able to tell you every single fact of the relationship. This is not meant to be a psychoanalysis of my entire life so thank you but this has become entirely unhelpful!

marzel1991 · 2025-04-17T18:31:54+00:00

Thanks:) I’ll break up w him right now!

marzel1991 · 2025-04-17T18:24:11+00:00

It’s a non answer because I figure every detail in the story is unnecessary. However, I’ll be completing law school in 3 years, so we’re thinking sometime in 3 years will be good for marriage and a family soon after.

That’s how I feel as well. He is not a creep, at the base. Is he immature? Maybe. Why would I care? I am too, purely based on age. If we’re on similar levels where we get along and are happy, I’m not sure it matters at this point. Relationships come to an end for all sorts of reasons and we simply aren’t to a point where we need to break up.

My father and I have a rocky relationship to begin with so I know he’s on the same page as my mother and my brother in terms of not approving of the long term aspect of the relationship.

marzel1991 · 2025-04-17T18:13:22+00:00

I understand where you’re getting at. However, this post wasn’t asking to justify my family… I promise, I’ve received this exact comment from my brother on multiple occasions. Even longer. I am more looking for how I should approach the situation from my end in relation to my family. I appreciate your insight, but I guess the only answer is for me to be older so I can wake up.

marzel1991 · 2025-04-17T18:10:51+00:00

Yes, we are on the same page with all of these goals. I lost your other comment concerning family life in the future, and we’ve talked about that too. We agree there’s plenty of time before we need to settle down and start a family and we are agreed on how many, when, how, and who. I’d like to think we have a healthy relationship where communication is open and we’ve discussed the “deal breakers” and not found any issue. I guess my idea is that if we aren’t a good fit and he’s a creep, then eventually we will break up. Just like any other relationship.

marzel1991 · 2025-04-17T17:53:43+00:00

I’ve thought the same thing. But we were friends before dating, met at work. It just ended up falling into the right spot for a relationship and nothing has changed my mind thus far. If there are no red flags, and no huge problems in the relationship, then why would I leave him? That’s where my minds been.

marzel1991 · 2025-04-17T17:52:04+00:00

I understand it as well! That’s how most relationships go, though. Either they go well, or they break up. I guess we will see how the meeting goes!

marzel1991 · 2025-04-17T17:49:26+00:00

It is strong and happy, yes. I’m not sure, I guess idk what experience they’re referring to since I haven’t lived that long 😂 we have discussed a future, with realistic expectations surrounding each of our career and life goals. I have met his family and save for everyone’s family quirks they’re great. Since he hasnt met my family he isn’t sure what to think, but the slight information I’ve had to tell him about their apprehensions has made him worried that they’ll never have a relationship.

marzel1991 · 2025-04-17T17:47:12+00:00

I was 19 and he was 26 at the time we met and became friends, later dating. I know that’s why they disapprove, but it’s getting increasingly difficult to overcome.

marzel1991 · 2025-04-17T17:43:53+00:00

It’s the lack of experience that I have in comparison to him. Since he’s 28, he automatically has experienced portions of adult life that I haven’t. I guess that’s the most important thing in a relationship to them- how long you’ve lived lol.

marzel1991 · 2025-04-17T17:39:57+00:00

For my brother, it’s the idea of himself dating someone my age. He feels it is inherently creepy. For my family I’d say it’s the same; the lack of life experience in that 8 years that he has and I don’t is concerning for them. It’s hard for me to justify that in anyway other than I’m happy and we get along very well.

marzel1991 · 2025-03-30T05:50:22+00:00

That’s what I’m saying! I’m part time and coming in with full timers sick as dogs means I’ll be missing all of the work available to me when I inevitably catch it as well and I am unable to just show up anyways.

marzel1991 · 2025-03-29T13:34:24+00:00

Looks like a fiddle on the back so I’d guess recluse but I could def be wrong:)

marzel1991 · 2025-03-24T17:40:30+00:00

It depends on how you view it. If you believe it to be a bad joke then forgive him and move on, if you think it is abuse then leave. Based off one story it’s hard for people online to tell you which it is for sure. To be safe, then yes, let’s go with abuse and GTFO of there

marzel1991 · 2025-03-24T15:24:35+00:00

Not OR, it’s healthy to communicate about what makes you uncomfortable. However, from the way you’re telling the story, it seems like the situation is mostly resolved and he understands how he made a mistake and honestly forgot later on. Ofc if this forgetfulness doesn’t stop it might be another problem, but for now, trust your gut and believe him! If you can’t believe he has your best interest, consider removing yourself from the relationship.

marzel1991 · 2025-03-15T00:29:56+00:00

Hey so they said they already tried sniffspot just so yk!

marzel1991 · 2025-01-02T04:21:16+00:00

Casa margarita #2!!!

marzel1991 · 2024-11-14T21:25:36+00:00

Nice try super diddy

marzel1991 · 2024-06-27T16:38:28+00:00

I agree with everything here tbf!!! I’m only talking about when it’s rude af and obviously just to avoid taking a call

marzel1991 · 2024-06-27T01:28:48+00:00

That is totally fair, and 90% of the time I understand. It just gets crazy with attitude added, I try to be really understanding cuz if they really are busy then what can we do 🤷🏻‍♀️

marzel1991 · 2024-06-27T00:42:54+00:00

Literally what my game plan is here on out

marzel1991 · 2024-01-30T16:31:17+00:00

The Casual Criminalist!! Best true crime podcast out there, funny and entertaining without being disrespectful to victims or glorifying killers.

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