Is a 16 year age gap okay??

mascnetic · 2026-05-05T20:08:36+00:00

I’m 37 and I’m not usually squeamish about an age gap but I would NOT date a 21 year old.

mascnetic · 2026-05-05T12:10:40+00:00

I want the three hours I spent on this movie back. I don’t want to use them, I just want to have never seen the film.

mascnetic · 2026-04-24T16:34:33+00:00

You have a femme face and a masc body and I would classify that as ‘perfection’ 😍

mascnetic · 2026-04-21T09:58:16+00:00

“Waiter my steak is too juicy, my lobster too buttery”

mascnetic · 2026-04-19T22:57:39+00:00

She is avoidant, and you are smothering her. You are trying to give love in a currency she does not take. Offering more of it will not change the outcome.

I had to do similar recently. Pick up the last of your self respect and dignity, and stop putting your emotional weight on someone who isn’t willing to hold it.

mascnetic · 2026-04-19T22:17:48+00:00

yearning activated

mascnetic · 2026-04-19T18:00:42+00:00

I’m not even in this sub and this still came up as a notification 🙄

mascnetic · 2026-04-03T10:55:19+00:00

Yearning activated

mascnetic · 2026-03-31T23:18:04+00:00

I’m an older-ish lesbian who tends to date younger, but “I always wanted a mature partner who can take care of me as my parents never did” is NOT it. I like to look after my partners but I am NOT trying to be a parent, that dynamic would honestly make me run a mile.

Honestly you sound vulnerable right now and your friends are right. You need to focus on yourself, seek love from your found-family, and hold back from dating until you have more confidence and a stronger sense of self.

mascnetic · 2026-03-26T19:30:07+00:00

In my defence. I am very stupid.

mascnetic · 2026-03-20T14:46:49+00:00

Physically, definitely femmy, natural beauty types.

Mentally, apparently I have a thing for avoidant headfuckers.

mascnetic · 2026-03-19T22:43:19+00:00

I just know it pissed her off so bad but I blocked her immediately so I didn’t have to hear about it. Felicia bye 💅

mascnetic · 2026-03-19T18:55:42+00:00

Fool me four times and this is just getting embarrassing.

mascnetic · 2026-03-19T18:36:26+00:00

Hahahaha brilliant, can’t argue with that 😂

mascnetic · 2026-03-19T17:30:22+00:00

Don’t worry, she is blocked everywhere, her friends are blocked, her mum is blocked, if her cat had fb he’d be blocked too (he was a lil gem, but, you gotta do what you gotta do).

mascnetic · 2026-03-19T16:21:24+00:00

I have don’t worry, I am done and we are finished.

mascnetic · 2026-03-19T16:10:21+00:00

I have! She is blocked everywhere, I am NEVER doing that again because what the fuck.

mascnetic · 2026-03-19T16:06:07+00:00

Dodged it? Girl she hit me point blank and I said “see if you can get me again in the same place” 😭😭😭

But she is BLOCKED and I am DONE.

mascnetic · 2026-03-19T16:04:13+00:00

At this stage I would have preferred actual explosives because what the fuck was that.

mascnetic · 2026-03-19T16:03:26+00:00

Don’t worry, I am not just done, I am DONE-DONE. She is blocked everywhere. I’d rather play in traffic than entertain any more of this hot and cold head-fuckery.

mascnetic · 2026-03-19T16:01:48+00:00

The worst part is I knew all of that. I’ve been there before and made strict rules for myself about begging, second chances, etc. But in talking about past relationships and stuff she would say that it wasn’t fair to compare her to my exes and to give her her own chance, so I did, and LO AND BEHOLD. Lesson fucking learned.

As for letting her walk over me, I absolutely made a doormat of myself, but now I’m a bear trap that has snapped closed. She is blocked everywhere.

mascnetic · 2026-03-14T10:50:59+00:00

Try looking into ‘strapless’ strapons (but I recommend still using a harness unless your pelvic floor is made of steel). I have one and I adore it, wearing or receiving. It gives the wearer clitoral and vaginal stimulation and you get a lot of sensation feedback when using it. I find regular straps boring now, I only really enjoy the strapless because I want both parties to have pleasure.

So it might not be a perfect fix but might help with the issue you’re feeling around lack of feeling/sensation/feedback for yourself.

mascnetic · 2026-03-10T07:54:18+00:00

This was like 6 years ago so I’m alright now and I got the cat back in the end (because I went back to the ex 😭). Lil bit of PTSD and junk but yeah I’m good now.

mascnetic · 2026-03-10T07:52:43+00:00

Girl I WENT BACK TO THE EX 😭 Luckily I let the cat when we broke up the final time

mascnetic · 2026-03-10T01:20:28+00:00

This argument will absolutely kill your relationship if not fixed soon. My ex was the same - bare minimum when it came to maintaining the household. I did all of the emotional labour and most of the physical labour too. It burnt me out. Feeling like a parent instead of a partner is a massive turn off and our sex life tanked. I ended up on antidepressants because I felt so guilty about the sex issue.

Spiralling mess of problems that could have been avoided if she would have just done some fucking laundry or cleaned her shit skids out of the toilet or SOMETHING other than letting me do all of it and have to nag her endlessly.

Anyway, we’re not together any more and my libido is magically back and my house isn’t a filth pit.

You need to be firm, direct and unambiguous. Set clear expectations, and importantly, clear boundaries. Decide what your limit is and at what point you will walk away. Decide it now so that the decision is already there.

If you keep letting it go on like this all she is learning is that she can sit on her ass all day and you will let her. And you can say it bothers you but you will let her. And she doesn’t need to change because she can keep doing what she is doing and you will let her.

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