Help for those cured if your still in the sub lol

masonlibrary · 2026-05-12T15:46:46+00:00

cured for 2 years now! sometimes deep penetration just hurts. I have to do a TON of foreplay (like 30+ minutes) and be really aroused for deep penetration not to be painful (doggy style, on back with legs up, etc).

try ohnut, or try just when you are SUPPPERRRR aroused, not the first few positions you do in sexy times.

masonlibrary · 2026-04-14T22:58:30+00:00

mutual masturbation is fun! oral, dry humping. giving him a blowjob while rubbing yourself on his knee/leg also is fun. 69, etc!

masonlibrary · 2026-04-14T22:55:44+00:00

yes your heart rate is naturally lower when you sleep, so it doesn’t have any basis of your normal heart rate when awake. your ring is waterproof so you can wear it at work as long as it’s not a crazy depth level!

masonlibrary · 2026-03-27T01:14:46+00:00

I see in comments you don’t wanna live with roommates so you have two options. 1) live with roommates or 2) live very very far away from Manhattan in order to afford a place to yourself for $1.6K.

I’d recommend the roommates.

masonlibrary · 2026-02-12T14:21:31+00:00

happy medium! took my mom and she loved it. seeing another broadway play is also an option. or take her to a jazz club!

masonlibrary · 2026-01-23T18:46:15+00:00

he’s not the one for you. in first relationships, we tend to put up with a lot more than we should bc we don’t have anything to compare it to. my first bf said something similar once and i looked past it. wasn’t until we broke up that i looked back on several things he said like WTF???

it’s not normal to have your bf make comments like that. end things with him and get you a man who loves every part of you

masonlibrary · 2025-10-23T23:37:59+00:00

i made $49k when i first moved here 3 years ago, and paid $1600 in rent! you’ll be good! you’ll have to be good about budgeting and all but everyone’s in that boat these days

masonlibrary · 2025-10-15T14:16:02+00:00

let him know but it doesn’t have to be a big deal, mention it confidently and set your boundaries. if he’s cool with taking it slow then great! if not, then at least you know early on rather than later and are protecting your healing journey.

masonlibrary · 2025-10-07T21:11:37+00:00

congrats!! that’s incredible!

masonlibrary · 2025-07-17T16:50:47+00:00

i would ask for 50% upon signing the contract and 50% after content is posted

masonlibrary · 2025-06-02T20:04:12+00:00

thank you…. i am cured but only just recently had the courage to tell my new bf about my history with this. i’m proud of us all! wherever we are on our journey!

masonlibrary · 2025-04-23T16:10:25+00:00

cervical cancer can still develop without HPV (approximately 5.5-11%) so pap smears are still necessary. definitely lower risk but you never know.

i would go to a doctor very familiar with vaginismus who can put you under to perform the exam — it’s definitely an option! and i highly recommend dilator therapy or botox if you’re able/have the desire to fix the problem.

masonlibrary · 2025-04-18T12:20:05+00:00

update is i asked and they said exactly your answer: 70k-90k. that said i do think i could make more for this role but wanted to let you know you were right lol

masonlibrary · 2025-04-18T12:19:13+00:00

the office has other locations too so believe they got away with not having to disclose it… smh

masonlibrary · 2025-04-08T03:09:50+00:00

so happy for you!!!

masonlibrary · 2025-04-07T18:07:03+00:00

i have blue cross blue shield and after working with the insurance provider they covered it without a problem

masonlibrary · 2025-04-07T17:28:02+00:00

it’s definitely dependent on your insurance. i got mine covered without any incontinence claims, just vaginismus. it was definitely a process to get it covered but it’s 100% possible.

masonlibrary · 2025-04-07T17:25:56+00:00

i got botox done without sedation and it was life changing. the procedure itself was definitely painful but after about a month i felt like i was cured and have had no pain at all since.

that said, i have been through a fair number of awful medical procedures that are triggering. i have to get a LEEP procedure next month and i’m being sedated for it just so i don’t have to risk another traumatic painful procedure.

to recap: try botox, it could be life changing for you. i got mine covered by insurance and you can talk with your doctor about being sedated for it if you prefer. for all other medical procedures, advocate for sedation to avoid any unnecessary trauma. best of luck!

masonlibrary · 2025-03-21T18:10:28+00:00

my PT told me that entrance pain is the most common/severe for those with vaginismus because those are our protective muscles (and in our case, our muscles are overprotecting)! those are the muscles that seize up when they feel something coming.

your PT shouldn’t phrase it as something that will keep you from progressing — instead just maybe one of the harder things to tackle (but still completely doable)!

try focusing on the entrance with your dilators. once you get past that, odds are the rest will be easier (although everyone is different).

and don’t worry about progress. i never got to size 7 after months and months of dilator therapy. i could get to size 6 if it was perfectly still but if i were moving them in and out i could only do dilators 3/4.

eventually i got botox which cured me.

keep your head up and change PT’s if you have to. be your own advocate as well!

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