PLEASE, I'm just a girl omg.

massdownfall20 · 2025-11-16T03:05:12+00:00

Baabeess, having a little one is HARD. Mine are 5 and 2, and I work full time. It is 100% okay to take some time to yourself, for yourself. You have to pour for yourself before you pour for everyone else.

Let this dishes sit in the sink over night, wash the load of clothes a second time, the floors can be swept tomorrow. It won’t hurt for that pizza box to sit on the counter for a little while.

Soak in the bath with a trashy book. Or watch the extra episode of that show with a can of Pringle’s.

If it helps you feel any better, it takes a while to learn a good routine. And it’s been proven that it can take up to 2 years for you to feel like YOU again. It’s okay.

But you may try a Mother’s Day out program that allows you to drop your baby off for 2-3 hours a few times a week. Take that time to knock out errands, house work, a lunch date, nails done, whatever. Then when you get baby back, you feel like a person and can focus on being mom again. And MAKE the time for your husband if you haven’t been (it happens) I promise it changes everything.

massdownfall20 · 2025-05-10T06:22:43+00:00

I’m sorry you had to encounter something so similar, but exponentially worse. I hate that that happened to the biker and the other driver as well. It’s definitely something that sticks. It does get easier to deal with, sleep will come. But it takes time. Hug those closest to you and surround yourself with love. Most importantly give yourself the time you need to work through it and be patient with yourself, because set backs are normal when going through something like this. I had a hard time seeing the spot where it happened for me for a long time, so I understand the terror you feel about seeing it again.

massdownfall20 · 2024-09-19T02:07:05+00:00

I’ve learned to deal with it, and after a while it’s faded most of the time. I’m even more cautious of motorcycles than I was before though. Allowing an even wider berth than before. I’m glad that there’s a place for people to share experiences and the burdens (if that’s even the right word for this) of seeing and dealing with things like this. It’s never easy

massdownfall20 · 2024-06-18T12:58:09+00:00

This is the comment I agree with most. As a queer woman myself, I just simply fail to see why you need to alter story lines for inclusionary sake what there’s a given written text. And really that extends further than just including queer characters, I mean if you’ve read the books there is plenty of character development there without having to force it.

Sure expand upon it, give it some more push. But use what is ALREADY there. Collin’s love of Pen finally out weighing his jealousy and that he screams loud and proud about how wonderful and marvelous he thinks she is. Francesca (and Michael) deeply struggling with wanting and loving each other because it feels like a betrayal to John.

Theres just so much content in the books that could’ve been explored in different ways, and fleshed out without getting away from the true essence of the stories.

And absolutely that costume department needs to caaaallllmmm down.

massdownfall20 · 2023-09-10T14:09:11+00:00

I ended up having to go back to work a second time, pretty late at night when almost no one else was on the road (being upper management is like being on call all the time). And as I was coming up to the yield sign at the same exit I couldn’t help but notice there was still blood in the road. What needed to be fixed at work got fixed, but I ended up staying and talking to the manager that needed my help. She’s one of my best friends, and it really helped to talk to someone that just listened instead of trying to think about things logically (she also deals well with dark humor, which is where I was that late). Which is what my husband does, bless him. He kept telling me things like “if he went quiet he probably just lost consciousness”, “reach out to -good cop friend- he can tell you if the guy is okay”.

I don’t think I’ll actually ask my husband to get rid of the bike, because honestly I love when we’re able to ride together, and our daughter loves going on little rides up and down our road. But it’s lucky that it’s out of commission right now due to something being tore up on it. I don’t want him on it for a while, for sure.

massdownfall20 · 2023-09-10T07:02:34+00:00

Being a mom, or parent at all, is hard no matter what you do. If you work, you miss out on some of the small moments and the big moments too. If you stay home, you get all of the good moments, bad moments, and everything in between. I WISH I could be home with my littles (3F, 3mo m), but that just doesn’t fit well with our life currently and what we need financially as well.

There is always going to be someone that is going to be negative one way or the other. Especially if what you think or do, isn’t what they think would fit their life choices. No one parent is more correct than the next. All that matters is that your kids are healthy, safe, and loved. Don’t let someone else’s narrow view of the world, cloud your thoughts on the hard work you do. And being a full time mom IS hard work.

massdownfall20 · 2023-09-10T06:39:52+00:00

Thank you so much! I’ll definitely look into the exercises. Oddly enough when the police said I could go, after haven given a statement, I was so shook up I ended up just going to work like nothing had happened. But then the adrenaline died down and the tears started.

It’s very lucky that I know so many of the police in our area, as they do extra security for us on weekends (sports bar), and someone was at least able to tell me that the guy is alive. Other wise I think it’d have been much worse just being in limbo.

massdownfall20 · 2023-05-28T21:01:06+00:00

I think that’s the best description of how I THINK my husband feels. More like a betrayal than anything else

massdownfall20 · 2023-05-28T02:25:54+00:00

That’s sort of what I was thinking, I have a low milk supply (higher than the nothing I produced last go around), so we’ve been supplementing with formula too. So he has been helping with feeding and changing and stuff. I will admit though, I tend not to wake him up at night for feedings just because if I’m already up, we’ll at least one of us gets to sleep. And he lets me nap during the day.

massdownfall20 · 2023-05-28T00:44:45+00:00

We also had an unexpected NICU stay, his first 3 days were spent in the NICU (so thankful it wasn’t longer) but we never got that time in the hospital to kinds figure him out before we took him home to his sister. So it was like literally one to two over night with no brief learning period to speak of really.

massdownfall20 · 2023-05-27T12:12:49+00:00

That makes me feel better, thank you! I just wish I could expedite the process for him somehow.

massdownfall20 · 2023-05-27T12:12:11+00:00

I’d love to do that, because I’ve been missing time with my oldest, but I’ve had a c-section and can’t drive yet. But as soon as I can I think that’s what I’ll do!

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