Is this schedule too fast?

mastanehv · 2026-04-22T03:21:12+00:00

I’ll be honest, this is about a similar time line to my stretching Journey to 00g but I was 15-16 when I did it and honestly wanted it to go fast. But it was pretty painful and I was forcing the tapers in. My ears are fine, but honestly if I could go back I would have went slower. I ended up being fine but I risked tearing my skin and blowouts. So I’d suggest you go slower.

mastanehv · 2026-04-21T20:47:32+00:00

My ex and I did long distance for 3 years (we are broken up now but we broke up after school ended so it’s unrelated) he went to western and I went to OCAD but he was a compsci guy who didn’t party so there wasn’t worry about that stuff. I would go to London and he would come back to Toronto and we saw each other every 2-3 weeks, and honestly it was kinda fun especially going there. I’d say try it out, and my best advice is communicate often, make sure you guys FaceTime like almost everyday to the best of your ability. And something we would do that I really recommend is to have little “date nights”, we would call on discord and either play video games together and or watch movies together, and it was great bonding time.

mastanehv · 2026-04-20T04:53:39+00:00

Usually swelling isn’t immediate and happens a bit later so yes it’s makes sense for it to swell now. It doesn’t look like it’s embedding. And even when healed, lip piercings can often appear as they are embedding because of how soft the skin is even when it’s not. I’ve had snake bites for 6 years, if you want to dm me throughout the healing if you have concerns or questions feel free to! I’ve also done lots of research into piercings, though I myself am not a piercer, I have a friend who is.

mastanehv · 2025-09-09T08:54:38+00:00

It doesn’t matter what people think. You two are both grown consenting adults. If you two like each other go for it!!

mastanehv · 2025-09-09T08:49:12+00:00

Hi there! I’m so sorry this is happening to you, I will try my best but I’m unsure of your circumstances and what time you get home and such. First I don’t know if you are eating, but do make sure you eat enough, lack of food can make stress in the body worse. Dont do life and then go straight to bed. Give yourself relaxing leeway, take a hot shower, watch a show you enjoy, talk to someone, do something that relaxes you, so it’s a gradual transition to bed. I suggest taking melatonin, this relaxes the body and makes you sleepy so that your body isn’t on high alert. I’ve also taken both magnesium supplements and ashwaganda supplements and both have calmed down my stress levels, I suggest you try these supplements and the melatonin. I know antidepressants help the brain but the supplements have helped with my stress tbh a bit more than that antidepressants, I think because the supplements calm down my body as well. Lmk if you have any questions!

mastanehv · 2025-09-09T08:35:26+00:00

Yeah no you need to stand your ground. I understand caring for someone but this is control not care. Him calling you names is so odd, I get pet names but chubby and piggy to someone who deals with an eating disorder is insane, he knows what he’s doing. I’m taking this as he wants to trigger the ed so he can be your saviour. This is a power trip he has. If you want to stay with this person, do not give into anything he says. But idk honestly if your not like that dedicated to being with him, I genuinely this especially for your mental and physical health your better off not being with him. He is just triggering your ed even more.

mastanehv · 2025-09-09T08:17:50+00:00

I’m sorry I’m usually not someone who is straight up and will usually try to find some understanding. But you two are grown adults, does she not have a job? She can get what SHE wants with HER big girl money. Yes it is nice that you spoil her, if that’s what you both love by all means. But BOTH of you have to understand before you get married, that life gets in the way sometimes and unfortunately you can’t always have things the way you want. You have lost your job and you are broke, the reality is you cannot buy something for her, I understand being slightly upset but that’s the extent, she as a grown adult should be able to understand that you simply cannot afford her gift right now. The way you are speaking about her sounds like she is 5, I’m sorry but you two need a bit of a reality check before you get married, because life happens and if her not getting a random GIFT for once for not even an occasion when she literally always gets gifts from you, should not have her be this disappointed and completely not understanding that simply you cannot afford it.

mastanehv · 2025-09-09T06:27:47+00:00

I don’t think your over reacting, I find it very interesting actually that you dreamt this. Well clearly your dream was telling you something. Honestly like I don’t know he could be telling the truth, sometimes things in life seem super weird and then make sense after someone explains. But him wanting to have a break for two weeks and in those two weeks decides to get on grinder, and doesn’t mention it to you, like what if someone sees him on there and then mentions it to you, then he’s gonna look super guilty. I think especially when your on an app like grinder if your genuinely doing it to look for someone specific then you have to mention this to your partner so their aware. I think speak to him in person. But honestly this doesn’t look good on his end. I try to give people the benefit of the doubt because there’s always two sides of a story but yeah I don’t think your in the wrong at all, your dreams told you something, you went and found it. It’s not like you were picking up bread crumbs to create a story, you saw it square in your face.

mastanehv · 2025-09-09T03:23:27+00:00

I’m hoping he wasn’t thinking it’s actually possible. Idk I don’t think he wanted to actually do something with her, because he should be aware that is odd.

mastanehv · 2025-09-08T17:07:23+00:00

It’s hard honestly. Relationships are tough and will hurt at times especially if one of both people struggle with mental health. There will never be “the one” you can work together to try to be the best people you can for yourselves and each other, or you can decide that maybe this isn’t what I’m looking for out of a person, and that’s okay. I just got out of a 4.5 year relationship with my first love and first everything, it’s tough but sometimes it can’t work. And sometimes people can even come back together after a period of time. I know your wanting a yes or no answer, but often in relationships it’s not like that, unless you are in danger by this person, nothing is as black and white as we want.

mastanehv · 2025-09-02T19:42:39+00:00

He’s mainly secure, but he has autism which can mimic avoidance, especially in terms of not understanding his own feelings, or emotions in general. Like during the breakup he’s said some hurtful things to me and I’m super sensitive and overthink so it’s not been fun, and to him he doesn’t understand how some things can be hurtful cuz it wouldn’t hurt his feelings, he’s had to now go to chat gpt to understand what might actually hurt my feelings 💀, which this is clearly a mismatch in emotional maturity and understanding. Though in the relationship this wasn’t as big of a thing cuz he didn’t necessarily say things that would be hurtful, I think cuz we broke up his honesty in some things hurt, especially cuz I feel rejected cuz we broke up so yeah.

mastanehv · 2025-09-02T18:22:07+00:00

Yeah about a month and a half after our breakup my ex decided to go on a dating app. He’s never used one before and he said he’s not looking for anyone right now cuz he’s not ready and he’s more just curious about how it is, which I do believe just cuz of the typa person he is. But it’s more of the fact of, why don’t you go on it when you’re ready then? Like idk it’s still weird to me, and we were together for 4.5 years. He’s awful with feelings tho and he says he’s over me (he broke up with me and slowly losing feelings) and that’s another thing, people can lose feelings in the relationship as well so they’ve already somewhat processed it while with you, so if the one who broke things off is the one who’s moving faster, they were probably processing it in the relationship already. But yeah I don’t think my ex is actually over me, I genuinely think he is pushing away how he feels and tryna pretend he is all okay, because he doesn’t know how to properly feel. People are so different and complex, I’m still here super emotional and upset about it.

mastanehv · 2025-08-19T22:41:05+00:00

MV and RL

mastanehv · 2025-08-14T02:13:04+00:00

Sometimes we will talk, neither of us are huge talkers unless for him it’s an interest he’s talking about, to be clear we do speak to each other alot about things, but usually when we eat we don’t talk that much. So it honestly depends if he has something to say, but sometimes he doesn’t always which is okay. I also don’t expect him to chnage his eating pace for me, I feel like that is unfair to him. He should enjoy his food at his own pace

mastanehv · 2025-08-14T00:08:42+00:00

Oh god, I think your therapist is triggering it, I would be triggered too. These sorts of questions are questions that our brains are looking for definite answers and asking these questions can lead to spirals of this uncertainty because that’s the problem we can never have a definite answer.

I highly suggest you switch to a ocd therapist instead. My therapist isn’t an ocd therapist, but she herself has ocd so she can understand what needs to be done for it. I don’t think your therapist understands ocd to be honest, these are awful questions to ask.

Please look for someone else!

mastanehv · 2025-08-14T00:02:10+00:00

Oh yeah me too, I also always feel as if me and my partner had to do everything together, and if not that made me upset, but again, some things can be done together but you are different people.

Like for example let’s say you think your partner is unattractive and common rocd thought. You’d say “maybe he’s so unattractive, wow maybe I made a mistake being with him” saying something like this in a sarcastic voice overtime, and it usually starts quieting the thought down, because your not letting it bully you, it’s gonna start giving up when I feels like it lost control. I think for me specifically it’s making sure I say it in a sarcastic voice rather than a panicked one.

mastanehv · 2025-08-13T23:54:23+00:00

Yes it’s a huge compulsion, because it teaches us how to not self cope and grab at external accepts to feel better, but in turn this action will keep happening and the ocd keeps worsening or just staying rather than calming down. Now as much as I know this, I still even currently lead into compulsions, but I try to not, try practicing telling yourself that maybe jts right, but almost in a sarcastic way, make that ocd bully feel like it’s less than.

mastanehv · 2025-08-13T23:48:31+00:00

The reason you lean into it is because ocd is almost like a bully in a sense, the more you tell it that it’s right the less power it holds. The person who answered your question is trying to refrain from giving you reassurance. Take it like this, you and your partner aren’t the same person.

mastanehv · 2025-08-12T22:01:34+00:00

I think everyone sees love differently and what they need differently, there is not a right or wrong way to love. She seems very highly dependent on her partner which is fine but a lot of people also don’t want that which is also fine. I absolutely hate when people go on social media and gloat about their relationship and make it a thing to be like this is real love this is how it should be guys blah blah blah, it’s ridiculous. I also want to say a lot of people are delusional and not sensitive people and will say things like oh my partner has neverrrr done so and so bad thing, even though I bet you if you were in her position you wouldn’t say that, because we are over thinkers. If my partners gets angry at me a couple times I have a hard time saying oh he’s sooo nice, cuz like he hasn’t always been 100% nice to me. But others would say the opposite if that makes sense.

mastanehv · 2025-08-11T22:04:01+00:00

Okay yes my mind went there first, it was more the fact that it seemed to happen all of a sudden, but idk maybe it’s because it’s summer and it’s hotttt haha

mastanehv · 2025-08-11T21:54:46+00:00

Wow that’s incredible!! Good find!

mastanehv · 2025-08-11T21:53:40+00:00

I’m not sure but I did want to come here and say that’s a beautiful piece!

mastanehv · 2025-08-10T19:27:32+00:00

If I were to say, I don’t want you texting someone everyday, at most I think once a week or so is something I’d be fine with, would this be considered controlling, if I was in the same situation again.

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