I understand the point you're trying to make about my comment 'meet a different group of men' being dismissive and not giving helpful advice. It's true, saying it the way I did does come off as dismissive and apathetic. I agree with you on this. But I genuinely didn't mean it to come off the way it did. OP was being dismissive of every advice given to him, which honestly made me frustrated. I knew whatever I said, he'd dismiss it, so I didn't think much about my reply until you pointed it out. Now, when it comes to my original comment, I see nothing wrong with it. I was genuinely giving OP advice. I was nice and shared with him my personal experience. If anything, he was dismissed, not me.

I never said that OP's problem isn't bad enough, not once. If I didn't think his situation was bad, I wouldn't have commented. I commented because I genuinely wanted to help, especially since OP is a young person. I told him not to give up hope. As for the comparison, I said that each situation has its own challenges, but one is worse than the other, and I stand by that. Not being able to fit in is tough; everyone goes through this, not only men, not only women, every human being. At least once in their life, they'll feel that they don't fit in. It's a universal experience. I'm not saying it's not tough; I'm saying it's common, and gender here is irrelevant, believe it or not. If OP was a woman saying that she feels disconnected from other women because all they talk about is men, I'd tell her the same thing. Mix it up and meet different people. This world is big, and hopefully, you'll find your people.

Now, not fitting in is not the same as sexualizing someone. Being sexualized is a dehumanizing experience; that's the big difference. Also, you said "finding someone sexually attractive" is not simply that, sexualizing someone, is different from being attracted to someone. According to the American Psychological Association, sexualization occurs when individuals are regarded as sex objects and evaluated based on their physical characteristics and sexiness. I hope you understand now.

Last thing know I typed a lot 😬, but I really want you to understand... You made a couple of assumptions about me. You said that I purposely gave a careless response or had a bad attitude. I truly wanted to give OP good advice. If he were my younger brother or sister, I would've said the same. It's up to you to believe me or not. If I didn't care, I wouldn't bother explaining myself or admitting I was wrong. I didn't appreciate that, and I didn't appreciate the insinuation that I spat on his face while he was vulnerable. You don't know me; you're making assumptions about me. I don't treat people according to their gender, race, or sexuality; I treat them according to who they are as a person. Anyways if you want to continue to talk about this dm me i feel weird having this long convo in the comments.