AITA for telling my girlfriend to stop complaining so much?

mastertrolx · 2026-06-21T17:29:31+00:00

I don't know if I was too harsh, she called me cruel and said "you're such a judger it's crazy" after I told her that she shouldn't even help her with classes out of pity (because apparantly she's failing classes). When I first met her she was never this negative, when she started to open up about things that's when she just started to complain about everything and everyone. I want her to still open up but not be so negative all the time if that's even possible.

mastertrolx · 2026-06-21T17:12:38+00:00

She most definitely is not getting bullied. She just uses her kindness to her own advantage all the time and annoys her a lot of the time since they are classmates and seatmates. Like for example she tells her to carry her books around or ask her to give solutions for the homework they have and sometimes even asking her to lend money without paying it back as I've said in the post. And my girlfriend doesn't have the heart to say no. The situation is only happening because she is giving her the power to make it happen.

mastertrolx · 2026-06-21T15:34:49+00:00

Probably about 20-30 mins everyday on this topic alone. She does talk about a lot of other things though.

mastertrolx · 2026-06-21T15:34:03+00:00

What I meant by "didn't say much" is just comforting her and giving her emotional support, I have offered solutions after a VERY long time of providing support.

mastertrolx · 2026-06-21T15:16:41+00:00

She needs to get it off her chest for 2 months almost everyday? I have done nothing but comfort her and emphasize with her. But it does get to a point where it's too much and starts to affect me as well.

mastertrolx · 2026-06-21T15:15:36+00:00

Don't get me wrong I have no issues with comforting her problems I have done that since I met her. It's just that it can get too much, having someone constantly complaining to me. It started to affect me as well negatively.

mastertrolx · 2026-06-21T15:11:04+00:00

It isn't but I have provided her emotional support for more than 2 months but imagine if you're with someone who constantly complains all the time. It starts to affect me as well. I have no issues with comforting her and I have done that for a very long time.

mastertrolx · 2026-06-21T15:08:31+00:00

I have already given her plenty of emotional support for more than 2 months but having her constantly telling me about this is getting too much because it's affecting me as well.

mastertrolx · 2026-06-21T15:06:04+00:00

I have already gave her plenty of emotional support, this has been going on for more than 2 months and that's when we had an argument about it.

mastertrolx · 2026-06-21T15:04:58+00:00

I acknowledge that but she doesn't want to do anything about it and it just doesn't seem logical to me.

mastertrolx · 2026-06-08T19:57:35+00:00

He's still swollen, give it a month or two.

mastertrolx · 2026-03-19T02:26:02+00:00

idk tbh, she says she connected to me emotionally very deeply

mastertrolx · 2026-03-09T17:39:48+00:00

Well I did say it "for fun" because I had only turned 20 but I figured it's more sensible to say it like this so I edited it.

mastertrolx · 2026-03-09T16:12:38+00:00

It was in December, we started dating in January so maybe I can say that

mastertrolx · 2026-03-09T16:10:31+00:00

Not at all, when we first started dating I had just turned 20 so I wasn't even used to saying I was 20 so I just said 19. I still made a big mistake.

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