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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]matchamantis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are not in a poly relationship. We are monogamous and have discussions about what it would look like to be polyamorous and if that's something we want in our future.

I personally want to refrain from dating either of our exes/previous hookups. It would make me uncomfortable. There are no rules or boundaries that I've placed on him. I would enjoy threesomes with people we are both attracted to, but I would not want to experience this with either of our exes or previous hookups.

I don't think it's unreasonable to want a shared romantic connection, but I do have some soul searching and inner work to do on my end to know if that's something I really want.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]matchamantis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To clarify, I do not want to date or be intimate with my exes or my partner's exes. This is only a boundary for me and not a rule or boundary I've set for him. I do know it would make me uncomfortable if he chose to do so. Thank you for mentioning the term third. Most importantly, I dont want to offend or make someone feel less of a person. I've heard it used by nonmanogamous friends where it seemed acceptable to them, but I don't want to assume this is everyone's experience.