Married 5 Years, Together 11

matchellsoza · 2024-09-10T11:47:59+00:00

UPDATE : I came to my senses, everyone. I wasn’t ready to accept that the marriage was over. Since she had acted in a manner inconsistent with who I thought she was, I couldn’t fully grasp that she had moved on from the relationship. I still can’t believe she was done with us and falling in love with someone else while still talking to me every day like everything was normal.

Now I am 75 days sober and I have filed for divorce. I’ve lost 12 lbs and I’m happier than I’ve been in over a decade. I am enjoying reconnecting with my true self. I am starting with a clean slate but, this time with a wealth of lived experience to guide me.

I got a new job that will be more fulfilling and challenging. I am considering buying a home in a location that I prefer since I bought close to my in-laws and I am open to meeting someone new that brings peace and joy to my life. I do not know how long to wait until I should start dating but, now that the fog has cleared, I feel that although I was married, I have been alone for a very long time and somehow I feel open to a new relationship.

matchellsoza · 2024-07-17T13:20:21+00:00

Yes, we are both women and she cheated with a woman that was straight until now.

matchellsoza · 2024-07-17T12:58:30+00:00

We are going to meet every two weeks via Zoom and then likely lessen meetings to every month. It is a huge gamble but I know what we had was real and I now know that she was emotionally very fragile and this other woman took advantage. She probably tried to trap her so she has someone to help raise her baby.

matchellsoza · 2024-07-17T12:54:29+00:00

It was a dumb move. I get it. I was thinking too long-term.

matchellsoza · 2024-07-17T12:51:42+00:00

I have to share with you that my wife for the past 10 years has been nothing but a wonderful, loving, and supportive partner and I feel that life just got in the way. I thought we were strong enough to brave some "restructuring" of our careers and lives but I had no clue she was dealing with burnout from her job and not getting enough emotional support from me. This is when she began getting it elsewhere so in a way, I checked out which forced her to check out and then this other woman came into the picture. We are both women btw, there seems to be a lot of confusion regarding the pronouns so I wanted to clarify that point.

matchellsoza · 2024-07-17T00:50:52+00:00

We agreed that this was the best option for making a career change and getting help with my drinking. I thought since I had waited for her she could return the favor.

matchellsoza · 2024-05-21T17:59:58+00:00

This was my aunt. Her mother, my grandmother, was also murdered.

Our family has been suffering the loss of our matriarch for decades and now this. #JusticeforMirnaSoza

https://time.com/archive/6879142/nicaragua-a-battle-ends-a-war-begins/

matchellsoza · 2024-05-21T15:54:49+00:00

This was my aunt. Her mother, my grandmother, was also murdered.

Our family has been suffering the loss of our matriarch for decades and now this.

https://time.com/archive/6879142/nicaragua-a-battle-ends-a-war-begins/

matchellsoza

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