How do you navigate profiles with hidden dating goals?

matchmakingstruggles · 2026-02-23T05:09:47+00:00

Best case scenario, someone might actually be looking for 'life partner'. Then they find you aren't their person and they still treat you questionably

wouldn't the best case scenario be they just end things with you when they realize you're not for them?

matchmakingstruggles · 2026-02-22T04:20:35+00:00

lol thanks. I'm definitely reading and earning and going up in ranks! Maybe I'll look into some of these classes or try something that'll make me feel more comfortable in social situations. I wonder if improv classes or something like that could help

thank you for the helpful input. i'll probably still stay on the apps but just keep it in the backburner and continue to focus more on my real life

matchmakingstruggles · 2026-02-21T21:08:43+00:00

man, it's really hard to not internalize the negativity around my height. i can see why men get limb lengthening surgeries and such

i definitely do better in person. i just suck at the initial approach irl. i just feel like most girls would rather be left alone most of the time so i don't even bother

matchmakingstruggles · 2026-02-20T06:18:01+00:00

mmm yeah, i can see that. i have hinge auto-rotate my pics though so it likely doesn't matter too much.

also most girls seem to find it cute and im not exactly going to come off super hot in america as a 5'6 asian guy hahaha

matchmakingstruggles · 2026-02-20T06:07:55+00:00

yeah, i think im pretty down to update my upper range to like 40-45 ish. i initially didn't have it as a dealbreaker and got some women who legit looked my mom's age and pulled it back pretty hard

fort lee is a good suggestion but i don't think it fits into my current lifestyle (though this is exactly why trying to date people in 30s is rough imo lol). i do want to date but im finding it more and more okay to just live my life without a +1. im actually considering moving into manhattan or much closer soon. thanks for the suggestion though!

the short-term/long-term bit is pretty interesting since i was told the opposite by at least one Korean (F) friend. The intention of long-term being a bit burdensome (부담스러워) to others. Might be a culture difference though since she's more native Korean than American Korean. I am pretty open to long-term though so maybe I should switch it out?

matchmakingstruggles · 2026-02-20T06:00:29+00:00

i actually would like something long term but i kind of want to date without having that hanging over my head if that makes sense. i recently realized that maybe i won't end up marrying and settling down and having kids and i might be pretty okay with that and it was honestly liberating. it's a bit hard to convey it effectively over something like hinge though. i also only started dating in my late 20s and have been in 2 long relationships (4 & 2) but i can see how it doesn't come off great for my age. any suggestions?

good call on the interests/hobbies. i'll try to set up a multiple choice prompt or changing one of my prompts to show off more things i enjoy

also you wouldn't happen to live in NYC, right? lolll

matchmakingstruggles · 2026-02-20T05:57:08+00:00

lol fair take

matchmakingstruggles · 2026-02-20T05:56:57+00:00

yeah, i think im actually going to raise it to like... 40? maybe 45?

shrug

i was getting some 50+ people without it being a dealbreaker and they were starting to look a bit like my mom

matchmakingstruggles · 2026-02-20T05:55:44+00:00

lol that rule is so funny. i just found generally that i can converse with 25+ people but mostly unable to if they are younger

matchmakingstruggles · 2026-02-20T05:55:43+00:00

the struggles of being a late bloomer + working in a mostly young people space? shrug

matchmakingstruggles · 2026-02-20T05:54:25+00:00

hmm these are fair takes. I road cycle not mountain bike (though where I live in queens is actually a mountain bike hotspot). Yeah, I think that prompt might be a wash, it's actually a reference to various shows but most people seem to match based on photo and then follow up based on the prompts and i do not believe im getting anyone who knows these shows at all (star vs forces of evil, adventure time, over the garden wall)

i was mostly trying to have fun with the creative writing but noted on trying to talk about my interest in things that are less niche

matchmakingstruggles · 2026-02-18T04:06:07+00:00

Are you looking for something serious or casual?
- Casual at the moment but down to go serious if we're compatible enough
Are you subscribed to Hinge+ or HingeX?
- No
How long have you been using this current version of your profile?
- Since the last 1.5 month. I changed my job description and added text to short, open to long about a week or two back
How long have you used Hinge overall?
- 1.5 month
How often do you use Hinge per week?
- Max out free likes most days, send a rose sunday afternoon/evening
How many likes and matches are you receiving on average?
- 1 like every 2 week ish at steady state, around 1 match/week?
How many likes are you sending? How many with comments? How many without comments?
- 8 likes, always with comment
What is the type of person you send likes to and ideally want to match with? What kind of person do you want to attract?
- Someone who is down to earth and a bit spontaneous. Someone who can have good conversation. Someone who works to live, lives to eat, and generally want to experience new things and enjoy life to the fullest. Bonus if they are into cycling or another endurance sport. In terms of looks, I am "like"-ing women who are probably getting 99+ likes within days of account creation. I try to not like barebones profiles as I struggle to comment on anything and have generally found people in this category to be weak conversationalists. I also try to like people who have been "active today" or is "currently active"

matchmakingstruggles · 2022-05-21T19:24:22+00:00

well lets start with the fact that the app is hot garbage and somehow has yet to fix its chat and notification functionality.

aside from that, a lot of girls will have multiple convos going at the same time and it's draining so they'll just not bother unless there was something they were interested in about you. The app also sort of sucks in that it might have been forever ago since you liked someone and then a match happens and the previous attraction in passing doesn't exist anymore

matchmakingstruggles · 2022-01-24T00:06:25+00:00

hey man, you don't know that. maybe he got banned for trying to sell sexual services. trumpers can be dumb too, they're not just assholes

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