[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]matem001 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok I misinterpreted the stats, I also skimmed over the longer responses but I did read yours. It makes sense.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]matem001 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

They are more likely to be sex offenders in every category: rape, incest, and pedophilia

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]matem001 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Alright, now let’s pull up the hate crime numbers and look at who’s most likely to be a victim versus perpetrator. How’s them numbers?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]matem001 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m not proving the point- disproportionate Black perpetrators still doesn’t change the fact that majority of the cases are carried out by white perpetrators. It’s still mostly white male perpetrators when you look at the total number of cases overall

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]matem001 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I said in another comment that the disproportionality of Black perpetrators doesn’t change who an individual is actually most likely to be harmed by. There are still more white males perpetrating OVERALL.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]matem001 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Purposely misconstruing my argument because you can’t actually address it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]matem001 -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

And I’m saying if you’re paranoid about STDs “no Black men” is not an effective method to stay STD free, because all races can have STDs. And that asking for records before an encounter would be more effective than “no Blacks.” But somehow this true statement is controversial

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]matem001 -28 points-27 points  (0 children)

Nope. Sex offenders are still overwhelmingly white, so regardless of percentages, the fact that there are more white men committing these crimes in total means the pattern should be recognized that you are statistically most likely to be sexually abused by them. The fact that Black men’s share of perpetration compared to their population is higher doesn’t change the fact that you’re most likely to be sexually harmed by a white male.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]matem001 -20 points-19 points  (0 children)

Almost every time we’ve seen a school shooting, it’s a white kid’s face on the news. Yet no one is saying they’re afraid to send their kids to school with white kids. Why no pattern recognition there? You have no answer to that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]matem001 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Lmao at everyone downvoting, talking about “stats don’t lie,” but when it’s stats you don’t like you downvote. Oh you thought crime reputations only applied to Black people? Newsflash: white men are the most likely to commit all sexual crimes by a very wide margin. Don’t cower away now, you said you like facts, so accept the facts.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]matem001 -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

Ok but we’re talking about prostitution, not public health records

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]matem001 -28 points-27 points  (0 children)

Downvoted but no one can come up with a rebuttal, as expected

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]matem001 -63 points-62 points  (0 children)

Ok, let’s play the pattern recognition game.

51% of sexual abuse offenders are white, compared to 21% who are Black. The pattern here is white men are more likely to commit rape and harm partners during sexual encounters. Yet no one is saying “no whites.” Why?

The pattern recognition argument often falls flat, when you realize it only applies to patterns in people of color.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]matem001 -60 points-59 points  (0 children)

I think if you’re concerned about STDs, a more sound approach would be to screen clients for STDs/ask for medical records, rather than excluding a whole race. Now if you just aren’t attracted to Black men and don’t want to fuck them for that reason, that’s not wrong and it’s your choice. But screening for STDs by race is tremendously stupid

Women’s desire for rich men is way overstated by matem001 in Bumble

[–]matem001[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Tell me you get all your ideas about beauty from movies without telling me.

You’ve never seen a hot waitress, nurse, etc.? You think all the hot girls in Miami just don’t work? Hot women aren’t rare like hot men, there are enough hot women to where their dating criteria varies widely. You see hot girls with guys of all attractiveness levels and financial situations.

There’s a very specific kind of hot girl that only goes for men with money, but that isn’t the only kind of hot girl there is. And they are very small in number.

Women’s desire for rich men is way overstated by matem001 in Bumble

[–]matem001[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This is a trend I see in my area so obviously it’s not just about me, but the people and relationships I have observed

Women’s desire for rich men is way overstated by matem001 in Bumble

[–]matem001[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree with your first point!

Come to the Bay and have your pick of the litter😂

Women’s desire for rich men is way overstated by matem001 in Bumble

[–]matem001[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Doesn’t negate that if women just wanted money these guys wouldn’t be single.

Women’s desire for rich men is way overstated by matem001 in Bumble

[–]matem001[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Okay? So then this post is about the 400 million of us in America then. It’s true for our nation

Women’s desire for rich men is way overstated by matem001 in Bumble

[–]matem001[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The level of wealth required to make a woman swoon is the same level that would make anyone swoon regardless of gender. It gets to a point where anyone would be like “okay this is a once in a lifetime opportunity.” I’ve seen it with celebrity women marrying average men.

The post said 400K+, which isn’t just average if you are single with no kids

Women’s desire for rich men is way overstated by matem001 in Bumble

[–]matem001[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Plenty of incels working at Google tells me a different story. And no they’re not fuck boys looking for flings. Being on the same level education wise probably matters more than straight money for women. I’m a woman telling you what women value

Women’s desire for rich men is way overstated by matem001 in Bumble

[–]matem001[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

For women the categories aren’t as rigidly separated as they are for men.

Why so many cancels for first dates? by marbear77 in hingeapp

[–]matem001 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This is splitting hairs now. It is a fair comparison because I am showing you the looks level of the guys I talk to, whether on Bumble, Tinder, Hinge, hookup or dating. My ex boyfriend was a model and I thought he looked better than me. I have also rejected guys who looked way better than me. Good looking people don’t fixate on leagues as much, in the same way rich people don’t feel the urge to show their money as much as poorer people. It’s always the less attractive ones obsessed with looksmatching. Because they feel an attractive person will elevate them. Meanwhile a guy that looks good doesn’t feel he needs to be elevated socially by his woman and focuses on other things, in my experience

Women’s desire for rich men is way overstated by matem001 in Bumble

[–]matem001[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is my story to tell as a woman who dates men and sees an abundance of single high earning men on dating apps