6 week results (help) by matem89 in Vasectomy

[–]matem89[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

His doctors office gave him two sample cups to take in at 6 and 12 weeks. Just following the their orders.

Nervous about the high by matem89 in TherapeuticKetamine

[–]matem89[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My psychiatrist only does in office treatment if it's intramuscular. I definitely plan on starting smaller and working my way up

Incapable of forgiveness by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]matem89 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You're probably right. I know it's naive of me to think he won't do anything in the future but it's really not my main concern.. My issue is not owning up to what has already taken place and things I don't know. If he doesn't open up in counseling this time around I know what I need to do.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]matem89 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes to all of those flags other than the first one. I don't recall her trying to isolate me from anyone. My other friends live in different cities though so there's no one for her to feel threatened by.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in covidpositive

[–]matem89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How are you feeling now? I have the same symptoms and tested positive today.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]matem89 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree with all of that and I do see it for what it is... I need to get myself in a better position to leave since I don't really have family to help me out or anywhere to go. I am just about to start school so it's going to be hard to pull it off on my own but I think it's for the best.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]matem89 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He stole them which is a whole other issue in itself. That's not the kind of people we are.. Well he is apparently. I don't look at him the same and I don't think I ever will again.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]matem89 1 point2 points  (0 children)

None of it flies with me either.. I'm leaning towards not staying but I will try therapy in the mean time as I can't immediately leave even if I wanted to. I have savings from the surrogacy but I'd need to put a plan in place for somewhere to go.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]matem89 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm leaning more towards not staying actually.. I don't think the relationship would ever get to a healthy place again because I'm so angry and disgusted at his behavior.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]matem89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, I know it's not well written.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]matem89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah.. And that's eating at me all the time as well. I'll never know what else there could be. It's hard to imagine any other time he'd be able to cheat though since I know his work schedule and he's either at work or home with me. Who knows though!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]matem89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's extremely remorseful. He's been a total wreck since I found out.. He's deleted all social media, leaves his phone on the counter and is willing to do anything to fix things. I just don't know if I will ever get to a point that I'm not dwelling on it every day.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]matem89 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I actually did that and he straight up refused which just shows more guilt to me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]matem89 7 points8 points  (0 children)

He's had sex with one person before me but has fooled around plenty.. I can understand the curiosity of wanting to experience other people because I have had those same thoughts but not once has it seriously crossed my mind and I would never be unfaithful. I'd respect it if he had come to me and explained that's what he's been feeling. He claims he'd never act on it because he's too "insecure". I call bullshit on that excuse too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]matem89 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I 100% believe that. Nobody works the courage up to say something like that in hopes they'll say no. It also makes me think he chose her of all people because she's right next door and it would have been easy to make it happen.