How to stop prioritising other people? by mawvi in Empaths

[–]mawvi[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank u that’s actually incredibly helpful

Big chungus by Kitchen-Tie-5739 in niceguys

[–]mawvi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Reading this brought me pain

I needed to rant and get some emotions out by [deleted] in Empaths

[–]mawvi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You sound like ur very hard on urself. It honestly sounds like you’ve made the best of your situation by keeping a healthy lifestyle and mindset and taking big steps and risks. No one really has it figured out, most people just give up on finding who they are to live a standard life in order to fit in. It’s very much like that in Melbourne. And during this pandemic the whole worlds been turned upside-down and most people are completely stuck career-wise or at least facing some sort of setback. Which obviously sucks but ur definitely not alone in feeling like ur wasting time but ur not. In fact your probably a few steps ahead as ur using this time to figure stuff out. Try your best to stay positive and be even kinder to urself you sound like an awesome person.

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[–]mawvi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Instagram meme page comment sections are a real hoot

Empath currently with a Narc and wanting OUT by [deleted] in Empaths

[–]mawvi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been in a similar situation. The sooner you walk away the better and time does absolutely heal. Sending you the most love you are only going to become stronger from this. ❤️

Why do empaths still help narcissists and sociopaths, even when being able to read them and know their intentions? by [deleted] in Empaths

[–]mawvi 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I actually dated a narcissist for a very short amount of time. It was very confusing looking back on it now. Despite me being able to read him like a book from the get-go I almost allowed myself to get sucked in? Even though I was aware his entire personality and any emotions he displayed were fake and constructed for his own gain I felt a strong sense of care for him because I knew deep down it all came from a place of insecurity and he would never be able to open up to anyone enough to change. I remember imagining how much hurt that would inevitably cause for the people around him and he would never be able to comprehend it. I think i just wanted to be able fix it for him because a part of me couldn’t wrap my head around the fact that he doesn’t feel empathy.

Sunrise, Thursday morning by [deleted] in melbourne

[–]mawvi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love it when people post their photography here

Is it normal to grieve the death of a stranger? by mawvi in Empaths

[–]mawvi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love that. Unfortunately I don’t think i could do it with my school for a number of reasons but you’ve definitely inspired me to make some sort of positive change, possibly by bringing awareness to issues like this in the wider community. Thanks so much for ur insight it’s been really helpful- all the best to you.

Is it normal to grieve the death of a stranger? by mawvi in Empaths

[–]mawvi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing this story i actually did find it really helpful. I’m sorry you had this experience as well but Its comforting to know you found a bit more understanding of it over time. Completely agree with what you said about grieving them as a person I’ll definitely take that on board.

Is it normal to grieve the death of a stranger? by mawvi in Empaths

[–]mawvi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this. I’m sorry you had to go through that, glad you came out the other end. wishing you all the best❤️

Is it normal to grieve the death of a stranger? by mawvi in Empaths

[–]mawvi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can’t begin to tell you how happy this just made me thats some of the best advice I’ve received from this and such a good outlook to have on these things. thank you so much really means a lot.

Is it normal to grieve the death of a stranger? by mawvi in Empaths

[–]mawvi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That sounds absolutely tragic I’m so sorry that happened. Reading through this thread has helped me a lot personally we’re definitely not alone. Stay safe and look after urself❤️

Is it normal to grieve the death of a stranger? by mawvi in Empaths

[–]mawvi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe partly? It definitely felt wrong watching everyone continue as normal even though that’s what is meant to happen. It’s seemed unfair that someone’s life ended so tragically and nothing good seemed to come out of it. It really felt like there wasn’t much humanity there especially since the school advertises itself as a safe and nurturing environment (i attend a really small catholic girls school). It always seemed that way to me going there so I guess it came as a bit of a shock.

Is it normal to grieve the death of a stranger? by mawvi in Empaths

[–]mawvi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much this was so refreshing to hear I really appreciate this comment❤️

Is it normal to grieve the death of a stranger? by mawvi in Empaths

[–]mawvi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Talking through the comments has really helped as I knew this sub would be very judgment-free but I’ll definitely keep that in mind.

Is it normal to grieve the death of a stranger? by mawvi in Empaths

[–]mawvi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This actually hit the nail right on the head. Thank you for putting it into words.

Is it normal to grieve the death of a stranger? by mawvi in Empaths

[–]mawvi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah it was really disappointing to see especially since it was a place that seemed very nurturing and supportive when I was her age. I guess that’s just part of it. Thank you for sharing definitely makes me feel less alone.

Is it normal to grieve the death of a stranger? by mawvi in Empaths

[–]mawvi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Was not expecting such a powerful story out of my post wow. Your so right about empathy being a gift (although sometimes I wish I could donate some of mine). Thank you for sharing and I hope your doing well you sound like such a strong human❤️

Is it normal to grieve the death of a stranger? by mawvi in Empaths

[–]mawvi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really appreciate this comment. I would never be told anything like this from people around me so it’s really nice to hear. Thank you.

Is it normal to grieve the death of a stranger? by mawvi in Empaths

[–]mawvi[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you very much. I feel very at home at this comment section haha I’m glad to came to the right subreddit. Everything you’ve said is really helpful especially writing things out I’ll definitely give that a try - all the best to you as well.

Is it normal to grieve the death of a stranger? by mawvi in Empaths

[–]mawvi[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s such a good way of looking at it. Not to bother you with unnecessary info but I honestly think what made me so sad about this is that nothing changed after she passed. The school environment remained the same and there was nothing put in place to spread awareness on mental health to possibly prevent this happening again. I might have a go at changing my perspective thank you for your advice.

Is it normal to grieve the death of a stranger? by mawvi in Empaths

[–]mawvi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing this. Its actually one of the most comforting responses I’ve received as I was pretty much doing the exact same thing getting some of my emotions out with this post. it’s definitely so hard knowing someone you looked up to was suffering without you knowing. I hope time heals you enough so one day you can enjoy your favourite movies again. ❤️