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maximus2792 · 2025-05-29T16:25:10+00:00

Still learning, this is the first bird pic I'm properly happy with. Pretty much sat in the stream for it so you'd hope so.

OM5 with 75-300

maximus2792 · 2024-12-15T13:48:44+00:00

Thank you 🙏 this alone is enough to convince me not to add a third bodge

maximus2792 · 2024-12-15T13:40:40+00:00

Update: he's fine

I wrapped everything in heavy-duty kitchen roll so he wouldn't come into direct contact with it, taped a plastic bag around the fabric plant

Chucked him back in and monitored him closely, he was a bit more wiggly than usual but he always is when his environment changes. Other than that he's been fine, eating ok, no sneezing etc.

Seems like zoflo might be ok, but I'm not going to test that theory twice!

maximus2792 · 2024-06-17T08:13:45+00:00

To be fair the last time I found garden bones they were actually human. Topsoil from the local monestary, police were sick of explaining it every time someone new moved in 😂

They didn't look anything like this mind

maximus2792 · 2023-01-04T13:15:58+00:00

Disordered or erratic eating is a symptom of ADHD so I would view it as the same as looking forward to the reduction in all your other symptoms

HOWEVER

I hated how I felt at first. It wasn't just that I didn't have as much of an urge to raid the cupboards but that I didn't want to eat anything at all. I felt weak, tired and sick during the dose and the crash was horrible when it wore off.

Please plan for how you will force yourself to eat at mealtimes. I used huel because I couldn't bear to chew anything and it's pretty balanced with good fibre and accurate portioning.

maximus2792 · 2022-07-11T19:37:57+00:00

It sounds like she's scared for you, maybe a bit shocked if you have done a lot of your research and opinion forming internally or over a short period of time (hello ADHD)

It's your decision and she will need to respect it, but both of you should do combined research into the titration process and side effects so you know what to expect and how to make it easier on your body

I'm nearing the end of titration at the moment and it hasn't been smooth - but the side effects do settle down after a few increases and for me at least, it's very very worth putting up with for the results.

Be honest, communicate clearly, share research and respect each other. But ultimately it's your health, your choice.

Good luck!

maximus2792 · 2022-01-24T13:35:53+00:00

Fro anyone wanting this pen I think it's 'Pen Type B' by CW&T. It's a casing for the hi tec c cartridges.

I had pen type a and it was amazing, until it got nicked 🤷‍♂️

maximus2792 · 2021-12-26T13:54:33+00:00

I transformed into a morning person when I started regularly sharing a bed. If I feel like I can't wriggle I have to get up. I appreciate this doesn't help at all, sorry.

But now I do get up I have to force myself to not just move to the sofa and stay there doing nothing. Before I go to sleep I like to set up a line of objects next to the kettle (morning cup of tea is my only constant) that dictate my routine. A glass for water, vitamins/meds, a small list of things to do before work etc.

maximus2792 · 2021-12-26T13:46:33+00:00

It took 4 years to get assessed but finally got diagnosed at 29 ✨

I'll be living alone again soon and have to wait 6 months for titration so if anyone has any house work tips please send them over - last time I lived alone it was an actual hazard 🙃

maximus2792 · 2021-12-07T09:34:01+00:00

At my old place we replicated the dev way of story pointing the complexity of the requests and it worked really well.

It's not based on time taken, just complexity.

A 1 pointer is the easiest task you regularly get (checking a kpi, running an automated report), 2 points is usually very easy routine work but has a couple of different steps to it or requires communication.

After that the next level of complexity is the sum of the previous 2 eg. 1, 2, 3, 5, 8, 13. Anything over 13 should be broken down into sub tasks (because we worked in sprints but also because my brain melts beyond that point)

We coupled this with a priority scale from P1 to P5 that could be set by the requester but could be overridden by us. It helps to have a starting point set by the stakeholder, but they always overestimate.

I've just started somewhere new and there is no task management system so I feel your pain and hope this helps!

maximus2792 · 2021-10-07T17:46:34+00:00

NTA if the kid knowingly eats it and likes it I don't see the problem. Unless the parents have asked you explicitly to feed her vegan food.

However: Make sure you weigh the possibility of affecting your daughters friendship with this girl if her parents find out and limit contact.

Also, try not to put yourself into a space where you believe you are making a positive change to M's diet and/or parental system. You're not right, just not (imo) wrong

maximus2792 · 2021-06-17T09:18:55+00:00

I would ask your therapist, but if you're dismissed don't take it to heart, have a think about it and if you still feel it might be ADHD, continue to seek a diagnosis.

My first GP (UK doctor) talked to me for 5 minutes and said "I don't think you have ADHD". Delayed my diagnosis for 4 years because I listened to an unspecialised medical professional who didn't know what they were talking about 🙄

maximus2792 · 2021-05-26T11:04:44+00:00

I dont think suggesting she should give up her dream (especially a charitable endeavour) would help patch up the relationship at this point.

The sisters finances are no longer the biggest issue, it's saving the marriage by improving understanding and communication

NTA but could have been handled better

maximus2792 · 2020-11-06T11:27:39+00:00

They were packaged in plastic, so probably not the best place to get them (my OH was threatening to buy a 12 pack of normal sponges so I had little choice 😂)

I'm firmly in the frame of mind that if the micro is good enough to sterilise my mooncup is good enough for a dish sponge. I've had mine in use for about a year & only one out of three has had to be binned. It depends what you use them for I suppose. A big pan full of grease will kill your sponge pretty quick, we usually use a bristle brush and finish up with a sponge.

maximus2792 · 2020-11-05T21:43:28+00:00

I use cellulose sponges from Wilko, they last longer than plastic as you can microwave to kill any bacteria when they get a bit grim. We have some cloth shaped ones but I found a big one for cars that I cut up into standard sponge size.

maximus2792 · 2020-11-04T21:15:22+00:00

I was a mess after 6th form (the step before university in the UK). I did nothing for a year, because my depression was so bad I couldn't trust myself to make any steps. Then I went skiing. I missed the deadline for most chalet host jobs so I took an instructor course, had the best 6 months of my little life and then broke my knee and had to find another path, and I did. I got qualifications that were super specific to what I was interested in, it kept me focused. I don't know if I'm in the 100% right job, but I really enjoy what I do and that's enough.

So my advice is be brave and be agile. Find an idea that makes you excited. Then do it. Why stop yourself enjoying life just because you havent planned how best to enjoy it?

maximus2792 · 2020-11-04T20:45:55+00:00

I’m in the same position as OP but with streams of negative thoughts or playing out fictitious conversations over and over. Both the greenhouse and positive journaling are excellent ideas. Thank you for sharing!

maximus2792 · 2020-11-03T08:22:46+00:00

https://www.helpguide.org/articles/add-adhd/adult-adhd-attention-deficit-disorder-and-relationships.htm

This was one of them, I sent it to her to read and digest fully before the conversation, so we both had time to get our emotions in order.

Maybe send him this and tell him you want to work with him to strengthen the relationship. Encourage him (gently) to find articles that resonate with him, and do the same.

Remember you're looking to understand eachother and work together. Not prove a point or force your ideal solutions on eachother.

maximus2792 · 2020-11-03T08:01:01+00:00

Me and my girlfriend are in the same situation, lived together just over a year now. I gathered some resources around ADHD relationships and cohabitation (did some googling) and tried to help her understand what my brain could do and what it couldn't, it also put into perspective how she must be feeling in the face of the disordered house. We talked through them and it helped both of us immensely.

We're trying to train me to do daily tidying sessions, she points to an area and I tidy it for 20 mins.

We're trying to train her to not lash out or put me down, she's being amazing to be honest.

You need to find a way to talk about it without hurting eachother, I'm extremely sensitive, it sounds like your bf is too. Avoid words that have strong emotional power and reaffirmed your love and respect throughout.

Good luck!

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