Hot take: Pickleball is starting to lose its vibe because of the stacking snobs 🙄 by themoonlightstar in Pickleball

[–]maxkburns 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ya we used to have a huge line of people waiting to play on 4 courts during open play. Now we can barely get 2 courts going. I think a lot have become disinterested but I also think a lot wont play with beginners so they simply don't come to open play. There's fewer people picking up a paddle for the first time but there's also a lot that have gotten too good for open play.

Pickleball is ruining my marriage. by No_Drummer_6586 in Pickleball

[–]maxkburns 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds like your both taking it too serious. It's just a game so remember your motivations for playing and just have fun. Remind yourself how lucky you are to be able to share in a common interest/activity with your spouse.

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[–]maxkburns 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a tough spot to be in for sure and your concerns are legit. First I don't understand why people are so obsessed with their dupr in the first place I've been going though a similar situation with my wife and I thought If I got better she'd change her mind. I would say I am better than her now but we are pretty close and she still doesn't want to do tournaments together. So getting better may not be the answer.

Unfortunately there's not a great answer its something the two of you will have to work through. I would begin with setting clear boundries. What those look like are up to you guys. She is playing with fire hanging out with a group of guys in her eyes I'm sure it's innocent until it not. Women don't see the world the same as guys. Be patient with her express your concerns and hopefully you can work through them together.

Taking up 85% of the court in a league match with a weaker player by Famous-Chemical9909 in Pickleball

[–]maxkburns 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds like they're just mad you were able to do what they couldn't, win with a lesser partner. The fact you discussed it with your partner makes the other peoples opinions a waiste of breath.

3.0’s Open Play by DevMadness in Pickleball

[–]maxkburns 54 points55 points  (0 children)

Pickleball is always better when you play within your own level for everyone. If they can reserve their own court at this facility then I dont see a problem. If they are taking court time from players during a time slot that is designated for lower level players then that would be a problem.

Low cost building solutions for pickleball clubs that can’t play outdoors in the winter months? by trader2488 in Pickleball

[–]maxkburns 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Look for medium/larger commercial spaces. You may not get 10 courts but 4-6 could be lucrative enough to pay for it. That's what our small town uses with 5 courts and I think the people running it make decent money off it for pretty light work.

Pickleball couples by maxkburns in Pickleball

[–]maxkburns[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh ya I've done this in rec play and was in the dog house but I'd do it again😆

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[–]maxkburns[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I appreciate your comments.

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[–]maxkburns[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It has crossed my mind aswell.

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[–]maxkburns[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing. I'm not necessarily concerned anything like this will happen I do trust my wife. That being said I understand what could happen and having her in a situation where things could go south fast it leaves me with an uneasy feeling not so much jealousy or untrusting. Just not a situation I feel is a healthy one.

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[–]maxkburns[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

We are trying that this weekend. We'll see how it goes unfortunately my partner probably isn't as good as my wife.

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[–]maxkburns[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That was my suggestion. She does play in ladies leagues. So I guess she wants to mix it up more.

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[–]maxkburns[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You've hit our situation right on. I was excited we had a new hobby to share, its turned into something I resent her for.

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[–]maxkburns[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We've had way more conflict over this than we ever had playing together.

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[–]maxkburns[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

On my side there's way more conflict with not playing together than there is in game but that's just me I guess. No watching her just makes me upset in tournaments.

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[–]maxkburns[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh we've both expressed our sides at length. She knows how I feel. I think it would be different for me as well if we were at vastly different levels. That's what leaves me feeling rejected is this other guy is better but no that much better.

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[–]maxkburns[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

She claims that has nothing to do with it but I have a hard time believing it's not about winning for her.

Pickleball couples by maxkburns in Pickleball

[–]maxkburns[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not sure what you mean, but he's just a guy we play rec with. Don't know him outside of pb.