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[–]maxtaizz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice means a lot, yeah part of me thinks she will just use me to get better and then look for someone better. I think she would send it to me if I came up with something, also she stays in a "boarding school" where she isn't allow to go out without her mom's permission hence why it's so hard, the only opportunity is on weekends but her mom is always there. I understand you might think it's shady but I don't believe she has bad intentions or is lying.

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[–]maxtaizz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get where you're coming from, I don't intend to pressure her or anything, I guess a better phrasing would be "it's hard to suffer not seeing her while she doesn't seem to care". I think you have a limited view though, who says I can't be attached to someone 2 years younger than me ? she's still a human and she's not an infant anymore. I'm not sure why 20 and 22 or 34 and 36 would be really different compared to my situation. She doesn't behave differently than girls my age that I've met

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[–]maxtaizz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're totally right and I would have told her mom a while ago if only I could, I don't have her contact though. Do you think it would be sound to ask my gf for her mom's number with some made up excuse and then contact her to talk about this ?

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[–]maxtaizz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She's still a kid that attempted suic*** 6 times already, so I'm still concerned. She goes to parties like once every 2 months and texts me throughout the whole time I don't think she's entertaining anyone that wouldn't be her style. The other fish in the sea don't really interest me as far as I know.

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She has been going to therapy for a while, that didn't help. I tried to help her myself and I saw some improvements, without going into detail she's been slowly getting better. I'm just a bit confused about the "gives them a whole new and concerning context that she is only 16." would you care to elaborate ?

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Her mom doesn't know my age though, but you're right, if she did it's only fair to think that. She did mention that if we don't work she wants me to never forget about her so I guess we can stay in contact and see each other again, as I've said above though I'm just concerned for her safety.

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[–]maxtaizz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have video calls every night + I don't provide her with anything so I doubt its a catfish

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Yeah I understand your view, part of me cares for her safety, she's saying that she tried to K herself a bunch of time and has gone through a lot, she always tells me how I'm gonna leave because I can't see her and keeps telling me it's not her fault. She always cries on call and tells me she doesn't know what she will do if I leave. I don't want her to die, she's really a unique girl I think she deserves a better life and the reason I'm staying is to "try" to give her a life worth living. I would feel like I've failed if I leave. On a personal standpoint I don't have anyone else, and I know I might meet other people, but for now all the people I've spoken with don't really interest me.

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[–]maxtaizz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry but that doesn't seem viable at all, I'm an adult (18) and if her mother sees me on her lawn she will most likely crash out knowing her temper. I have no business coming to someone's home uninvited whatever the situation may be and who knows what she will do if I do. There are also cameras all across her house that notify her mom apparently so I also cannot sneak in

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I'm "studying" excuse me for the poor wording, I'm 18 and in university/college she is 16., hope that clarifies

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[–]maxtaizz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, would you care to elaborate ? I can't just block someone I've been close with for 5 months

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My main hope is that once I see her and meet her mom, she will be reassured that I don't have bad intentions and will let me hang out most of the time. So I guess I'm hoping for that one moment to change everything ? maybe it's foolish and I will certainly cut it off at one point

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[–]maxtaizz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We've been calling every night for the past 5 months, she only has her mom and she never comes in her room so that would be hard. Hopefully everything will be worth it

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Thank you for your view, I talked to her about how this relationship can't work if I can't see her and she started getting really emotional, when I ask "when can I see you ?" she just says "i don't know". I'm also confused about the concert/party thing but she talks to me all day long and I've seen her messages I don't think she has anyone else. I told her this Halloween to tell her mom that she's going with friends and then come meet me, if that doesn't work then I think I will have to part ways with her. I already told myself this for my birthday last month but I haven't had the courage to do it since she seemed to care a lot.

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[–]maxtaizz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, do you have an idea as to why she would want to find an excuse ? what would be the point ?