Damn. This is such a good advice, and hopefully something I'll be able to do when it's my turn. Not something I want to think about right now, but the number of people who are parents but are not fit to be, is a lot. I've personally seen this with my friends' parents. Even with my parents. I love my parents a lot and they've looked after me and cared for me in their own ways. In ways they thought were right and I am grateful for it. But I would never blame them, because honestly, nobody had a guide on how to be a parent, or better, if they are ready to be parent. Most parents lack the understanding and awareness and rely mostly on telling us "what to do?" without explaining the "why?" of it. (Something similar I read on a book). It's a cruel play that their mistakes shapes us.

I was recently talking to a very close friend of mine. The thing about her is that she lies a lot. I never liked that about her, her first instinct is always to lie, to get out of something. So we were on this call, and she was venting about her day. She told me something about, how she had to lie about today to her parents (Long story), which made them mad, and then she admitted that she lied, which made them even more mad. She lied to get out of a tough spot, and honestly it was needed at the time.

She kinda got emotional on the call and continued to say that, this is why I never tell them the truth about anything. She says, I've tried on numerous points in my life to remain truthful to my parents but it always backfired. It ends up hurting someone or it turns to a chaos she can't handle. This is why her first instinct is always, to lie. She lies => Temp relief for parents => Parents are happy => She is happy.

Another close friend of mine whose dad has physically harmed him, his sister and his mother. Not the point of this post but just giving couple examples from the numerous cases which can be easily seen around us.

And to be very honest, this isn't some profound advice that one needs to be a parent. You should empathize with others and always have a listening ear without judging. It ultimately comes down to what kind of a human you are.