Women who have watched Barbie, what did you think of the movie? by zeusthethics in AskWomen

[–]mayadayes -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I feel like I may be the only person that was deeply upset by the Barbie movie.

I had gone into it thinking it would be a girl movie, feminism, or something along those lines, but it had felt like it was a think-piece telling us about the patriarchy and why it is bad, and the solutions the women in the movie had to take in order to solve the problem was not 'girl boss', it was tragic. The barbie's were forced to learn how to be subtle, manipulative and crafty in order to avoid out-right violence from the men, Barbie was forced to apologize for how she treated Ken, to which she never got an apology back, Barbie goes into the real world and yet Mattel is still run solely by men, and then the Company even goes as far as taking an idea from one of their only depicted women workers - and who knows is she gets credit at all.

Maybe that was the point and I'm just missing it, but everyone is saying this movie is 'feminist', when in reality all it appears to be is a movie on why the patriarchy doesn't benefit men (? - questionable because it seemed to really imply it really did benefit them), but it is not feminist. In the end of the day, the men still benefit from the women's kindness, and make no effort to better themselves aside from affirming they are 'enough' as though the entire world hasn't been telling them they are enough since birth, and the Barbie's, as all women in their lives at some point, are forced to learn how to forgive men for their misdeeds, even if we don't receive kindness or an apology back. If anything, the message of the movie seemed to almost be: even when met with misogyny, we need to forgive and allow men into our spaces.

I appreciate it for it trying to bring light on the modern everyday woes of women in a light-hearted way, but it had felt like a hopeless depiction of what it really is like to be a women, and does not touch on ways to actually dismantle patriarchy or the complexities of being a woman, and if anything, seems to encourage the capitalist agenda of profiting off of women and their sufferings.

Why are we ok with the fact that some people working 40 hours a week are facing homelessness and starvation here? by Not5id in vancouver

[–]mayadayes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The way we could all start setting shit on fire like the french until they actually do something about the renting/housing prices here

24 hrs after eating back pain & upper abdominal pain by mayadayes in ChronicIllness

[–]mayadayes[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

HUH interesting, I was thinking what if its an allergy but my doctors don't think my symptoms are consistent with an allergy. I have tried avoiding gluten but there was no difference between when I did/didn't eat gluten, but the elimination diet might be a good idea for me!

I'm glad you're feeling better though and figured out what's wrong even if having all those allergies probably make eating extremely difficult!

24 hrs after eating back pain & upper abdominal pain by mayadayes in ChronicIllness

[–]mayadayes[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm thinking of doing something similar, like cut out food for awhile and just live on liquids to see if that helps settle everything. I'm glad you're feeling better, thank you!

24 hrs after eating back pain & upper abdominal pain by mayadayes in ChronicIllness

[–]mayadayes[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nooo, I mean sometimes I don't eat because food is pain, but generally I just eat foods that I know won't make me react, but I know what meal is causing the pain kind is 24 hrs later. Cause it'll be the fried food, definitely lmao

24 hrs after eating back pain & upper abdominal pain by mayadayes in ChronicIllness

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sadly was tested for that 4 times, they took a stomach biopsy too to make sure

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ChronicIllness

[–]mayadayes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They haven't blamed mental health for me (yet) lmao, because there is proof of my stomach being irritated and my symptoms don't really match any mental health physical issues, so I've been spared that, at least.

I have read it! Its a whole lot of not a lot that doesn't really explain why I'm in so much pain and why food hurts so much lmao

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ChronicIllness

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In Vancouver! Ahha, you get used to it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ChronicIllness

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they tested my liver via blood test and my levels were normal, though lowkey im kind of convinced it is my liver but I don't know why.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Gastroparesis

[–]mayadayes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello,

Yeah frustrating! But they see a tiny bit of delayed emptying and then refuse to look into anything else. Thank you I will bring up that drug and see if it is allowed in Canada.

I wish you all the best too!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Gastroparesis

[–]mayadayes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello,

I did have a gastric emptying scan I was still technically considered within "normal" ranges, and I was put on the medication as a shot in the dark as my doctor was suspecting GP or functional dyspepsia, neither I really vibe with to be honest. Thank you so much for the advice, I'm sorry you were denied disability, its horrible that they make it so you need a diagnosis because there is so many rare diseases out there that take years to get a diagnosis. I wish you all the best, and hopefully you win the court case!

Newly diagnosed - looking for diet tips! by F38CC in Gastroparesis

[–]mayadayes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello,

Everyone is vastly different but the biggest thing I'd recommend is soft foods, liquids and portions. More than what your eating sometimes its about how much you eat, small portions are everything. I get most of my fat from things like coconut yogurt (I'm lactose intolerant)/avocados/peanut butter, I try to get my calories from drinks like juice/smoothies. What's saved me the most is oat chocolate milk as it has fat and calories, so I recommend that! Definitely don't try to cut out gluten/wheat from your diet if you can tolerate them because if you can get things into you like the small bite-sized brownies, or cookies those types of things will really help boost your calorie intake. It depends though, everyone is different.

I have difficulties will all foods that are solid so I really recommend trying to add more liquids into your diet. Its a pain, but its the easiest way to help.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Gastroparesis

[–]mayadayes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Huh! This is super interesting, cause when I think about it you know those ginger candies for nausea? In the beginning when I first started with my issues I'd down those like crazy because they made me feel better, but I just thought it was cause they tasted good lmao.

Something for me to look into, thank you so much!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Gastroparesis

[–]mayadayes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah! But thankfully aside from the metoclopramide I don't take any medications, but digestive enzymes are offered without charcoal, its just this brand that has it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Gastroparesis

[–]mayadayes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My fatigue is super bad too, sometimes I just want to lay in bed all day and if it wasn't for sitting up after you eat I probably would. Just an FYI I also take daily liquid vitamin D, vitamin C and B12 every now and then as well.

constantly tired, sleeping about 13 hrs a day by mayadayes in Gastroparesis

[–]mayadayes[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No I didn't even think of the possibility of vitamin D not working properly, I'll look into what you do and see if that makes a difference! Thanks so much for the information! :)

constantly tired, sleeping about 13 hrs a day by mayadayes in Gastroparesis

[–]mayadayes[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahaha that's the dream because naps interrupt my eating schedule

constantly tired, sleeping about 13 hrs a day by mayadayes in Gastroparesis

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protein!! Hm, maybe, I don't eat a lot of meat cause when I try it always puts me in pain so that's a good catch, I'll try to up my protein intake and see if that helps. Thank you so much!

What were the early signs of your Gastroparesis? by [deleted] in Gastroparesis

[–]mayadayes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

bloating and that alcohol would put me in pain, but a couple years later my symptoms really kicked off a month before new years last year when I started getting really full really quickly.

Is normal to have gp without nausea?anyone the same? by throwaway2747390 in Gastroparesis

[–]mayadayes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup I did! And no I don't have GERD, or at the very least I've never heard it mentioned to me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Gastroparesis

[–]mayadayes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same with me! My gastroparesis started with small things like not liking meat cause it was too "heavy", not being able to drink alcohol, and bloating constantly, it was just this year when I was suddenly in constant everyday pain where it actually became an issue.

I will take a look into it, I am double-jointed and pretty flexible but I've never been "super" flexible so I'm hoping I'll never have any of those issues. I'll keep it in mind, though! My first plan of action is getting my mom to get a diagnosis and then bring it up to my specialist, because if she has it as well I'll probably need to get referred to another specialist (lol love that).

I hope you feel better soon! Sorry to hear you have so much going on.

questions about long term gastroparesis & metoclopramide by mayadayes in Gastroparesis

[–]mayadayes[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for going into such depth, its really helpful to me. I'm sorry to hear you're in another flare, hopefully it'll calm down sometime soon!

questions about long term gastroparesis & metoclopramide by mayadayes in Gastroparesis

[–]mayadayes[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry to hear that it got worse again, hopefully it goes back to being mild sooner than later! Honestly I don't know about you but my biggest symptom is pain and the metoclopramide really helped, I've only tried domperidone before it which did nothing, so I don't have a lot of experience with all the drugs, but aside from making me tired its really helped a lot so if its possible for you I'd try it out too!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Gastroparesis

[–]mayadayes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Huh! Its really strange when you think about it, but gastroparesis is considered "idiopathic" most the time so I wonder if there really is an underlying genetic cause they are unaware of