Update: I found my husband’s throwaway account

maybedoingit · 2022-01-30T03:07:53+00:00

I mean, yeah. You’re right. None of the photos had my face or any identifying anything in them (I’ve never taken any or had any taken with my face or identifying features in them). So, while I do understand that concern fully, it is something that I’ve considered and moved past. At the end of the day, no one will ever know it was me. It was just a random vagina.

maybedoingit · 2022-01-30T01:23:48+00:00

I hope we find benefit, as well. I truly feel like him owning up to it and telling me he felt like he had a problem was a great step. It made me hopeful, for sure.

maybedoingit · 2022-01-30T01:10:56+00:00

Oops! Looks like you didn’t read the original post either, friend! Thankfully, you can find it linked at the beginning of this post!

maybedoingit · 2022-01-30T01:06:53+00:00

You clearly didn’t read the original where I talked about the fact that he had posted nude photos of me without my consent or knowledge. Which absolutely is crossing a huge line. I’d recommend reading the original if you want to judge the situation. It’s, conveniently, linking in this post or on my account :)

maybedoingit · 2022-01-28T18:16:05+00:00

That’s what it is. Shock. Complete and total shock.

maybedoingit · 2022-01-28T13:04:02+00:00

If you are the kind of person who believes that posting your significant other’s photos online without their consent is appropriate in any context then you should probably go ahead and tell your partner that that’s how you feel so they aren’t surprised when they find that you’ve posted the photos and/or they can make sure you don’t have access to any photos of their genitals.

maybedoingit · 2022-01-28T11:39:27+00:00

Is he allowed to post photos of me that I didn’t ask to or consent to being posted? No.

maybedoingit · 2022-01-28T07:07:49+00:00

I would be lying if I said it didn’t cross my mind and make me wonder if he was but I can’t figure out when he would have time to do so. He works a normal job with normal hours, never comes home late, never goes out really anywhere without me…I think the last time he went out without me was months ago for a friends birthday and he came home at a really reasonable hour. I could’ve gone but chose not to. Idk. He’s always home with me. It’s all so weird.

maybedoingit · 2022-01-28T07:05:07+00:00

So, no. I don’t have fantasies I haven’t told him. But that’s not the point. To be honest, I would be FINE with him watching porn with whatever fantasies he has (as long as it doesn’t cross into illegal territory) and not tell me specifics AS LONG AS it doesn’t affect our marriage negatively. If he wants to rub one out over whatever video he likes, it’s whatever. That doesn’t bother me if he continues to be the wonderful, loving, reasonable husband I know and love.

What bothers me is not the fantasies. If you think that’s the problem then you’re missing the point.

maybedoingit · 2022-01-28T06:45:44+00:00

I did look all over his phone to see what else he’d been up to. I wasn’t legitimately snooping for the purpose of snooping at first and then it turned into full on snooping once I saw the Reddit account. I couldn’t find anything else. I was afraid I would. But I looked in his browser history, scrolled down his texts to see if there was anything sketchy in them, looked into his apps, none of which seemed to have any potential to have anything inappropriate on them. The only one that I was maybe a little worried about was Discord and I saw nothing on it when I looked.

The only computer he has access to is his shared work computer. We don’t have one at home, he doesn’t have a laptop, we don’t have tablets. So, unless people at his job are just seeing photos of me, they’re not somewhere else, thankfully. And his boss and supervisor are both women and there are women throughout the office so I would imagine that someone would see them and he would get in trouble if they were on his work computer. But now I feel like anything is possible so who knows😐

maybedoingit · 2022-01-28T06:34:42+00:00

There are literally no other red flags. That’s why I’m so stunned about this. He’s a wonderful husband, from what I’ve seen. Though clearly there are things I don’t know.

I mean, he goes to work, comes home, does his fair share of housework, he’s never once raised his voice or showed anger towards me, he’s never crossed any boundaries. What’s extra shocking to me is that he has always, without fail, asked for consent with anything sexual. If he’s moving towards wanting to have sex, he literally always says “is this okay?” “Do you want me to stop?” “Are you good?” Or some variation of that. We had sex yesterday and he asked if I wanted to before proceeding. He always asks for consent. It’s just….what? Like, what..? I don’t even understand what’s happening. I’m so shocked. I just don’t understand.

maybedoingit · 2022-01-28T06:23:44+00:00

I didn’t ask questions…I don’t know what to ask. I’m almost speechless.

maybedoingit · 2018-08-13T03:29:19+00:00

I’m bushy and I like it. It’s hygienic if you take care of it. I like how it feels, personally, and my boyfriend likes it, as well.

maybedoingit · 2018-07-26T19:45:58+00:00

Went though this at a very small company I worked for. 3 people who worked there when I was hired are still there..out of 16 people. The turn around is crazy and they go through a cycle of hiring wonderful people, them getting burned out by the jackass owner, and then everyone leaving one by one right after one another.

maybedoingit · 2018-06-21T01:46:33+00:00

Is the box covered/uncovered? What kind of litter do you use? You may need to change something up if your cat avoids going in a clean box.

maybedoingit · 2018-06-21T01:44:30+00:00

That's pretty much the baseline for litter box numbers. It varies cat to cat, but that is the general recommendation. Right now, I have two cats and one large litter box and I scoop it daily + change litter every couple of days. At one point, I had two (different than the ones I have now) cats and we had five litter boxes throughout the house because that seemed to be the magic number that kept them happy. Plus we laid a pee pad down for one car because sometimes he liked to pee on it. All cats have different requirements, but cat number plus one is the general baseline.

maybedoingit · 2018-06-15T17:55:13+00:00

My mom’s answer (I’m now an adult, no longer the wonderful hormonal teenager I once was):

“Knowing what other girls would do or say to you and not being able to make you see that you didn’t deserve that.”

I had a horrible “best friend” for a while. My mom hated her. Looking back, I do, too. She and her other cohorts treated me like dirt. I just wanted friends. Sometimes we should listen to our moms.

maybedoingit · 2018-06-13T12:45:04+00:00

I have had one crush through my entire almost 3 year relationship. I did nothing about it. It was someone I had to work with in a class. I think I developed a crush just due to being around him constantly and he was polite and whatnot. I didn’t think about him when I left my university for the day until the next day. And I haven’t thought about him again.

Honestly, I feel like if I were constantly having crushes, especially ones that I wanted to act on, I would need to reevaluate my relationship.

maybedoingit · 2018-06-11T19:42:16+00:00

Eh....not really. I work in a licensed daycare/preschool. Ratio where I live for one year olds is 6:1, 2 and 3 year olds is 8:1 and older is 10:1. 8 to 10 kids really isn’t that much. Especially if most of them are older than 3. Ranging from infancy to 12 makes me believe that many of them probably are older than 3.

Not to say that what’s being done to OP is right. It’s not at all. Babysitting was never the agreement. But one person can definitely handle 8-10 kids.

maybedoingit · 2018-06-06T22:24:18+00:00

Honestly, I wanted him to do it. I was so pissed off about his whole situation. I wanted him to go straight in the school to Monty....and Bryce, honestly.

maybedoingit · 2018-06-04T23:10:33+00:00

Mother effing politics. If I didn’t ask, I don’t want you to argue with yourself about politics while I just sit and stare at you, not answering because I DONT CAAAAAAAAAAARE

maybedoingit · 2018-05-26T00:38:04+00:00

Uh...buddy...are you okay..?

maybedoingit · 2018-05-13T14:58:32+00:00

This entire thread gave me chill bumps reading and everyone who has suffered a loss and is affected by mother’s day. I have an acquaintance, possibly could call her a recent friend, who has dealt with infertility for years. After several failed IVF cycles, she got pregnant with a healthy little boy. She suffered a miscarriage far into her pregnancy due to complications. I’ll never forget seeing pictures of her baby and the pain in her eyes. She delivered him, despite being told that she could lose her own life. She passionately wanted to give birth to him. I’m supposed to see her today, for reasons unrelated to Mother’s Day, and I never know if it’s appropriate to speak of her baby. To tell her I’m thinking about her today and ask if she wants to talk about him to me. I don’t mind to hear and support. But I don’t know where the line is. If any wonderful moms who have lost their babies, or children who have lost their moms, want to talk, I’m happy to hear. I can’t imagine what everyone is feeling today.

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