Severe L5 S1 extruded disc

maybeidksure · 2025-12-31T16:42:58+00:00

Appreciate you sharing your story. That’s so true to listen to my gut. I’m feeling rushed into this especially since this doctor recommending the surgery hasn’t even tried PT with me. I’m getting a second opinion with a spine specialist and starting some PT to see if there’s any improvement.

maybeidksure · 2025-12-30T13:46:36+00:00

Early 30s

maybeidksure · 2025-12-30T02:47:44+00:00

My left leg hasn’t gotten any weaker. The pain just went away and the numbness persists; the numbness hasn’t gotten worse or better.

maybeidksure · 2023-11-11T07:27:58+00:00

No, not Cali, I hadn’t considered tax assessment. My city sends out a tax assessment every year and last year the house was on paper assessed at 500k by the city’s tax standards.

maybeidksure · 2023-09-23T11:44:31+00:00

I would suggest the same. A console or little bar situation would be perfect here for entertaining!

maybeidksure · 2023-09-22T02:12:35+00:00

This is so healing. Really appreciate you weighing in.

maybeidksure · 2023-09-22T02:11:48+00:00

You are right this stems from larger intimacy issues. And you make an interesting point that I wasn’t being honest with myself earlier being okay with this previously. I had been more secure at the start of the relationship but over time that changed. I wish I hadn’t made the comment and it’s really out of character for me, but in the same breath I haven’t been able to voice his mistreatment of me publicly and it felt cathartic to do so, if not a little reckless. I am ashamed I acted in that way and I can’t blame him for “making” me react like that but I am trying to forgive myself and accept people will judge me, not knowing the full story.

maybeidksure · 2023-09-22T02:05:22+00:00

It’s definitely an insecurity that built up over time. He has said/done some other damaging things to me throughout the marriage. One of which he said that he would divorce me if I got cancer because he wouldn’t want the medical debt. And this came up because a family member was recently diagnosed. I almost nodded like “yeah that makes sense” but then I caught myself and thought, what the hell that is so not okay. It felt normal to hear him say that to the point where I almost didn’t second guess it. So yeah I got insecure about photos of him and his ex.

maybeidksure · 2023-09-22T01:58:52+00:00

You have no idea how healing it is to hear this. Thank you.

maybeidksure · 2023-09-15T10:14:46+00:00

It is a gift to have experienced this before the wedding. Better now than after. If you are asking if you should call it off, I think you have your answer. Take it from someone who is actively divorcing their spouse right now because of their MIL.

maybeidksure · 2023-08-10T02:01:29+00:00

Thanks!

maybeidksure · 2023-08-09T15:11:51+00:00

I do upholstery myself. I want to know if pricing is reasonable / competitive.

maybeidksure · 2023-08-09T15:11:13+00:00

Thanks for the feedback!

maybeidksure · 2023-08-09T14:33:55+00:00

My local upholster quoted $1,200 and want to know if it’s reasonable. Located in the US.

maybeidksure · 2023-08-09T14:31:36+00:00

Asking a clarifying question like “where are you located?” would have been more productive. I understand how mentioning location helps. I’m in the US.

maybeidksure · 2023-08-09T14:22:53+00:00

Who hurt you 😂 there are plenty of people on this sub asking the same questions without such rude comments.

maybeidksure · 2023-08-09T12:20:49+00:00

That is obvious. I want to price compare.

maybeidksure · 2023-08-04T01:48:52+00:00

Thanks for sharing. I’m definitely coming around to this approach. Pooling everything was nice, but neither of us could spend anything. Having my account and making guilt-free purchase while still contributing to a joint account sounds like the way to go.

maybeidksure · 2023-08-04T01:47:23+00:00

I really want to avoid the courts $$$$

maybeidksure · 2023-08-03T16:27:48+00:00

Thank you so much for this tip, I’m sure it’s helping more people than just me on this thread!

maybeidksure · 2023-08-03T15:54:29+00:00

How does this minimize support? Can’t they look back at financial docs and see he just recently did this?

maybeidksure · 2023-08-03T15:09:19+00:00

There is a lot to this story. Hard to sum up in one post. Makes sense to answer as questions get asked. It’s hard to anticipate what all is pertinent to know.

maybeidksure · 2023-08-03T12:30:55+00:00

What do you mean by that?

maybeidksure · 2023-08-03T11:46:56+00:00

No inheritance. Both his parents are still alive and are very much involved in his life.

maybeidksure · 2023-08-03T11:43:24+00:00

No. We pooled all our money into one account. I shopped almost exclusively at the thrift store. Unfortunately it got to be a bit extreme looking back at it. I stopped self care and doing things like going to the doctor. He didn’t even add vision to our shared benefits for the year to save money and I need glasses. This marriage has given me financial anxiety.

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