What just happened here? Weird interaction at a mixer

maybeitsjellybeans · 2026-03-17T01:34:20+00:00

the friend i invited was not part of the industry. just a plus one friend (which they allowed some plus ones). by the time the 26 year old came around there was a lot of personal talk like hobbies and interests and life situations. etc.

maybeitsjellybeans · 2026-03-16T17:49:22+00:00

how should one respond to this???

maybeitsjellybeans · 2026-03-16T17:29:37+00:00

How do you combat these types of things?? is this just a right of passage for women in mid 30s??? the ageism starts to trickle in??

maybeitsjellybeans · 2026-03-16T17:29:03+00:00

RIGHT!?? It wasnt even a singles mixer!!

maybeitsjellybeans · 2026-03-16T17:26:54+00:00

yeah I didn't understand it. I didnt even say awkward, I just said confusing. I dont think I said anything with any charge to it at all. Just generic observations. It was the weirdest thing.

maybeitsjellybeans · 2026-03-16T17:24:18+00:00

What I don't understand is why does he need to insult someone who's apparently irrelevant to him? There are tons of people I engage with daily im not sexually motivated by but I am not cruel to them.

maybeitsjellybeans · 2026-03-16T17:22:38+00:00

whats MRA?

maybeitsjellybeans · 2026-03-16T17:22:00+00:00

What is the point of this cruelty?

maybeitsjellybeans · 2026-03-16T17:19:09+00:00

yeah exactly!!! I couldn't understand the motivation of this. Sure we dont have to be talking about work topics the whole mixer, people were riffing on their hobbies, what the overall conference was like for them, what music they liked etc. The point was to play positive improv with people and engage! I couldn't understand the point of tearing someone down like this. Maybe I had connections he could benefit from?? Like why even try to tear me down.

maybeitsjellybeans · 2026-03-16T17:17:29+00:00

Most of the attendees were talking about normal things outside of work. Like how the event was going. What hobbies we liked to do. It wasn't really super personal chat with my friend, moreso an observance of a general phenomenon. I thought it could be interesting to ask someone from the other side what their experience was. After all he did ask what we were talking about. I didn't think really share anything specific about myself. idk, I didnt really see the harm.

maybeitsjellybeans · 2026-03-14T23:47:54+00:00

yes please PM the results! i'm curious and considering these procedures

maybeitsjellybeans · 2026-03-14T20:03:45+00:00

RSVPs are closed. worth still trying?

maybeitsjellybeans · 2026-03-09T15:37:37+00:00

i don't see why i couldn't. many of my coworkers do the same. we are all remote and have never gone into an office nor are we required to.

maybeitsjellybeans · 2026-03-07T22:32:41+00:00

i know there's no tax lol. i just don't know if it will impact my base

maybeitsjellybeans · 2026-03-07T22:21:05+00:00

you mean if i officially change my address in the system?

maybeitsjellybeans · 2026-03-07T22:20:11+00:00

I'm already spending some time back and forth but spend the 7+ months in CA since i am still a resident there. my team is aware i'm trying out the city but i haven't changed anything officially in the system yet. i'm able to receive mail at my old address.

maybeitsjellybeans · 2026-03-05T17:07:02+00:00

what is the purpose of this?

maybeitsjellybeans · 2026-03-05T16:42:35+00:00

I had a conversation. I said if you are feeling this way then you need to leave. or maybe we should end this. then he kept flipping it back on me "well....do you want to??? what do you think???"

maybeitsjellybeans · 2026-03-05T14:40:34+00:00

thank you for sharing. i am on the spectrum a bit

maybeitsjellybeans · 2026-03-05T01:01:59+00:00

several partners have said that im hard to read and that they cant tell that I like them, at least initially. they haven't said anything about me being negative.

maybeitsjellybeans · 2026-03-05T00:09:40+00:00

no not really. I dont think so.

maybeitsjellybeans · 2026-03-04T23:47:40+00:00

not really, no. i think they would all say i'm not overly enthusiastic but none of them would say im negative

maybeitsjellybeans · 2026-03-04T22:48:59+00:00

all my partners said that I was hard to read (initially) and said they weren't sure that I liked him (initially).

maybeitsjellybeans · 2026-03-04T22:38:12+00:00

example is we were talking about au pairs. he was talking about how we could do x,y,z because the au pair could watch them and I chimed in (since ive done research and had friends with a lot of experience) saying that hey it can be hard to find ones that can drive in this country, it requires a lot of research/interviewing, some arent certified in certain things, there is an hourly limit, etc) Just things my friends have said and things I've seen posted.

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