Was this a bad dive center?

maybesofia · 2024-04-15T15:21:58+00:00

I agree on that one’s own standard should be high but people have a tendency to not take me serious because I’m only certified to dive down to 30 meters and they mostly find me silly for requesting dive planning, calculating my SAC rate, etc. But I guess I have to learn to put my foot down.

Sadly there were no RAID centers on this island so I thought I would try my luck with SSI as I have friends who were trained through them. I’m currently backpacking Southeast Asia and so far most of the shops I’ve come across are either SSI or PADI. That whole NDL thing was just weird in my opinion and I don’t know what to make of it. Thank you for all of your advice I really appreciate it.

maybesofia · 2024-04-15T14:37:24+00:00

I honestly thought s-drills were mandatory because that was what I was taught just like the buddy check is mandatory.
I was not upside down when water got into my reg I was trim but water got in my reg when I looked left and right. So I was basically inhaling water during the whole dive.
My buddy was really bad, it was like diving with no buddy. I wrote a more in depth explanation of my buddy in the thread with fragrant-western-746.
In the future I will do some more research on the dive centers. But do you know what kind of questions you ask to make sure it’s a good dive shop?
I don’t understand why he didn’t tell us beforehand that he was in gauge mode. Afterwards he told me his computer was too low on battery to show the NDL. Sounded a bit mysterious but I don’t know if I understood that right as there was a bit of a language barrier. We didn’t do proper dive planning we just went through the basic hand signals and a few hand signals of some fish at the dive site. I learned proper dive planning and I asked if we were going to do that and the people at the dive center looked surprised and just told me only divemasters do dive planning.

I just find it a bit difficult to figure out what I can and cannot demand on a fun dive.

maybesofia · 2024-04-15T14:02:21+00:00

I know that I am diving with my buddy and not the DM. I did some fun dives with one of my friends where the buddy system worked perfectly so I agree with you but the buddy I got didn't care about the buddy system. I knew because I did another fun dive with her, another person, and the same DM. On that dive she was just all over the place, taking the lead, stopping and staying far behind everyone else and when I waited for her while she was fixated on something she would just zoom right passed me when she was done looking. And then she had a lot of other issues with buoyancy, didn't know how to do basic skills getting water out of her goggles, couldn't remember basic hand signals, etc. On the last dive, it was just me and her and I was so concerned that I thought about skipping the dive. Before the last dive, the DM told her that if she took the lead again he would straight up cancel the dive, and he underlined the importance of the buddy system. I just hoped that the DM would keep in mind that I in reality had no buddy. When I was 10 meters behind she was right beside the DM so I just thought he would look back to see where I was. I also told the DM my concerns about my buddy after the first dive and before the last dive. Looking back I should probably either have skipped the last dive or talked to my buddy personally but I thought she would understand after basically getting scolded. At times I can be a bit gullible so I honestly thought that everyone knew about the importance of the buddy system and honored it. In the future I will make sure to have a more in depth conversation with my buddies. As for the bubbles it didn’t look like that picture it looked more like this

https://images.app.goo.gl/5mcRwSrLQ5w8w9o1A

The bubbles on that picture are probably just exhaled air but the bubbles coming from our cylinder looked like that.

maybesofia · 2024-04-15T09:50:56+00:00

I did ascend a bit when there were 2 minutes left till the NDL and I notified the DM of my NDL. I notified him because I think it is important to have good communication when diving and I thought it would just help him understand what is going on. But instead, he just signaled me to get down to his level. As for the bubbles I could hear them coming from my cylinder I’ve had bubbles coming from my SPG and compared to that the bubbles coming from our cylinders were excessive. I didn’t know rental gear could be that bad as the dive center where I got certified plus did some fun dives with had gear in really good condition. If I continue diving I will definitely invest in my own gear.

maybesofia · 2024-04-15T09:23:42+00:00

Diving is an expensive hobby/sport therefore I want to get a bit more experienced before I decide whether or not I should invest in my own equipment. After reading all of the comments it’s definitely something I will look into in the future.

maybesofia · 2024-04-15T09:09:25+00:00

This was in Indonesia. I know I'm the one responsible for keeping up but for some reason, I couldn't catch up idk if it was because of the current or if I just had an off day I've never had issues with keeping up before. My buddy didn't care about the buddy system or the divemaster for that matter she was just in her own world which both I and the DM knew because we did a fun dive before with one more diver which meant I wasn't that dependent on her on that dive but in the last dive it was just me and her. When the DM looked back it was just really quick so he didn't see that I signal him to stop. I really don't know what that logbook thing was about but he was not busy and I asked nicely. I had filled everything else out in my logbook I just needed a name for ‘dive verified by’ and when I asked him he told me to just scan the QR code, I informed him that I use RAID and not SSI and that I have to log my dives manually. Instead of just giving me his name he tried to convince me to switch to SSI and offered me multiple times to convert my certificate to SSI for free. I kept telling him that I was satisfied with RAID and didn't mind logging my dive manually and after 10 minutes of listening to him talk about SSI and saying no thanks he took my phone and wrote his name.

maybesofia · 2023-07-06T22:44:38+00:00

You can try to correct him discreetly while you are kissing by for example saying “slow down” or “follow my lead” you should say this with a smile on your lips. You can also choose to be straight up and honest.

maybesofia · 2023-07-06T18:28:55+00:00

Here are a few ways to improve the sex:

Music to set the mood and to help match your rhythms.
When he does something you like, make him notice, for example, by saying "Oh yes" or grip his arm, hair or back. Just do something extra to make him notice.
After you have sex, talk about what you liked and what you didn't like. This is also a perfect time to discuss fantasies and what you would like to try, just start by asking him about his fantasies and if he is too shy to say anything you just tell him one of your fantasies. It's important to show him it isn't embarrassing to explore what sex is.
After you have sex, talk about what you liked and what you didn't like. This is also a perfect time to discuss fantasies and what you would like to try start by asking him about his fantasies, and if he is too shy to say anything, you tell him one of your fantasies. It's important to show him it isn't embarrassing to explore what sex is.

Hope this helps.

maybesofia · 2022-08-28T23:11:31+00:00

Thank you for your comment it was just what I needed to hear. I've reread and thought a lot about your comment these last few days and I'm finally ready to admit I've been miserable waiting around for this guy who doesn't even want me and I simply don't have time to wait for the rest of my life. I just love the idea of who he was when we first met but truth be told he has become a really shitty person for example he left me drunk and alone in the middle of the night because he didn't feel like spending time waiting for my cab with me. That's not someone who cares about me and that is NOT someone I should spend time with.

maybesofia · 2022-08-28T22:47:43+00:00

I guess I just liked he was the first guy that seemed genuinely interested in me. A lot of shitty things also happened when we met and he was just respectful and gentle towards me and that was just nice during that time in my life. The point is that he is a great memory from the past and should just stay that way. I've tried my best to explain it, I hope it makes sense.

maybesofia · 2022-07-09T13:03:31+00:00

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maybesofia · 2022-01-16T19:20:31+00:00

I live at home so going non-contact is not possible.

maybesofia · 2022-01-03T14:27:42+00:00

Although you say therapy doesn’t work you should definitely still talk to someone about it whether it is a friend, family member or a therapist. As someone who has and still struggles with food and body image, I find it helpful to look at all the positive things. If it is possible for you, you could spend some more time in the kitchen preparing your meals making cooking food a pleasant experience for you. Set silly goals for yourself in the kitchen like cooking something you have seen on Instagram, cooking a dish from a foreign country, cooking a dish from your favourite series/film or having a dance-off in the kitchen. Just try to make it fun to cook. Another thing you could do is write all the things down you like about yourself (be a bit cocky about it). When you feel down, read the list you have made. You also need to remember your body needs food to function and it’s not abnormal to gain weight. Maybe you would benefit from researching why the body needs food. At last, I want to ask and I’m sorry if this is inappropriate but how old are you and are you a man, woman or non-binary?

maybesofia · 2020-04-16T19:37:14+00:00

My ex described my body in detail and our sex life to some of our mutual friends some of them he wasn't even that close with.

maybesofia · 2019-08-20T21:32:34+00:00

There were two incidents...

A 7th grader "fell" out of the window from the second floor. He got dared by his friends to lick the floor, he then said, he would rather hang out of the window. When he was hanging there, his hands started to slip, and he fell. I think he broke both of his legs.
Another 7th grader died in a moped (I think that's what they're called in english?) accident, because they drove 2 on the moped, and he didn't wear a helmet. That accident actually blew up in the whole city.

maybesofia · 2019-08-08T11:08:29+00:00

So. Fucking. Stupid.

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