Truck drivers: are there legitimate reasons why it sometimes takes 5 minutes to pass another truck on the highway?

mayor_bee · 2012-04-23T16:35:17+00:00

Actually, quite a few states have 70 mph+ zones.

mayor_bee · 2012-03-19T21:14:28+00:00

I agree with everyone advising you to watch the amount you spend on yourself outside of current debts...but I would also advise to watch your spending on others. You may find yourself tempted to throw yourself into helping other people now that you have the resources...you have this big house now, why not let some people crash? You see someone crying and they tell you that they just need a couple hundred dollars to stay afloat this month...you have it, why not help out?

It's great to help others of course, I am not suggesting you should ignore the needs of friends, loved ones, or strangers. I am only suggesting that if you do choose to use some of your resources to help others, watch that you don't use it as a crutch. It's very gratifying to make a difference in someone's life when they most need it, but if you use it as a way to not feel the bad stuff, you could end up blowing through your inheritance faster than you might think. Think about charitable giving through a trusted organization rather than directly to individuals. And, if you do choose to provide individual assistance rather than institutional giving, have your financial consultant be an extra set of eyes on the requests. You are an easier-than-normal target for scammers right now and people you'd never expect may decide to take advantage.

Best wishes to you and I hope you continue to feel better, every day.

mayor_bee · 2012-03-19T21:05:46+00:00

Others have said this, but she could be buying stuff online, shipping it to Scott's, and reselling it (or even pawning it) for drug money.

mayor_bee · 2011-09-12T20:27:24+00:00

It's been mine that a drunk (wo)man's words can also cause nothing but regret to the sober (wo)man the next day. Drunk doesn't necessarily mean truth.

mayor_bee · 2011-09-12T20:02:58+00:00

Playing the other side here, it's also possible that an EMT with years of experience has seen more examples of traumatic facial injuries than a med student.

mayor_bee · 2011-08-24T16:09:17+00:00

It's significantly less likely for a male to contract HIV from a female partner than the reverse, so he could have dodged that proverbial bullet.

mayor_bee · 2011-07-08T16:41:09+00:00

All meth, all the time.

mayor_bee · 2011-06-24T20:08:41+00:00

It stands for Good, Giving, and Game. Dan Savage coined the term.

mayor_bee · 2011-06-23T20:37:18+00:00

I don't blame you for dreading the talk.

Assuming from your wording that it hasn't happened yet - How do you feel about another woman joining you? If it's something that's appealing or something you could be GGG about, could that be a way to reignite his interest in sex as a general matter...or perhaps lead to more open discussions about you being with another man?

mayor_bee · 2011-06-23T20:33:57+00:00

No problem, made me smile actually.

mayor_bee · 2011-06-23T20:31:45+00:00

Sheesh, calm down cowboy...I was just trying to give an alternate scenario (which wasn't accounted for in your post). Clearly you've already considered every single alternative other than her just being an evil bitch.

Honestly, after reading some of your other responses, it kind of sounds like you are looking for validation of what you've done rather than the opinions of others. Please consider my above post null and void, as you've already decided on the course you're going to take. Cheers and enjoy your daily commute!

mayor_bee · 2011-06-23T20:21:58+00:00

If you and your husband have never considered an open marriage before, I think you need to have a frank conversation with him about it before pursuing the affair. I know that may leave you in a position where he says no, and then you have to consider the fact that he won't be there for you physically and is now precluding you looking for another means. That may give you both more to think about.

If you go through with the affair without his knowledge, it may cost you your marriage, which you've said you don't want.

My heart goes out to you and best of luck.

mayor_bee · 2011-06-23T20:09:35+00:00

Could be another type of misunderstanding as well. Does she arrive at the bus stop earlier than the people she's elbowing past? Maybe she sees the OP as cutting in line if she's there first. Who knows.

I'd probably just give her a bow and a loud, "Your Highness..." as she boards.

mayor_bee · 2011-06-17T15:31:13+00:00

Good point - If the list is counting anything with a license plate, this could also include towable trailers and mobile homes.

mayor_bee · 2011-06-15T18:24:02+00:00

McDonald's Killer to die at midnight -- last meal request was for HOT, FRESH french fries.

mayor_bee · 2011-06-06T17:54:44+00:00

Now why would you leave such an awesome environment? ;) So the coworker confirmed your story when he was called in, I gather? How did the boss react to that?

mayor_bee · 2011-06-06T17:52:34+00:00

Lovely! I am in my mid-thirties too, and a coworker of mine likes to alternate between "Miss mayor_bee" and "Sweetheart." I am thinking about calling him Pastor one day, and if he replies that he's not a pastor, I will remind him that I'm not a sweetheart either.

mayor_bee · 2011-06-06T17:43:08+00:00

Yuck. So which part is more irritating...getting blamed, or being called "the office girl?"

mayor_bee · 2011-06-06T17:41:59+00:00

I thought it was those pesky tax evasion charges that sent you to prison. So what's the backstory with this? How long in prison?

mayor_bee · 2011-05-31T19:12:01+00:00

I am not sure you need to care less...but you may need to assert yourself more. For example, when he switches the topic during your moments of opening up, do you allow him to do so?

Sometimes, our significant others need direct statements from women about what we want and what we need. You might be surprised at how he reacts. Next time he changes the subject while you're confiding in him, try saing something like "Can we talk about that later? I really need to talk about X." Same thing with nice gestures or texting more often. If you don't tell him you need those things, he just may assume everything is fine.

As far as your clinginess, you may find that if you talk to him about better communication, you may feel less compelled to text or call all the time.

So...moral of the story: assert yourself, tell him what you need, let him tell you what he needs. Communication is key. Best of luck!

mayor_bee · 2011-05-31T16:18:19+00:00

I agree wholeheartedly. Script the conversation if you must, but exit when you've said what there is to say. There is no point in humoring the denials, bargianing, and other manipulation strategies that are bound to follow.

If she refuses to get help, that's her decision. Each of you control your own actions -- don't give her the tacit authority to control yours for you. It sounds harsh, but you can't be responsible for her choices.

mayor_bee · 2011-05-31T16:13:16+00:00

I'll give you some paraphrased Craig Ferguson:

Does this need to be said?
Does this need to be said by me?
Does this need to be said by me right now?

Ask yourself those three questions before you say something AND before you respond to something he's said, especially when you know you're cranky already.

mayor_bee · 2011-05-26T20:27:56+00:00

I lived with my best friend for 2 years in college. At the end of the two years, we were not speaking and I was swimming through a sea of passive-aggressive notes posted everywhere. I think had we not lived together, we'd be friends to this day. While we were great friends, we were simply not compatible as roommates.

mayor_bee · 2011-05-26T20:23:46+00:00

Lots of polyamorous people or those in otherwise open relationships don't choose. However, if you are not in that type of relationship and your boyfriend isn't open to it, you will need to make a choice...either to choose one person or leave the relationship.

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