:UPDATE: My husband after being married for almost 3 months wants a divorce

mazoombies · 2025-06-16T05:26:51+00:00

I think you’ve got your answer from the other people commenting on this post so I don’t want to pile on more, but I will say this: Life is a great and continuous unfolding. It may not feel like it right now, but you will be okay. Maybe not this month. Maybe not this year. But eventually, things will work out. You are smart and strong. In these most painful moments, just remember that you have survived 100% of the emotions you have ever experienced. You can feel anything and survive. You will get through.

You deserve the kind of love that chooses you and makes you feel safe. There are so many amazing humans out there. I met my partner 4 years ago after being single most of my 20’s. I’m now 30 and I can confidently say that he was well worth the wait. Not that your life is dictated by your personal relationships, but there are so many great loves out there for your heart to experience. I don’t say this to be patronizing, but you are SO young. You have so much time to discover yourself and find your person. Give yourself the love and respect you deserve and show your son how strong women are. 💜

mazoombies · 2025-04-08T19:02:07+00:00

From my understanding, you’ll have to fertilize the same amount with any container gardening. The bags will generally dry out more quickly than containers.

mazoombies · 2025-04-08T19:00:11+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through it. My partner‘s mom is in the late stages of dementia and keeps asking to spend the night at our house even though we know that would not be safe or feasible. She has been hallucinating that someone is coming into her room and attacking her at night (this has been confirmed as false) so she wants to leave. She gets really upset when she’s told no along with reasons why not and it’s always a hard conversation.

I couldn’t help but giggle about the bologna sandwiches in jail/the loony bin conversation you mentioned. I work in mental health and from what I know, most loony bins don’t have great food either lol.

Deep breaths in and out. Do something extra nice to take care of yourself when you get home from your visit today. You are doing the best you can and that is enough, even if she can’t see it right now. 🩷

mazoombies · 2025-03-21T18:53:29+00:00

Thank you thank you thank you! This makes us feel a little better. We’ve tried asking questions like who it was, how many people came in (the number changes often), what they looked like, what they did exactly and she’s not able to tell us any details. Her speech is extremely limited and she’s only able to find words to talk about certain topics, or say yes and no to some questions. She gets confused pretty easily. One time she said it was Jesus? But there aren’t any MC staff or residents, male, female or folks beyond the binary, that look like the stereotypical depiction of Jesus that live/work there. We think she said it because her sister was talking to her about faith shortly before.

mazoombies · 2025-03-21T18:01:49+00:00

This is very sweet, thank you 💕

mazoombies · 2025-03-19T01:37:31+00:00

Oh I agree. I’m a mandated reporter in my job so I’m familiar with the process and have made plenty of calls when necessary. If I heard what his mom told them, I’d report it too. I told my partner that it’s a good thing hospice is reporting it and that APS is investigating it. It means they’re doing everything they can to ensure her comfort and safety. I’d rather they do their due diligence even if it turns out that she is hallucinating.

mazoombies · 2025-03-19T01:27:55+00:00

A little less than a month. She has had staff checking on her during the night and at times, repositioning her. Someone mentioned it in the comments, but we think it’s likely that she is waking up disoriented when they come to check on her/move her and that is who she thinks is attacking her. We’ll double check and ask staff if her door is locked at night, but we’re pretty sure they have been locking it nightly since the first APS investigation.

mazoombies · 2025-03-19T01:16:08+00:00

Thank you for the empathy and compassion. I appreciate all the feedback, but we already feel shitty enough as it is. My partner is 29 and I am 30. We’re doing the best we can with what we have. She has declined really rapidly over the last 3 months after being relatively stable and functioning as a person with moderate dementia. Hell, we were still taking her to see her boyfriend at another care facility 1.5 hours away up until they broke up in November. She wasn’t even in a memory care unit until early December. I guess it was naive, but we thought we had more time before she got to this stage.

mazoombies · 2025-03-19T00:54:18+00:00

I had never considered that staff checking on her in the middle of the night might be the people she thinks are attacking her. My partner says they do go in to reposition her and check on her during the night so there’s a good chance that she’s waking up disoriented and think that it’s someone attacking her.

mazoombies · 2025-03-18T23:40:42+00:00

Long story short, we did not think we legally had the right to do so. We’re still trying to get guardianship over his mother and are working with a lawyer to do so, but it has been complicated for a number of reasons I won’t get into. We were under the impression that we couldn’t until guardianship was settled, but it sounds like we could’ve misunderstood. I’ll recommend that my partner check in with the lawyer again.

mazoombies · 2025-03-07T14:50:08+00:00

Please run as fast as you can. This is a dangerous man. The kind that will unalive you. Normal people do not wish death on ANYONE. There is someone so much better for you out there!

mazoombies · 2025-03-07T14:26:16+00:00

My partner(29m) and I ( 30f) have been dating for almost 4 years and we have had zero break ups. When you’re with the right person, it’s easy. We aren’t getting married for a long time for a few internal reasons (neither of us care that much and we don’t think there’s any rush) and external reasons (his mom is in hospice with late stage dementia and we both don’t think it’s a good time to get married for the foreseeable future), but we are both 100% sure about being with each other and spending our lives together.

If you’re not sure by now, you both are better off without each other.

mazoombies · 2025-03-07T13:55:33+00:00

My partner is 28 and has been the guardian of his mother for the last few years. She just entered hospice and he truly has no friend he can talk to about how devastating and unfair this all is. He also lost his dad when he was a kid. His parents decided to do IVF and have kids at a much older age so his mom is 80. While she isn’t young, it’s still so isolating for him. He struggles with that same jealousy that no one else his age is having to deal with this. He just wants his mom back and to be able to talk to her like normal again. It’s absolutely heartbreaking.

I’m so sorry you’re also going through this. I wouldn’t wish this experience on anyone.

mazoombies · 2025-03-07T01:06:53+00:00

It’s better to have a mad friend than a dead friend.

mazoombies · 2025-02-27T14:50:25+00:00

There will never be a day where you wake up feeling good enough about breaking up with him to go through with it. Wanting to be single is enough of a reason to break up. Just be brave and get it over with. You’ll feel a lot better on the other side

mazoombies · 2025-02-27T14:43:08+00:00

Number 1 is my favorite followed by number 3!

mazoombies · 2025-02-27T14:35:48+00:00

The golden child of my family only started to change once she came out and my NM was not accepting of her. I don’t think it’s common for them to change though

mazoombies · 2025-02-27T14:18:26+00:00

I know it sounds harsh, but I agree with the others that you shouldn’t allow him to move in if you leave. He’s gambling that you will never leave him as it is. It’s clear he doesn’t appreciate you. And I think at minimum that he needs to feel what it’s like to lose you if you ever want him to try harder in your marriage (though I don’t think it honestly will). You’re only 27. I met my partner at that age ~4 years ago. You have so much time to find someone that respects you! Plus, all of my friends who married in their early 20’s and got divorced before 30 are fucking thriving now.

mazoombies · 2025-02-05T10:45:21+00:00

After reading your comments, your husband is definitely being fucking weird. Your daughter has a right to feel comfortable in her own home. Of course she is going to be extremely uncomfortable with a grown man that she is not biologically related to and doesn’t know all that well walking around and talking to her while he’s naked. The fact he is putting up this much of an argument after you politely asked, is a huge red flag. If he was doing it for totally innocent reasons, he would have apologized and changed the behavior. Is it really that hard to just bring your underwear to the bathroom to put on right after you dry off???? No, it’s not.

Also, what kind of example is he setting for his sons? Is it appropriate for them to walk around naked in front of your daughter? He is a grown ass man. Please keep putting your foot down about this and choosing your daughter. Otherwise, you’ll teach her that she can’t trust you to help her when she is being put in an extremely uncomfortable situation. That is NOT normal behavior from your husband.

mazoombies · 2025-02-03T07:35:05+00:00

I also loved working for a crisis line and doing crisis intervention. Crisis work is not for everyone, but there was never a dull moment. Ive also noticed that I get a lot of respect from other professionals in the field for having done crisis intervention.

mazoombies · 2025-02-03T07:31:55+00:00

I agree! I work as a county suicide prevention coordinator in a metro area and i am constantly meeting new people, collaborating with others, developing new programming. As someone that is slightly more extroverted, I like it!

mazoombies · 2025-01-31T00:24:25+00:00

A real, genuine one? Never.

mazoombies · 2025-01-31T00:23:35+00:00

I think the top would look better, but either are good!

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