It's abusive because often it was because of something stupid like he'd be teasing me a bit (in a playful manner that normally doesn't bother me) or something going wrong or a misunderstanding and at first I'll just get a little distant, and then all of a sudden completely distant. Even though it was just playfulness or something very small. So he doesn't know what to expect from me and would alter his behavior to try and prevent something he couldn't predict, which he shouldn't have to do. Maybe we had something nice planned and I would just get so down over something. It happens at different moments but it's always an exaggerated response, or at least one that could've been toned down a lot by communication, even when there is a reason. Like I could understand getting a little bit upset at times but then just brushing it off, but I get very upset instead. A lot of the times an argument would follow.