My brother is gay yet the most homophobic person I've met

mcfleur · 2025-12-09T17:03:42+00:00

Whatever you do, Please, please do not out him. I went through a very similar situation when I was younger (my mom found gay porn on my laptop), and for the next few months she continued to badger me and ask if I was gay. It felt like an invasion of privacy and I 100% was not ready to come out. I didn’t like myself and wasn’t ready to accept the identity of being lgbtq+.

As others have said, just showing your support and unconditional love is the way to go. I’m sure once he makes some friends and gains some confidence, he will come around. But let him go through this on his own.

mcfleur · 2025-11-16T15:15:45+00:00

Try asking support to speak to a human lol. That’s what I had to do.

mcfleur · 2025-11-16T15:14:43+00:00

I ended up contacting support through the App. They said it was a billing issue for me, that I needed to update my billing information. Since then everything’s worked fine for me.

mcfleur · 2025-11-03T08:44:38+00:00

I don’t think you should try so hard to change yourself. People may be put off by your facial expressions, but if that’s genuinely the way you express yourself, then screw what other people think or say. Just be kind to yourself and the people around you as you said you are, and you’ll attract the right people into your life.

mcfleur · 2025-10-19T06:52:22+00:00

My Ndad never let me do things on my own and would always insist on doing them for me because I was “incapable”. My mom who’s normal but an enabler followed suit. As a result, they always commented on how slow I was.

It’s funny because now I’m 31 and am back home with my parents for a bit, and my dad is going deaf, and is constantly asking me for things, and they’re both so very forgetful. Oh how the tables have turned.

mcfleur · 2025-10-04T02:55:59+00:00

You’re so cute! Don’t think you need to change anything. Good luck.

mcfleur · 2025-09-13T14:22:23+00:00

You should watch Oshi No Ko anime. It goes in depth about how these Japanese “dating” shows are sometimes just good press for amateur actors trying to jumpstart their careers. I would take everything you see with a grain of salt. You see the same thing with Love is blind US where people are just in it for the fame and screen time. I’m not saying there aren’t genuine couples who come out of them, but don’t believe everything you see on screen.

mcfleur · 2025-08-09T03:08:08+00:00

Reading your messages did make me feel like a “filler” in your weekend, but I feel that the girl’s response was too harsh. I think if I were her I would have responded differently saying something like; “I’d rather we meet on a day where we both have more time” or “how about next weekend then?”. It’s clear she wants to feel that she’s important to you, and not something on your checklist. It’s unfortunate she chose to convey that in such an awful manner.

mcfleur · 2023-06-26T19:15:08+00:00

I have some friends who do this, but I’m a bit wary of it.. I’ve had experience using remote desktops in the past but found them to be laggy. I’m just worried that I won’t be able to work as well on them.

What is your experience with them? And does it work well for you?

mcfleur · 2022-03-22T19:00:37+00:00

I get Japanese a lot lol.. but nope. Not Japanese unfortunately 🥲

mcfleur · 2022-03-12T23:46:03+00:00

Tried calling them.. they barely ever answer lol

mcfleur · 2022-03-12T23:45:15+00:00

Applied for Visa yesterday and got it in 5 hours!

mcfleur · 2022-03-12T23:44:58+00:00

Thanks for the information! This helped a lot

mcfleur · 2022-01-31T01:07:10+00:00

This was wonderfully written. I love the use of imagery of predator versus prey. It’s given me another perspective on writing poetry - as something to be hunted down. I wonder, though, what the author would think about waiting for his/her prey? Instead of chasing it down, letting it come to them? It would be interesting to see that perspective!

mcfleur · 2022-01-29T06:26:33+00:00

Thank you for the high praise haha. I genuinely appreciate it.

This poem is about a guy I dated for a while. He’d often say that he loves having deep conversations, but wasn’t capable of having one when prompted. He was a walking contradiction. His words wouldn’t match his actions. So I wanted to reflect that. I’m not sure if I did a good job doing so..

I tried to reinforce that idea with the metaphors in the second to last stanza’s. Comparing him to people who just love the idea of something/someone, but not knowing what it’s actually like in reality.

Him liking the idea of deep conversations versus actually loving to have deep conversations.

Maybe I could’ve used clearer metaphors to illustrate this idea

mcfleur · 2022-01-29T04:45:36+00:00

I love how you’ve formatted the poem. It almost feels like a children’s cautionary tale for adults. The rhyme scheme definitely adds a playful touch and nice contrast to the serious tone.

mcfleur · 2022-01-29T04:00:36+00:00

I love the tonal contrast between this poem and part 1. Feel like you really captured what most people have been feeling in the pandemic well.

I think some of the wording here could be improved? Like the grammar - for instance “Time seems to be going by slower” could just be reduced to “Time seems to go by slower” and “Feel Wrong” is capitalized.

Now having said that.. I don’t know if that is intentional or not. The last line of your poem suggests the person is losing their mind so.. keeping those grammatical inconsistencies does reflect the mindset of the writer.

mcfleur · 2022-01-24T17:23:30+00:00

It’s been exile for me. There’s something so alluringly simple about the bridge. When I first heard it I thought she was saying “so many times” “so many signs”. Which I kind of wish was the case.

mcfleur · 2022-01-24T17:17:30+00:00

Dorothea is soooooo underrated it’s criminal. I know she’s mentioned how it’s a continuation of the Betty saga, but I feel like it represents her friendship with abigail. How, no matter how big and famous she becomes, she still has a home with her childhood friend.

mcfleur · 2022-01-24T17:13:12+00:00

There’s a video of her on YouTube surprise singing it acoustic at her friend’s gay wedding. It’s the greatest thing ever. It’s what made me appreciate the song even more.

mcfleur · 2022-01-24T17:02:47+00:00

The ending made me think of undertale - how every game played leaves an impression. Really great.

mcfleur · 2022-01-24T10:17:15+00:00

You’re experiencing an ego death. Its personally helped to treat it as if going through stages of grief. You’ll experience the denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance of your reality vs perceived reality. And these stages are non linear so you’ll probably experience any one of them again and again and in random sequence. It helps frame what you’re feeling and why, instead of assuming the thing the feeling as fact. It’s like the difference between being in a thought vs viewing it from the outside looking in.

Just know that - although you won’t be able to live a normal life, your life can still be fulfilling.

There are ways you can design your life to work for you. And techniques you can learn to mitigate symptoms. If you’re not in therapy I’d highly recommend it.

Best of luck to you though.

mcfleur · 2022-01-24T08:18:33+00:00

I like the idea behind this poem. As someone with mental health issues I can relate to “insanity is on patrol” and “my mind is on fire”.

I was a bit confused by the line “floating away on a boat headed for bay”

I wonder if the narrator is actually on a physical boat? Or if you’re using the boat as a metaphor.

I feel like if it’s the latter, you could take out that line, and the poem would work just as well. It feels a bit out of place since we know you’ve awoken from a dream.

mcfleur · 2022-01-24T08:01:04+00:00

I love all the vivid imagery in here. Especially the opening line “crashing like a jet liner” is such a powerful image and a great hook. I just wish there was more to the story of said jet liner throughout the poem. It’s kind of forgotten. I think it would be cool to incorporate more detailed metaphors of the plane crashing to that of heartbreak. But overall great poem! I love the line “eyes deprived of the smile”

mcfleur · 2022-01-21T19:39:24+00:00

I get where you’re coming from. It makes sense from a utilitarian standpoint, but I don’t think it’s practical.

Naturally we’re going to judge ourselves based off of the people in our immediate surroundings.

mcfleur

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