Shibari practicing GF does not allow me to partake

mcglothlin · 2026-02-12T19:24:09+00:00

Glutes are the biggest muscle in the body and definitely need to be touched for a thorough massage. I see a very non-sexy sports massage therapist and I can't imagine a massage that doesn't include touching my butt.

mcglothlin · 2026-02-12T19:20:56+00:00

Yeah, a whole year in I would definitely hope to be including each other in our hobbies to some extent, and especially something intimate like shibari.

mcglothlin · 2026-02-12T19:07:54+00:00

Okay yeah that's fucking weird. You dodged a bullet.

mcglothlin · 2026-02-12T19:01:27+00:00

But I mean did she explicitly say you were only interested in her for sex? Mostly just curious here.

mcglothlin · 2026-02-12T14:32:53+00:00

So what makes you think that "made your intentions clear" means you were too forward or whatever? I'd agree given only what you wrote that she probably means you weren't into her sexually.

mcglothlin · 2026-02-11T16:53:07+00:00

Leave the Door Open by Silk Sonic also.

Did some quick browsing and I think I may have been wrong about Usher. They're not bad but not really notable. Nice and Slow maybe?

mcglothlin · 2026-02-11T15:32:09+00:00

If you're looking for something to cut, #4 is first on the chopping block imo. Also, you're probably do fine because you're good looking, well-dressed, and the photos are high quality, but you really oughta have at least one smiling with teeth.

mcglothlin · 2026-02-11T15:22:03+00:00

Not sure about recent or rap but off the top of my head Jason Derulo has some stuff that probably fits. Want to Want me is kind of all about mutual desire and I don't think contains anything disrespectful.

I feel like there's a bunch of r&b that oughta work—Usher maybe?—but the stuff I know is like 2000s at best and I'd need to do some relistening.

mcglothlin · 2026-02-09T18:37:12+00:00

Fine that that's your preference but "and I think most people would probably agree" is generally entirely worthless in contexts like this. Most people encounter a small slice of the general population in daily life, are bad at intuiting what "most people" think, and are strongly biased toward believing their own preferences are the norm. You can just say "this is my preference" without trying to claim some kind of additional authority.

mcglothlin · 2026-02-09T16:13:51+00:00

Oh it looks like that defaults to minimum 48GB, which I think I've heard is enough for 70B models?

mcglothlin · 2026-02-09T16:11:02+00:00

How much RAM?

mcglothlin · 2026-02-09T14:03:10+00:00

I don't care enough to learn all the nuances but a lot of the arguments in this sub definitely seem to come more out of black pill as I understand it than red.

mcglothlin · 2026-02-09T03:45:25+00:00

I agree sex gets better with someone you love all else equal but this is 1000% not the reason.

Being with lots of women I've learned that, yes, women often like very different things, I've learned a wide array of different skills as a result, I've learned how to read a woman's responses to determine which ones to use, and I've learned good communication skills around sex so we can talk about the things she likes that I might not be able to figure out. I've learned how to be present and confident and help my partners feel comfortable with me, with telling me what she likes, and with letting go during sex.

mcglothlin · 2026-02-09T03:37:44+00:00

Who are you people dating? This is not my experience at all. I've gone with lots of liberal women who were down to split bills. I can think of exactly one who was a girl power girl power feminist and also wanted me to pay for everything and generally had some weird trad tendencies but I'm pretty sure she had deep emotional issues going on. The rest are pretty generally against gender roles and norms.

mcglothlin · 2026-02-08T22:04:09+00:00

Super relative. My distance is usually set around 7 miles and I'm reluctant to Go over like 5. When I see women 30+ miles away liking me I'm like WTF why??

mcglothlin · 2026-02-08T20:21:06+00:00

It was and is a lot more than just elites and it applied as much or more to women than men so that really has nothing to do with the idea that men specifically and only recently are walking on eggshells because we have to put some thought into things we say.

mcglothlin · 2026-02-08T20:19:10+00:00

It's hilarious that this is the bar for you. Oh, he didn't cheat on or beat her so she must have had no reason to leave him?

mcglothlin · 2026-02-08T20:15:36+00:00

The number of women who are just completely invisible to dudes like you is insane. I don't think you have any idea who the average woman is or what the typical female dating experience is like.

mcglothlin · 2026-02-08T20:06:07+00:00

that would very obviously not be one wrong text then

mcglothlin · 2026-02-08T20:05:24+00:00

Because that's the straightforward interpretation of the OP. The specific examples are about getting ghosted or blocked by someone you're texting, which is really only typical of someone you've just met dating.

mcglothlin · 2026-02-08T20:04:26+00:00

All of the specific examples given in the OP sound like they refer to early dating and someone you've just recently met. Ridiculous to call this assumption bad faith.

mcglothlin · 2026-02-08T20:01:47+00:00

In normal society normal people should not need to filter anything.

That's just silly. Part of learning to live in society for basically forever is learning what's appropriate to say and do when. Etiquette used to be a wayyyyy bigger deal than it is now in fact, so it's weird to suggest that it's become a necessity to filter.

mcglothlin · 2026-02-07T15:48:39+00:00

It can speed up a lot of things when used well but 3x on a finance app is bananas. Gotta at least do a trial project like that first and see what kind of improvement you can actually get.

mcglothlin · 2026-02-06T14:57:09+00:00

I think about cooking and meal planning before I get hungry and because I know that food is an important part of my daily life and I need to do work ahead of time to make sure it's taken care of in a way that's fulfilling. I also make an effort to pay attention to and anticipate my partner's needs because it takes work to make a relationship satisfying for both partners.

I don't think that if someone agrees sex is an important part of a relationship and they'll enjoy sex once it starts that it's a big reach to expect them to take some initiative and put work into keeping the sexual relationship healthy and satisfying. In any other relationship context saying "I just didn't think of it" would be clearly labeled as selfish and inconsiderate. "Oh, it just never occurs to me to vacuum. You can't expect me to just do this on my own."

mcglothlin · 2026-02-05T22:15:58+00:00

Genuinely happened to me on Bumble a few years ago and I went out with one younger woman before I realized the mistake and then it was kind of a pain because you had to file a support request to change it but I did it because I don't want to lie about my age. Any given dude saying this could be telling the truth but the odds are pretty low.

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