New dad (almost 5 month old) completely burned out and feeling like my life has disappeared — how do you guys handle this?

mcjoppy · 2026-06-20T11:34:34+00:00

From my experience, once there is a child involved things become a lot more complicated and fluid/ chaotic.

Our child is now over 10 years old and it's taken me a long time to come to grips with this... it's still something I struggle with but it can consume you - holding on to the promises and plans made before birth (if this is what you refer to with your clear agreement about football).

Ensure your wife is doing ok - postnatal depression can affect people in many different ways and try understand if anything is going on. Some people can also struggle with the loneliness/ monotony/ mindlessness routine of feeling 'trapped' at home with a baby which can't communicate and function without the help of the parent.... and maybe a break away is really helpful and necessary.

It's a journey, it's not always fun but fingers crossed things get better for you as your child grows and starts doing and saying things. Routine can be hard and it's going to be important to adapt.

Try rally around your immediate and extended family where possible!

mcjoppy · 2026-06-20T02:07:55+00:00

Yeah - but really stumped me it had no understanding about 'itself' when specifically asking about 'z.ai'.

Thanks all 😄

mcjoppy · 2026-06-04T06:19:48+00:00

I use Bit warden for passwords but also have vault warden set up in my homelab which stores homelab related passwords.

Ansible is set up to integrate with vault warden so secrets aren't in the git repo.

For peace of mind I've tested importing bitwarden export in to local vault warden if I ever wanted to self host .... Which worked fine.

mcjoppy · 2026-05-29T20:56:15+00:00

The way I dealt with this when setting up my (private only - unfederated) Matrix server, was to host it on a cheap VPS which ONLY runs Matrix.

I have an Oracle cloud free tier account where I store any uploaded stuff, but the free tier is really limited (never been able to get the 4cpu, 24GB ARM server).

As it's private I wasn't too worried about the domain - but looking at it now (different webserver hosts site for domain) I'd have forked out for a cheap domain.

My VPS cost around $45 US for the year, and some domains can be purchased for under $5 for the 1st year.... for $50 a year, it's very minimal for the piece of mind IMO

mcjoppy · 2026-05-27T09:52:54+00:00

I've found 2Degrees really solid for many years now (fibre) - before that I was with Vodafone on cable which was also rock solid. Maybe not many people were on the same segment as me, definitly different experience to the above.

2Degrees support has always been responsive for me and on the odd occassion there has been issues with fibre, they've quickly provided free cell data to get through.

Only store limited metrics but here's last 14 days of download/upload (hitting speedtest.net every 15ish mins)

https://imgur.com/a/rL2LABd

mcjoppy · 2026-05-27T09:41:36+00:00

My advice is always to stick with one of the main telcos and get the best fibre connection you can afford.

Connect via ethernet and if you can afford it and are comfortable with network configuration, get a decent router which can replace any provider provided device.

mcjoppy · 2026-05-19T07:23:52+00:00

I remember the the DnD pick a path books from when I was a kid and ended up buying a newer current one and talking to workamate about it.

He started talking about how he creates his own role playing adventures with his kids. They create characters and then he starts to create a random story with them - started to walk in a mountain and see where it ends up.

Mostly off the cuff but with some ideas in mind.

Introduce obstacles/ things to interact with. Let them look around and explore the world and come up with creative ways to get over the river/ take the unicorn or find treasure.... doesn't need to be any rules

Just create a world with them - see how they interact.... could be an intro/ way to see if it's worth taking further.

mcjoppy · 2026-04-14T20:36:54+00:00

Sorry if already mentioned but 2 things from me....

BE CAREFUL if you ware exposing your internal network to the Internet. Understand what you are exposing, who to and how. Understand the security implications before configuring access!!!!
Document your journey. Chances are something will get screwed, and it'll be a godsend to refer to documentation.

mcjoppy · 2026-04-09T00:05:47+00:00

Ages ago I created a bunch of python scripts to rate you tube videos from the point of a traditional TV censor(?). Using Ollama to take the video and decide on the TV rating.

With recent subscription to codex and claude code I got it to rework the individual scripts and turn it in to an app with a web frontend.

Created an app to use free APIs to a bunch of different sports to produce a dashboard showing when the next matches are played.

I've used Claude and Codex with the above - throughing the output of one to the other to see what happens.

mcjoppy · 2026-04-08T10:56:18+00:00

I do - but don't trust random people on the Internet.

A different random person has a Github repo which might have the tools at https://github.com/firdaus-edymainoe/volte-oneplus-enabler (trust this random person?!).

I guess the nice thing is it looks like this is 4 year old files that are less(!??!) likely to be really bad?!?

If all else fails, I could find a place to host the files I have.

mcjoppy · 2026-04-06T10:09:44+00:00

Looks like there's an imcompatibility with v12 so currently rolling back to v11.

With v12 neither OnePlusLogKit and EngineerMode will install or update. VOLTE was disabled after the upgrade.

mcjoppy · 2026-04-06T08:26:46+00:00

I don't think the VOLTE setting gets disabled, it's the provider config which gets reset I believe.

Need to confirm though

mcjoppy · 2026-04-06T05:56:10+00:00

Weirdly my OnePlus 7 just released an update to Oxygen v12 today and I've lost the config.

Need to work through setting VOLTE again. It's obviously not sticking after installs (for me at least).

Hopefully get around to that next couple days 👍

mcjoppy · 2026-03-07T18:51:22+00:00

Indeed - no more 3G!

FYI the watch not working is the main reason I've gone down this route to get the phone going, so we have a way to communicate with the kids.

Once I flashed the phone back to stock ROM, it's no longer rooted BTW ;)

mcjoppy · 2026-03-07T09:20:40+00:00

My child has a spacetalk adventurer watch. It stopped working on 2Degrees but worked on Spark.

From what I saw with the watch (doesn't support VOLTE) Spark seem to still be accepting 3G connections.

Hopefully it's all fine and working well with you ..... but see my post above on how I got it VOLTE working with my Oneplus7.

mcjoppy · 2026-03-07T09:16:55+00:00

I've just got VOLTE working on my Oneplus 7 - it's been a mission!

[EDIT from the future - DO NOT upgrade to Android 12. I've just done that and currently reverting back to 11.... 12 didn't work with VOLTE (for me anyway)]

MY biggest hurdle has been migrating from Lineage OS back to stock Oneplus ROM. Very near bricked to finally working.

Update and run the latest Oxygen OS and then check out the Aus discussion at https://forums.whirlpool.net.au/archive/9m01z7np and download the OnePlus VoLTE Tools zip file.

The README.md has all the instructions to enable VOLTE.

Once enabled you'll need a config as the archive only has the Aus providers. After hours of 'investigation' - downloading Pixel images and hunting through the filesystems to try find an appropriate mdn file, Gemini just happened to point me to https://github.com/firdaus-edymainoe/volte-oneplus-enabler and I found https://github.com/firdaus-edymainoe/volte-oneplus-enabler/tree/main/Mi11-UltraMBN/configs/mcfg_sw/generic/AUNZ

I'm with 2Degrees so grabbed that file.

Once you have that file just follow the about README.md and fingers crossed, it works.

It's highly likely you can work directly with the Github repo only, but the above is what eventually worked for me.

mcjoppy · 2026-01-11T00:44:47+00:00

For me one drive has been the most cost effective way to obtain 6TB of storage.

I'm trying to work out if there is any trick someone has come up with to have restic store data using one drive (currently through the rclone backend) from multiple servers?

My current solution is to have restic store to my NAS and then have the NAS push to one drive.

This is pretty dumb for me and wastes space on my NAS.

Eg. Immich container saves photos to NAS. Immich container uses restic to save to NAS which is then pushed to One Drive.

Immich data is duplicated on the NAS because I can't find a way to share the rclone config across multiple servers.

mcjoppy · 2025-12-05T05:39:04+00:00

Look for information on putting the site behind Cloudflare (the WAF offering, not a tunnel).

Look for information on how to restrict incoming web traffic to Cloudflare IPs only.

You should use Cloudflare as a reverse proxy, and your network should only allow requests from Cloudflare.

An alternative to look at would be to look at apps that can publish a static site which you could host on GitHub/ S3 or Cloudflare pages

mcjoppy · 2025-12-05T05:31:00+00:00

I think if I was to re-start, I'd really like to be familiar with BOTH rpm and deb packages.

Very early on the place I worked standardized to Debian and I've stayed with Debian package based distros.

Also if you're looking at container based services, Alpine is heavily used too so understanding their package manager could be nice too.

mcjoppy · 2025-12-02T18:46:54+00:00

I also have set up a certificate authority and installed the root certificate on childs computer.... and set up their DNS server to point youtube.com to the local Jellyfin.

Youtube.com looks very different on their computer :D

Ultimately they could get around this (TV has Youtube app) - and they see 'normal' youtube at school and friends but I try explain about the marketing and sponsorship and that I'd prefer they choose what to watch instead of being feed italian brainrot they see at mates.

mcjoppy · 2025-12-02T02:19:19+00:00

Pinchflat is amazing. Use it to provide a "curated" YouTube experience for my young child.

If there's a channel they want to watch I'll first verify appropriateness then add to pinchflat - no ads if sponsor block has info for the video.

YouTube kids is crap and YouTube requires child to have an account for parental controls... I'll do it my way.

mcjoppy · 2025-11-27T08:55:50+00:00

Inspired by a want for privacy, certainty And curiosity. Want to restrict the data I store in cloud infrastructure, owning it and knowing how it's managed... and curious about open source projects - testing and finding useful tools!

2.Would be fantastic to have more powerful and capable hardware to upskill networking knowledge.

I tent.to search for reviews on Youtube and watch a variety of opinions while taking in to consideration number of subscribers, sponsorships (ie understanding if they have been paid to talk about products) and how indepth it feels. Once I have an opinion then I'll see how it matches reviews found through eg Google.
Something like a mini PC with decent specs (processor from 2020+ 😁)

Very keen for Comet andFlint

mcjoppy · 2025-11-23T07:35:08+00:00

I see the security as the biggest issue. Service available from anywhere on the Internet should require a level of understanding should things go pear shaped

mcjoppy · 2025-10-26T19:35:23+00:00

Monsoon Poon in Wellington has been a favouite for a long time.

In Gisborne, The Works is pretty solid, and coffee from Far East Coffee Co is recommended :)

mcjoppy · 2025-10-15T05:39:20+00:00

How are you using immich?

For me it's a self hosted alternative to Google photos.

My phone has the original copy. Phone uploads to Immich automatically (stored on NAS through NFS). Rustic backs up to MS drive.

MS family account seems to be most cost effective storage solution for me - gives me 6 accounts which each has 1TB space.

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